My boyfriend was fired...

@doroffee (4233)
Hungary
November 19, 2012 12:39pm CST
I feel really sorry for my boyfriend, because he was told today that his work is not going to be needed anymore. It's really devastating, as it didn't happen because he was a bad work force, but because in the office they, in principle, have completed every job assigned (he worked as an administrative worker, and they were digitalizing official documents). It was all out of a sudden. I hate it how, in my country, employers tell their employees in the last moment that they are getting rid of them... especially when the given worker is a hard-working reliable, responsible one, who always does the job with the best of his knowledge. They should have known that at least a week ago that is waning, and that it's not going to be enough. Why don't they tell, in advance? It seems as if only the employeed have duties in this country, and the employers can do anything. My boyfriend is really sad now. I'm doing everything to console him. I'm really sad, too, not because of the money, because I love him for who he is, but because it is just horrible to see how down he is feeling.
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@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
20 Nov 12
Technically he didnt get fired, he was laid off then. By law here they have to give you I believe 2 weeks unless they are firing you and they need 3 written warnings, then fire you on the spot. I hope he can find other work and soon, in the economy it is hard on everyone.
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@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
20 Nov 12
Thanks for correcting me - I'm not a native speaker, and I didn't really know the difference between those two words, in my country, we use the same word for both events :). That law is really useful, btw. Thanks for the kind wishes!
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@dfollin (12099)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Hi Ricki, I wish we had that law in the United States. If we are going to quit a job here we are supposed to give them two weeks notice,but if they are going to laid us off or fire us,they don't have to give us any notice.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
21 Nov 12
If you quit your suppose to give two weeks notice, as a courtsy. Some place even while firing them will give them notice, I know one lady we worked with got fired, and they gave her two weeks. But you know when you will be fired they have to have written warnings, then fire you.
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
You really need to show your support for your bf during these times. These things may not just affect him financially but also emotionally since losing his job may hit his ego big time. Maybe he could start looking for jobs online. If he handled data-entry jobs there are lots of position open in odesk and other outsourcing jobs. Now is the best time to show him how you love him and how you support him. Don't worry, this is a temporary situation. Your boyfriend will get another job soon. God bless both of you.
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@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
Yes, it really affected him. I could only talk to him on the phone today, as he was working all day today, but I heard from his voice that he's really devastated, even though he doesn't really wanna show it. He's a typical man in that sense. I'm really gonna show my support. I'm gonna be there for him, no matter what, and organise programs for him to get his mind off of this. He's actually started looking for jobs. I really hope he gets another job soon, because he deserves it.
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@dfollin (12099)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Hi doroffee,I am so sorry that your boyfriend lost his job.I realize that this makes you both very sad.I understand how you feel,my late husband and I went through the same thing a few times after the 9/11 incident happened.That is when the economy started to fall here in the United States,especially in this area.We lived about a half an hour from the Pentagan. Also here it always has been that employers will just release you with no notice!But,on all job applications you must sign an agreement that you will give two weeks notice if you are going to leave your position.There has been some times that I have quit jobs because I have found a better job or I am being treated badly and I will quit.And the boss will ask me when my last day is and I will reply,"Now".The boss would say back to me,"You have to give me some notice,you can't leave me high and dry like that." And I would say back,"Well would you of given me notice if you were gonna' fire me?That would be leaving my kids high and dry at the dinner table!" I hope he can find another job,I am needing work as soon as possible as well.
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@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
20 Nov 12
Haha, at least you always see the sunnier side of life and dare to tell your mind to your boss :). That's good. I do agree - I mean, if the employee is expected to tell the employer in advance that he/she's gonna leave, then the employer also should tell everyone in advance that he/she is gonna be fired. That's only fair. I don't understand why laws only back up employers. It's the everyman who should be helped, because nowadays we are the ones ALWAYS who are being taken advantage of. But the government only cares about putting their friends in higher positions even in multinational companies, and... well, it's really suspicious that they made the new law about that the employers do not have to give any reasons for firing someone, because it would be really degrading for them, if people found out exactly that most of those people are going to be fired because of their political views. Also, I understand companies help the government and the country to have a better economy, but a government's first and foremost task should be to protect the citizens, and they really fail at it most of the time.
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@dfollin (12099)
• United States
20 Nov 12
And President Obama has been trying to help the low and middle incomed people,but congress keeps pushing him back because they want to help their friends,the rich people.I am so glad that he was re-elected and that rich man will not be our president. I hope your boyfriend finds a new job.Keep your chins up and I am saying a prayer for you all as well as for my own job hunting.
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@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
it`s so hard to take if you get fired with your work.. for me what you can do for your boyfriend is to be there with him and tell him things which will help to ease what`s his feeling right now.. that`s the reality of life.. the sad fact of life.. but life must go on so he`ll get by.. just find another one...
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@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
20 Nov 12
I'm trying to do my best. Organising programs, bringing him chocolates, assuring him of the fact that he's gonna find another job and life will go on, and that I'm gonna be beside him, no matter what comes. Thanks for the sweet wishes!
@moneyham (201)
• India
19 Nov 12
I am so sad to hear about it. You can motivate him to get an another job. You can also help him to update his CV and to apply jobs. Tell him to take it as a challenge. Make sure to get the experience certificate from the employer which will be a worth when applying for new jobs. May Almighty bless you guys.
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
Thanks for the tip about the experience certificate. He's actually looking for jobs now, he isn't going to give up :). Thanks for the good wishes.
@coldnpale (555)
• Greece
19 Nov 12
I am from Greece, and the employers here have total control. The rights of the workers are close to none at all, and they can get fired really easily. It sucks your boyfriend got sacked like that, especially since he was good at his job. Maybe at least he can get a good reference for a future similar job. That would be the least they could do for him.
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@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
I really agree. At least they should help him to land a better or well, not necessarily better, but proper job, if they got rid of him as he was a good worker.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 12
as his girlfriend, you should motivate him that this isn`t end of life.. he can get a new job if he try to get new one..
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
I know that and he knows that. He doesn't think it's the end of his life... fortunately. He's just sad and disappointed in how the things at his ex-workplace go.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 12
i see.. of course he must be dissapointed you had done your duty as his girlfriend
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
19 Nov 12
a law like that exists here but in reality, I don't know how many companies practice it a lot of jobs are replaced by machines and when it comes to employment, that's how it is everywhere
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
It should be supervised... if not, why's a law there? But it doesn't come to me as a surprise, it's always the average honest person who suffers.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Nov 12
I am sorry that your boyfriend got fired! =( That is really terrible, especially this time of year. Even with notice though it is still really sad and hard whenever someone loses a job. I hope your boyfriend will find another job soon that he loves!
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
Thank you for the kind words ans wishes!
• Romania
19 Nov 12
At this kind of moments I think that you just can talk with he and do something funny. Make a romantic dinner or something like this. I'm convince that a romantic moment could revive his mental. He should see this like an opportunity not like a failure.
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
I'm actually planning to do all this. I'm going to accompany him to the archives to go family tree researching... he loved to do that... and now he has the time for it - well, we are trying to see the advantages of this. I'm also going to bring him little treats, cookies... and stay by his side.
@mariaperalta (19097)
• Mexico
19 Nov 12
The same thing happens here in Mexico. there are no laws that companies have to give a worker notice, There should be I feel.
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
I so agree with that. People live day by day, especially the ones who don't have a university degree (my boyfriend doesn't, just some quasi-college papers)... the work field is really unpredictable. In our case, it's not that bad, because we still live with our parents, but what about those who have kids on their own or who have to dpay for everything themselves... they should at least known in advance, so they could start searching for jobs.
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@mawee79 (404)
• Italy
27 Mar 13
What a sad thing. It's so hard working and find a good job nowadays. The post was written 5 months ago, so now I hope your boyfriend have found another one..
@kat_2x (105)
22 Nov 12
its sad.. and you know that he is really working hard.. the compny should tell them in advance right?Thats bad.. :(
@shaggin (23810)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Usually why they dont tell their workers that they will be getting fired is because they dont want them just walking out that day and quitting they want them to stay until they dont need them anymore then tell them they are done. It has got to be a big dissapointment to your boyfriend.