Whom will you prefer a housewife or a working lady as a life partner?

November 20, 2012 12:54pm CST
Before getting married or choosing a life partner it is an obvious question from the parents that what you prefer a housewife or a working woman as a life partner. But the question is very crucial if compared to the lifetime decision of a bachelor. I did also fumbled when I was asked about that. But I am happy with my working lady now, though it costs lots of compromising with some of my goals. However what will you choose in between them and if so why? Let us open off to guide each other. This can resolve many unsolved answers.
4 responses
frontvisions101
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
As much as possible, I don't want my wife working. I should be the only one working for the family. I'll let my wife take care of our kids and house. I think that's how it should be not because women are supposed to stay at home, but because women do housework more efficiently than men.
frontvisions101
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Clearly a misunderstanding here. All my ex-girlfriends depended on me financially that's why I assumed that working is hard, not just for women. If you read the first line of my post with this in mind, you'd clearly understand what I was trying to get across. Plus, I didn't say women are supposed to stay at home. Reading my post again will clear it out.
stary1
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
20 Nov 12
frontvisions101 IF your wife agrees, that is fine. Keep in mind many women have personal needs of accomplishment and validations outside the home. Often a pay check even a small one for part time work, is not only useful but a psychological boost of her 'worth' LOL and careful saying you will 'let' or 'allow' your wife do things since this is a partnership not a dictatiorship...most of all keep in mind "Happy wife, Happy life" Smart men know this..insecure men lord over their wifes...I hope I am not offending you or anyone reading this... but seriously many men need to be educated on how to best get along... The same is true about women..they need to understand and compromise with their husbands...both need to feel fulfilled and loved and respected... and for the record, I am not a feminist..in fact I think many feminists are over the top.
somupriti
@somupriti (353)
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20 Nov 12
Thanks a lot for your clear opinion. But one thing I can not agree with "woman are supposed to stay at home babies". Yes it is true that kids need them more for some reason than the father. But they are not suppose to be home stay.
stary1
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
20 Nov 12
somupriti I thnk it depends on a number of factors. There is no one right answer that will fulfill everyone's needs and desires. First you must both agree ..if the wife wants to stay home and focus on the family and homelife only, and the finances are such that they can afford it, then fine. However,many women find styaying home and raising kids non 'enough' for their own self worth and fulfillment. They need to have interests outside the family. I think the perfect combination is a little of both. Part time hobbies and jobs that pay plus adequate time in the home seems to work well for some.
somupriti
@somupriti (353)
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20 Nov 12
Thanks for the answer. It is nice to have a perfect balance inbetween.
stary1
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
20 Nov 12
somupriti Balance is great and most important is that both be satisfied with the arrangement...
Muelitz
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
20 Nov 12
I would prefer a housewife to be totally honest. The main reason is that she would be the best person to look after the kids. Having said that, I know that in reality, it can only happen if I am a very rich guy. Otherwise, she will have to look for a good paying job as well. I would take either kind as long as she is happy in what she does or maybe I should say i would try to support whatever she decides to do.
somupriti
@somupriti (353)
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20 Nov 12
We also need some shorts of flexibility in our life. Is not it? May be we have to be me-liabile at certain point of our life to have better adjustment.
Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Nov 12
I don't see anything wrong with either one, I think it is personal choice... It depends on the person. If someone wants a family someday a housewife might be the best choice. If the guy is happy with the career path and doesn't want a family then career woman would be the better choice. My cousin is dating a woman who only wants her career and no family. It is now causing a lot of problems with their relationship because he does want a family and he wants to settle down with her. It's most likely not going to last long unless one of them decides to compromise...
somupriti
@somupriti (353)
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20 Nov 12
Sorry dear, I could not be clear with your opinion. The basic is about selecting a life partner not a dating lover. I also could not understand about choosing a career woman not for settling a family! then for what? Romance and time pass! that is not the meaning of life partner!
Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Nov 12
I was saying it helps if your both on the same page and AGREE with the choice! Sorry if I confused you. Yes they are dating BUT he wants to marry her and will NOT because she ONLY wants to work and NOT have a family and stay home. She cares more about her CAREER!