Do you always just try to understand people?

@chiyosan (30206)
Philippines
November 21, 2012 12:27am CST
Are you always put in a situation where you are like always the one who should just understand people? I mean, why can't people just act appropriately and not require those who understands to always "understand" why they are like that! i mean i am just so tired of being taken for granted and that i always am being told to just understand them because i am the one who is matured enough to understand and not make a big deal out of anything.. so why do i have to just always give way and understand?! Have you encountered people who makes excuses of what they are so they act immaturely? how do we deal with those, who simply just do not want to compromise?
9 responses
• India
21 Nov 12
Hi friend, it is really had to understand other persons, we need more time and lot of interactions to understand about a person, it is really a great challenge to understand a person fully, since persons will change themselves based on the situation
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@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
some are just not worth it anymore. i always try to understand but then the person knowing people understood him even if he is not on the right side of things, he just won't change, and kept being stubborn as he is and does not want to compromise. its hard to be with friends who are like this because they just won't blend in with the rest... its hard that they do not want to understand but wants to be understood all the time!
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
No I can't understand all people, I choose those people I want to understand and I ignore those who has nothing to do with me. Living with the in laws seems puts me in a situation where I have to understand them all co's if not it would only makes life harder for me. So instead of resisting them I tried to befriended them. This world is packed with immature people my dear, so I suggest that you need to stand your ground sometimes that to make them know you are thinking good and if things doesn't change just ignore them. happy mylotting and have a good day!
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
oh yeah... there are quite a lot of immature people, alright. i do agree with yo on that and we canot just always try to understand them when they themselves are not open to understanding others.
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@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Ahh! Just a few minutes ago there was this lady who commented on my facebook status about how I hate it giving medicine syrup to my one year old baby co's she doesn't like it.. so every time we gave her the doze it's like wrestling with a one year old. She's really strong, it's seems hubby's and mine strength are not enough. Well, the comment was like... I need not to worry to much co's my case is nothing compare to a friends baby who's in ICU right now. I understand her point but... no one really knows what's a mom is going through seeing her kid not in a good condition. She made me cry for anger. huh! ...just an example of immature people, she should have shut her mouth!
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
I'd have to say my bf is like that. He always tells me to understand him because he is like this and like that and because he has problems and all that. But because I love him, I just try to lower my pride and pray to God that my patience will be more longer and stronger. Because if not, I don't think I will be able to understand him more.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
thanks gaiza for taking time to respond to the discussion. =) its wonderful that you are able to lower that pride and have a longer patience for your boyfriend so you can understand him more. its a great virtue that we are able to do more and be not ourselves more for the people we love.
@Shavkat (65270)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
That's my hobby to understand other people. Sometimes I felt so tired of doing such. But all I need is to endure.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
you probably have such a wonderful heart that you always understand and have a lot of patience to go with that. =) thank you for sharing this with us.
• India
28 Nov 12
no other way left other than ignoring them, b'coz matured people do that only. we can't convince everyone, we can only discuss or argue with each other when both are willing, if one gets aggressive then u need to stop the conversation. Being mature itself is ignoring those immature people.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
28 Nov 12
I think for being an older sister and everything the younger sibling did was always my fault and I'd pay terribly for it I had to try to forgive him and my mom all the time so I exercised trying to understand, now I almost understand people naturally but when some reasons are too unresonable or unfair I let just go, it's not worth my patience.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
There are people who is insensitive always want to make them understand. Don't care to those people who cared for them. I have nothing to do with them I always thought it is hard to change them the way they are but I can changed my self on how I will treat them.
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
21 Nov 12
Hi! I do not mind 'understanding' people. However, it is just not possible in one meeting, it takes time to understand others. Also, people are not tailor made for us, many a times we need to make adjustment with them so that things could work out smoothly.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 12
I have been in your position. It is actually not nice at all being the one who always try to understand people but eventually none try to understand us. How to face people that way? I have no idea beside make distance from that kind of person.