Do you agree to it?

@youless (87144)
Guangzhou, China
November 21, 2012 9:33pm CST
It seems that the daughters will be closer with their fathers and sons are closer with their moms. Is it that true? I think so. My husband has a colleague, and we often see his daughter to be with him many times. As to me, my son and I often stay together indoors and outdoors. Especially last night when my husband and I "fought" with each other as a kind of play, my son went to our room and asked me whether I needed help from himMy son is just so sweet to me
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@gunsing (142)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 12
there's a theory like this "Father is the first boyfriend to his daughter; and mother is the first girlfriend to her son" that's why whether it's realized or not; girls always looking for "father figures" as boyfriend and boys up to "mother figures" don't you think so?
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@babyanna (1217)
• China
22 Nov 12
That is very true. Unless the parents aren't role models and hurt the kids deeply, then the kids grow up and sometimes become women or men haters.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Nov 12
Perhaps you are right.
@klystron635 (1520)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
I was thinking of my situation and you have a point. My mother is closer to my brother and I think I am much closer to my father. I don't really know what is the logic or psychology behind this.
@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Nov 12
Perhaps the different genders will be much more attractive to each other.
22 Nov 12
Maybe some daughter are insecure on the way their mother treated them because they are both female. They rely on their father so much because, they know that they are secured (in such a way like a masculine figure) compared to their mother. I'll be having a baby soon and its a baby girl. I don't know this feeling but, I want to have a baby girl as my eldest the reason for this is because, we are all boys in the family that is why I'm wishing to have a first girl as a member in our family.
@yugocean (4593)
• India
22 Nov 12
Very much yes, dady's girl and mama's boy are the words made for the similar reason, girls are much near to their fathers and boys are nearer to their mothers. your son had a sweet incident for you, just your hubby missed a daughter.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
Perhaps it is a saying, too.
@litvillegas (1275)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
wow,,very sweet. You are really blessed to have a wonderful son like him. Well, I guess I agree with that. In my case I'm close to my mom and my younger brother is close to my dad..
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Dec 12
My husband may be jealous to it since my son is closer with me
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@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
True! How I wish the Lord will hear my prayer and grant me it the soonest possible! :)
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@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
25 Nov 12
This was the situation with my parents. I was much closer to my father than my brother was. He was much closer to my mother than I. Come to think of it, most of my friends have the same kind of relationships. My friend has a 42 year old son that lives at home and he is a big help to her and much closer than he is to his dad.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Nov 12
It seems to be a common situation.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 12
Very nice explanation. Indeed, seems every family do have this type of weird relationship running in their family. Same goes to my family here.
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 12
Youless, i do discovered that my son seems more close to me than to my hubby. Whenever i asked him help me to take something, he would surely helping me out. But, when my hubby asking him, sometimes he would help and sometimes he would said excuses. Sometimes, i do feel weird when seeing most sons are attached more to their mother than to their father. And like you said, daughters are usually seen more attached to their father. Just something which seems confusing and hard to explain...
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Nov 12
Perhaps dads pretend to be serious to sons whereas moms tend to adore them.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 12
Maybe that's another confusing fact about this type of relationship. Nowadays, i asked my hubby to learn to communicate more with my son. And i had seen some improvement in their relationship.
@wishjui (271)
• India
23 Nov 12
Hi Youless! I am only blessed with a son so I can say that my son is very much attached to me.Same time I find my son copying my husband that is his Dadd lot! He is his role model.Sometimes I get confused that who is his favorite.Well i don't mind him to be neutral rather I find it sweet.I have heard people saying that sons are very much attached with their moms and daughter are to their fathers.I agree that too because I was very much attached to my father. I think I have to wait few more years to understand this!Thanks!
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
I think your son likes you much more
@wishjui (271)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thanx!
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@babyanna (1217)
• China
22 Nov 12
I think there are psychological proofs behind this. The Oedipus complex and Electra complex. In my own case, I'm a lot closer to my dad,too. And he plays a key role in the characteristics I look for in my boyfriend. It is soooooo sweet for your son to do that for you. He's awesome~
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Nov 12
I think sometimes my husband envies that my son likes me much more
@babyanna (1217)
• China
23 Nov 12
I think my mom is jealous sometimes,too. While I was younger, other kids would sing the song "Mom is The Only Best in the World",I didn't. I always sang "Dad is The Only Best in the World". Guilty. My relatives still make fun of me for that.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 12
I believe so. This is saying through life experience. I have a friend and I know them personally well as I used to stay with the family every month I travel during the cause of my work for a week. His son is very close to the mother. The daughter is very attached to the father. This is on example. Another friend told me that his friend's children: the son is very close to his mother whereas the daughter is close to the father. My own son is very close to his mother.
@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Dec 12
It is a common situation.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
My daughter cannot live without me at this point in time of her life. She needed me and wants me to be with her even as she sleeps. But I could see too that she is a daddy's girl. I could see how her eyes would lit up whenever her daddy arrives from work. She can't help but dance and laugh louder when daddy is finally home. I don't get jealous or something for such attitude of my baby girl co's my friend has told that my baby would think that mommy is her rival with daddy's love and attention.. it's because she's a girl. A son would feel the same towards his daddy the same felling the girl's having towards her mom just because a girl is closer to dads and son is closer to moms. I can't wait to have a son too :)
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Dec 12
A son and a daughter will be perfect for a family
@cessybear (223)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Yes I think so. But it really usually depend on how the kids are raised. In our known culture, sons are for mothers, and daughters are for dads. The law even goes with that idea. Because of that thinking, parents tend to maybe spend a lot of time for children that they were supposed to be close to. It's kind of planted in our minds, so we do it and we end up having the result we have in our mind.
@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Nov 12
I checked your profile but I don't know where you come from.
@bellis716 (4807)
• United States
23 Nov 12
That does not always hold true. Both my brothers and I were closer to our mother than our father. It's a matter of personality.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
Perhaps your mom is nicer
• India
22 Nov 12
Yes i agree with u.......my bro is very close to my mom n myself closer to my dad.. if we play any games at home lik caram , batmitton etc..,then my dad n me one team n my mom n bro one team...we ll be feel free,happy wen we play together:):):)
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
So it will be a fair game
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
i am a single father, my girl grew up with me, i am older than her by 19 years, we just look like friends whenever we go out, some may even think we were bf/gf. she sleeps in my room even in her college days, she is married now and daily she sends me "i love you" messages in my cell phone.... she calls me "popsie"... and i don't know why...until now i forgot to ask...if i will remember tomorrow i will ask her why she calls me that....hehehehe.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
You have a very sweet daughter
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Maybe in most families it does happen. I have 3 kids- 1 daughter and 2 sons and my daughter and youngest son are very close to me. My youngest son who is 14 years old still sleeps with me- most of the time. I guess it depends on how the parents treat their kids.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
Of course the children will be closer to the parent who treats them the best
• India
22 Nov 12
Hi friend, i too heard about this quote and saw a lot of lively example, both of my sons are very much attached with their mothers, they also play with me and give importance to me, but have more affection and attachment with my mother. I don't have any daughter
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
If you had a daughter, you would adore her so much
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
It's a phenomenon, huh. Although I'm not really close with my mom. I'm closer with my dad. I guess it's because my mom was the stricter one when I was little. My dad was the cooler one.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 12
Usually the father behaves as a serious role whereas mother acts as a kind role.
@Mintlin (326)
• China
22 Nov 12
in my family,yes,this is true,i'm closer with my father while my brother closer with my mother. but when it comes to my husband's family,it's different. my husand seldom communicate with his mother,he prefers to discuss all things with my father in law.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Nov 12
Of course the exceptions are available.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
22 Nov 12
I have 4 daughters and 1 son and they all are very close to me. They can't stand their father so I can't say if it comes to that. They also do not want contact with him and have no respect for his way of living/the choices he made and the way he behaved. I don't think that will ever change. I myself had no contact with my mother, I think this bond was never there already as a baby, she did not want me/us kids (esp. for the eldest my sister). So I did feel closer to my dad, although he was never there either and if beating us up as well. I know as I was older I noticed what kind of father/man he really was. I can't approve his behaviour either so he fall a long long way down from the "pedestal" I put him on as a kid. My friend has 10 children, boys and girls. Except for the youngest child (a boy) nobody can stand the father either. Must say the father is only friendly to his youngest son and this boy has a complete different character (if you can speak of a character at all). I also heard that boys are very sweet to their mom. This is the case with my son, but I have to admit he is sweet to his sisters as well and everyone around him (always giving compliments which includes the mothers and grannies of class mates as well). If I look back I think my father, but also my uncles did invest a different kind of attention into their daughter. They liked them more because they thought the daughters are adoring them way more and for a longer time as a boy would do. But I guess this all has to do with culture or.. In my family all men liked to have a daughter way more as a son. One son is enough. I guess because of that reason.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Nov 12
Obviously you are a good mom.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Maybe that is true to some families. Coz when I was growing up, my dad wasn't always at home and even if he is, he has this persona of being strict and so I am afraid of him. But of course, when I grew up I realized that behind that mask is a sweet and soft heart. He just looks tough but he is sensitive. I think I am mostly like him.
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@youless (87144)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Nov 12
Many dads are similar and they behave to strict roles.