for a mom

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
November 21, 2012 11:39pm CST
My mom is here in town right now, with my dad.. since she arrived i have been telling her to just stay here rather than go back to the province and she is not even happy there! But she just wont leave my dad. but i cannot blame her because i know she loves my dad and since my dad wants to stay in the province she goes there.. so for the mean time i have been making things happy for her, i recently gave her some bags, shoes..took her shopping and been buying food she loves.. sometimes how you wish you could make it different for the person you love huh? but sometimes it is still up to them to make it all happen..
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
All my parents' married life, they have been apart for sometime. I remember my husband's aunt tell me that my dad said during their 25th Wedding Anniversary,that more than half of their married life, they are not together.( I wasn't able to come to that even coz I was sick with mumps! Would you believe that, of all days?!) By the start of their marriage, my Dad was always in Japan to finish his Masters Degree and Doctorate Degree. Then when he went back home, he was assigned with a very high position in Region 7 as a head of a Government Office. In between those years, he would go to different countries to attend symposioum and conferences. Then when I was about to go to College, he again went abroad to work for the next 8 years. They are both retired now, athough my mom is still young to retire. She decided to retire as soon as my dad retired coz they feel they have lost a lot of time to be together.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Oh wow yours have a different reason and i believe they are happy together now.. how i wish theirs was that easy mine is pretty much complicated.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Your mum loves your dad so much that even she is not happy staying in the province she's still with your dad. I am sure she is happy being with your dad. My mum don't want to stay in town because she used to live in the province. She don't like traffic and pollution and noise. So even if we really wanted them to stay with us still it's up to them to decide. If they are happy staying in the province then we are happy too even though we wish that they are more closer to us.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
I guess you are right, she do love my dad that she is willing to sacrifice what she feels... and i somehow do not like it but then what can i do?
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
22 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your issues and i know how much u love your mom as it is being reflected from your discussion. I know she has to give her husband more priority but then u cannot also help either. I think u should forget every thing and concentrate at present to make her trip to your place memorable and special and try to give her happiness in all possible ways so that she can take away many memories with her when she returns back. What say?
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
I get emotional when i think of it but you are right, i am doing this so when she goes back she will be bringing memories for her to come back again.
• India
22 Nov 12
Hi JAzel, I can undesrstand your situation and what you are trying to say. But in my opinion, what you think to be good for her need not be a real good for her isn't it? You might think that getting her shoes and the food she loves would make her feel good and make her be with you. But the real case might not be so since she would prefer being with her husband and doing good for him rather than being with you and enjoying all the stuffs you provide her. Not everyone would wish for things to happen for themselves, since it does not give them the real happiness.
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@prashu228 (25811)
• India
22 Nov 12
yes some couples like to spend time and live together, that is their priority. Let her enjoy her life with her husband and as you are young you can still go and visit her when ever you want.
• India
22 Nov 12
Hi friend, good to hear that your mum is with you now and you provide some gift items to her, i am sure she will be very happy with it. Hope you are enjoying a lot with your mum, we will forget about other things while spending our time with our mum
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@alberello (4755)
• Italy
22 Nov 12
Well, from what I have been able to understand in your discussion, it seems clear that you mother and father want to be together because they love and have a good living. Maybe your mother would like to spend some time with you, but I think it is right for their lives, they do as they wish. All in all, however, there are also opportunities through which you can always meet together.
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@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
22 Nov 12
yes, it's hard to have two worlds you can not be in it at the same time. Good pamper her instead now that she's or they are there with you. It is so sweet of you to think about your mom. and yes it it still up to the person where she/he wants and be happier more. just keep in touch with them if they return to province again.
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@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
I came from a province too and just like you my mom seldom travel here in the city and just like your mom, my mom wont leave the place where she spend her childhood - our ancestral house. An old house but a very fine house. Well, there is nothing in this world that makes us happy than knowing our family is happy and healthy, specially to our dear parents. All we ever wanted is to give them happiness after all the hardship that they have done while they raise their children. And if our parents are truly happy and smiles on everything we do for them, then i can say its the ultimate satisfaction.
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@prashu228 (25811)
• India
22 Nov 12
I agree. you love your mom so much she is so lucky. I know some couples love each other a lot and they like to live in one place. we should respect that. Meanwhile you are making your mom happy with all the things she love that's really wonderful.Yes we will do anything for our loved ones.
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• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Wow! that is so nice. How i wish i still have my mother here with me but unfortunately she will never ever come back. I never did that to my mother its one of the regrets in life i have. If u still have your mother or parents never fail to tell them ILOVEYOU AND THANK YOU! Through those words im sure its the happiest day of their life.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
i thought of that too, i do not want to have regrets in my life that is why i am doing all of these - making memories while she is still alive.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
23 Nov 12
Hi jazel, I can feel the emotions in your post...but just know you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.. Just keep loving your mom and maybe one day she will under- stand what you are trying to do for her.. Blessing!!!!!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
23 Nov 12
You know, I try to do whatever I can for my mother because of the fact that she is my mom and she is the only living parent that I have since my father passed away when I was fourteen years old. I know that there are some things that she is not happy about in her life, but there isn't really any way that I can change that, I can't bring my dad back and I can't take away the mistakes that she made after my dad passed away. However, I do try to help her out where ever and whenever I can. You see, I have to say that I don't just think of my mother as my mom, I also think of her as one of my best friends.
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Your mom really loves your Dad,,,and if it makes her happy then support her..
• India
22 Nov 12
hi , i love my mom so much ...bec my dad passed away... n i got married,n my bro workin in delhi...so she dnt hav boh of us beside her..she feels alone even wen my grandmas there...so i used to take her movies,hotels,beach etc..,with my husband ,aunt n uncle....to make her happy always n feels to be with us... i love my mom always:)
@shaggin (36845)
• United States
22 Nov 12
Thats really nice of you to take your mother shopping and do fun things with her and buy her the food she loves to try to make her happy while she is there with you since when she goes back to where she lives with your father she wont be happy.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
You really love your mom so much. Most children do that to their moms. Keep it up.