Friends list a mile long!!

@allknowing (78676)
India
November 22, 2012 9:00pm CST
Friends list a mile long bad sadly just an inch deep? What is it with those who go on adding friends to their list specially on Face Book but hardly have any interactions with them. What are the benefits of having such a long list. Does it make one any popular if they just lie dormant there? I am confused!
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@sishy7 (27541)
• Australia
23 Nov 12
I can't really say anything about friends list on Facebook as I don't have an account there. But here, I like to keep my friends list under control. Periodically, I go over it and delete those who only have few activities and do not seem to even log in here for few months at length.
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
There are those who brag about the long list of friends they have even though they hardly interact with each other!
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@sishy7 (27541)
• Australia
23 Nov 12
Yeah, the ones who measure 'popularity' by the number of friends on their lists... That's more like a Facebook 'attitude' though, isn't it? I don't really see that here. I mean, I don't think I see any one here brags about being popular because he/she has pages of friends on their lists. More importantly, here we interact with those not on our friends list all the time...
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
Here we are not supposed to brag about ourselves! That's the beauty of myLot - thanks to the 'sophisticated' guidelines!
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@marguicha (112450)
• Chile
23 Nov 12
I agree with you, allknowing. I have maybe 20 people in my facebook and that includes part of my immediate family. I really don`t go there unless I`m interested in a picture posted by them. I prefer the phone and better still, a tea or diner together.
@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
It is time we all went back to that one to one relationship which is slowly disappearing. I am determined to go back there. I am also determined to pay visits as far as possible rather than just call up. I have not seen so many people for years now - even those who are in the vicinity!
@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
Vow! I simply love such outings. I am close to my classmates and I started collecting them and our first meeting was hilarious as we had not seen each other for ages. Now this trend has continued and many of us meet at regular intervals. The problem is with my family. They are all glued to their nucleus set up and only meet at get togethers.
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 12
everyhead will have some differences of mind. For example: what if you said that "can anyone give me an explanation about love?" i guess, their answers will different in each other. you will never know who is the people that can give you the best answer.
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
That answer can come from any one not necessarily from those in the friends list. I have so many here who are not on my friends list but I interact with them regularly.
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• Indonesia
23 Nov 12
in facebook, you can change your privacy setting to 'friend'. So they cant see your post even if they are not your friend
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
I have not come across anyone so far on FB asking questions!!I am on FB and am fully aware of the privacy settings there. Whatever it is participation there is very little.
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@JenInTN (27549)
• United States
24 Nov 12
I don't what the thing is with the long friend list on facebook. Your right..out of all the people they have on there, there are only a few they actually communicate with anyway. I think that it actually does make people feel more popular to have it. I am not one that even visits facebook very often. Usually when I get a message or something I will go on for a bit.
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
I used to be quite active there but now I notice every one's enthusiasm is waning t. And this fad for having a long list of friends is very funny. If all those friends post on the wall imagine having to go through all those posts. One would need the whole day for it!
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
23 Nov 12
I see kids here in my cafe with 1500 facebook friends. Im sure they dont know that many. So why do they have them? Makes no sence to me.
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
And when their page clutters with posts I wonder if they are able to handle it. If they hide the posts then what is the point in having so many friends. I am as much dismayed as you are!
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 12
Some people collect friends like trophies, it's away of telling others they are so popular and wanted by x amount of friends, it becomes a contest who can get the most. I have only a few friends on Facebook, I am very particular on who I add as a friend, a friend and her family I actually MET at college and a friend from Mylot who interacts with me, they are 'real' friends, not virtual reality friends who just add me to increase their popularity. I can't honestly see the real benefits about having such a list either, but then I am a private person and I don't spend my life on Facebook like some seem to.
@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
If people see 'wolfie' on their friends list perhaps they will raise their collar!!. I would not mind having Queen Elizabeth on my list!. Atleast I could justify that I am having a celebrity on my list but certainly not strangers as is the case with those who boast of a thousand or more friends!
• Lenox, Georgia
23 Nov 12
I think for some it is a popularity contest or something. I don't have too many friends on facebook. I really only have people that I talk to often or family that I added because they wanted me to (can't upset the family, lol). I don't go on facebook a lot though so I don't really care how long or short my friends list is there to be honest...
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
That is the way to go, have friends who you would be interested in interacting with. And even those I noticed are indifferent sometimes. I have lost interest in FB. I have not deleted my account and go there to see if there is anything worthwhile to watch!
@TMac94 (16)
• United States
23 Nov 12
First thing, Facebook is a waste of time. All you're thinking about is getting on, checking people's walls, adding people you don't know, updating your status and that's it. We don't even get paid for getting on Facebook so why get on? Second thing, you don't need alot of friends in your circle. If you want to put your life at risk talking to strangers, go ahead. It's not my life that's in danger, it's yours. Third thing, who cares how many friends you have. I think it's more of how may people you know, the more popular you become. Alot of people recognize you more if you have 5,000 friends in your Facebook list. Once you add them as a friend, half the time you're not going to talk to them. So why worry about who's your friend or not. The world still rotates without them. Fourth thing, get a life. Who wants to spend an hour adding people you don't know. You can do more productive things than sitting behind a computer all day.
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
I was forced into joining FB by a couple of my friends. I finally gave in but after getting connected with long lost friends and family I find it a boring place to be as those that I discovered hardly interact and so is the case with all those 'friends' who are on my list actually known to me. After a while everything becomes stale and there is no point in garnering 'friends' who just lie dormant.
@chrystalia (1209)
• Tucson, Arizona
23 Nov 12
I can't figure that out either! when I put someone on my friends list, it's because I want to keep up with what they are doing, and here on Mylot, what they are discussing.. if I didn't have an interest in them, I wouldn't bother. I guess maybe it just makes people feel more popular or something to have a zillion friends.
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
I have a nephew who I look up to and once in a while have a chat with him. He lives in Denver. He gave me that phrase - mile long but one inch deep! It is so true about these so called friends. Even those that we would want to interact with play truant sometimes!
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@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 12
I do have a Facebook but I am not active at all. However, I knows what is going on because whatever my friends' activities like their comments, upload new photos, their tweet etc, the notification will appear in my inbox email. That is why I hated it because my incoming mails becoming like spam Friend list are not much in mine bacause I won't accept friends request unless I really know them. Not friends's friend or mutual or hi hi friend.
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@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
I too have few friends and many among them do not comment on any posts I make. I have stopped posting there and may be soon I will deactivate my account. I had done that once but friends wanted me back. I fully agree with you the friends' posts clutter our page. I use the hide option for most of them.
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@Iriene88 (5349)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 12
What you said do make sense. We have pages and pages of friends in Facebook, myLot etc. Only a handful that we really interact in a daily basis. However, it is good to have friends ready because we can spread any messages fast and this will really help in time of need and necessity. Especially when they need their friends' support to vote on certain activities or contest. I noticed that before on my Facebook where friends request us to vote for so and so.
@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
Unless one interacts how is it possible to spread messages? That is what I have been saying. They are just dormant and hardly visible.
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 12
Hi All, it had been a long time i am inactive in my Facebook anymore. Because i got many spammed emails from my friends. Everyone seems want to promote their business to me. When i was still very active, almost everyday i am receiving friend request. Even i had received friend request from a few totally strangers. I didn't accept them and i deleted them off.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 12
Yes, indeed very true. That's why, i saw in the profile of those who have online stores, always have lots of friends. Their friends list are always a few pages.
@allknowing (78676)
• India
29 Nov 12
What I dislike most is when 'friends' approach me to 'like' something!
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 12
That kind of problems i ever encountered before and it is really frustrating me a lot. That's why i am not interested to be active in Facebook anymore.
@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
23 Nov 12
Are we playing semantics with the word "friend?" The hosts of the sites have chosen the word "friend" when even casual acqaintance would be more appropriate...so I go along with the concept! But, I do have rather a long-list...and NO, I do not regret it, as from time to time, as their life evolves, they become active for a while...and it is "very nice" to hear from them...and if I had removed them...I would miss that modicum of communication...I DO NOT remove those souls, that I have met, in my walk thru life...and always gleeful when our paths should cross again, and feel the same way here, in myLot!
@allknowing (78676)
• India
23 Nov 12
I prefer a warm friendship than just crossing paths. I prefer a few intense friends to a list of a thousand - a mile long but just an inch deep! The friends here could have a different meaning in that we do not even know their real names and other personal details and when we are ready to exchange such information then they slowly shift from that 'mile long' to a 'mile deep' friendship.
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• Canada
23 Nov 12
I hear you very loud...and very clear...but I guess that the only correlation that I can make (picture that I can paint) is that in my Garden of Life, I have my ABSOLUTE favourite flowers, But it is also those of lesser favour that embellishes the favourites...and make them the stand-out! Reverting to the old saying "variety is the spice of life!" There are those, in life, I hold very close..and those that add an additional spice!
@allknowing (78676)
• India
24 Nov 12
Your mile long list surely must include those that deserve a nod occasionally. Fine there but not a list that contains even strangers as is what one sees on FB.