Don't damage the character of others

@roshigo58 (4871)
Pune, India
November 22, 2012 10:02pm CST
We come across many people who are jealous of us in the office or in the society. I have taken voluntary retirement. But when I was doing a job there were some people who are jealous of me. They tried to spoil my image in the office. But they didn't get success. Some people like to gossip and they don't care about others feelings. They become happy by making others sad. But they should remember that when we damage the character of others we damage the character of our own. do you have any experience of jealous people?
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@yugocean (8465)
• India
23 Nov 12
jealous people are damaging other's character but their character is affected similarly. This is a true incident happened with me, when a bad mouth unsuccessfully tried to become my friend, he always made bad comments about others on their back but later I found he was saying bad about me to others as well. These people cannot be stopped, but we can skip from their company and be good with others.
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@allknowing (66608)
• India
23 Nov 12
If people are jealous of you that means you are something to 'write home about'. You should in fact be happy that you are being noticed. All what you need to do is to take care that this jealousy does not harm you in any way!
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, you are right. When people are jealous it means they think that we are better than them. But we should be careful about these jealous people. Thank you for the response.
• Bangladesh
24 Nov 12
Looks like jealousy is a permanent problem of our society. Specialy and mostly the people around me does harm to us the most. Now we are tired of it as because we cant resist it. But we should not keep it alive as because it keeps on harming our image as well as our careers. We should find a solution of it rather than wrestling with who are jealous at us. So far as I can assume jealousy from others originates from our arrogance, not from the arrogance of others. If today I rear up arrogance then it will attack me as boomerang in someday. So we must address the people around us with hi bro, hi sis etc and exchange greetings. Actually we all are here to be together and to live with utmost fraternity. Its me who is responsible to look back into me, detect the error where it occured and mend it. Stay fine.
@allknowing (66608)
• India
24 Nov 12
The levels of jealousy depend on many factors and different levels therefore need to be handled differently. Most often huge disparities in living standards are the main cause of jealousy.
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
I don't know if they are jealous but they always want to pull you down. They don't want to see you successful. You're right. When they are destroying other people's name, character or integrity, they are also destroying theirs. They don't know that they are shaming themselves more. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
26 Nov 12
Hi, Jealous people always try to put others down. By doing this they feel that they are going up. But it is their misunderstanding. They are pulling themselves down. Thank you for the response.
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• Philippines
26 Nov 12
Yes, they're pulling themselves deeper than they thought. They are so greedy. They want everything in life. I hope it would be better if they'll do good things and that will surely put them at the top. It's my pleasure to respond and comment here. Happy mylotting again.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
There are some people who don't know that they hurt the feelings of others by saying not so good things. :( Jealousy, pride are one of the reasons and according to the bible, it is one of the deadly sins of the world. If you are from the Philippines, you could sue them. I think the case is called malicious mischief or oral defamation. That would be too costly but maybe you can teach them a lesson if you can file them a case. I have red a quote somewhere saying that let us not ask to lighter our problems but let's pray for us be a better person. I just want to share this, I am sorry if its not much related to your topic, but I believe you can use it
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, Let us not ask to lighter our problems but let's pray for us be a better person. It is very nice thought. I think we should try to become a better person without complaining anything or anyone. We should try to be honest in our life. God is alwyas with the honest people. thank you for the response.
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Thanks for liking it. I always remember and write quotes and phrases that I have heard or red to keep me inspired. I share it when I can too. :) That is why I always bring a notepad and pen with me anywhere so that I can write it. See you around here.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
You must be proud of it! If other people are jealous of you, then that means you are on top of them. I agree that once you ruin others reputation your just also doing the same thing to yourself. They just try to pull you down but the truth is they are pulling dwon their own selves.Don't bother about it, instead stand tall and be proud.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. we should not bother about such people. They always try to pull us down. But we should have trust on ourselves and don't let them succeed in their plans. We should be careful while dealing with such people. Thank you for the response.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Right make them realize that they step on the wrong person. If you let your self affect with that things, they will just keep on doing it. Those person doesn't worth your time.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 12
Yes, office politics and gossip is very bad for any organization and society. They create negative energy in the office and this is no good for the company to grow. I hate office gossip, I normally will just walk away if anyone start gossiping. I prefer working in a company where no gossip, but focus on goals of the organisation, and have great team work!
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, you are right.Office politics or jealousy in the society is very bad and create negative energy. It has bad effect on mental health and work efficiency. Thank you for the response.
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
gossip is really not good in our life you will get enemy
@Paper_Doll (2375)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
I have experienced the same many times. I do not know why but I am always the center of attention of this kind of people even when I was still in College. I remember that two students blocked my way to our classroom one time. I can't think of any reason except jealousy why they did that to me. I tried to have a low profile because I think it was one of the reasons why people noticed me easily. When I was already working, it is the same. Some girls are too insecure because I was so young back then. But later on, it is not only girls who behave that way, men as well. I think that it is office politics. They see you as a threat to their high aimed promotion. The other reason is I don't mingle with them that much. They may be thinking I am cooking something behind their backs but seriously I do not have any plans of aiming for any promotion.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. Jealous people do something wrong with us because they feel that they are insecure. I also feel sad and can't understand why they are jealous about me? Thank you for the response.
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
There could be many reasons why they are jealous of us that but definitely, one of those reasons is we have something that they don't have.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
There are so many jealous people around us. I don't know why they are like that. You do a good thing, and they start looking at the bad side of it. Hello! Can't they do any better? Usually people like this are losers. The best thing they do is destroy others.
@prashu228 (25808)
• India
24 Nov 12
They can do better if they want, but instead they use their energy in gossiping about others and being jealous.That's how they pass their time. They can really do well if they consult the people who are good at work.
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Yes, I encounter jealous people everyday. What is bad about it is when one does something bad already and trying to bully you already. I hope these people will get what is due with them. Absolutely, they are insecure people trying to destroy someone whom they are jealous of. Envy is in their mind. However, they won't get what they want because "one cannot put a good man down." Thanks for this. God Bless
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, you are right. One can not put a good man down. These jealous people are not contented with whatever they have. So they try to damage others life. But they can't get satisfaction in any way. they always remain unsatisfied. Thank you for the response.
23 Nov 12
well you know that people are jealous on you because something you possess better than them, so what I am suggesting you is find the skill or talent that you have, on which other people are jealous and improve it more and more, so that you will get success in your life...
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. We should try to improve our skill and talent more and more and we should show that jealous people that we are better than them. But sometimes these jealous people are very dangerous. We should be very careful while dealing with them. Thank you for the response.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
23 Nov 12
I had cross path with people like that but I just ignore them those people have no place in my life! I know who I Am and no one can bring me down.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, you are right. Ignoring such people is the best thing. We should have trust on ourselves. Thank you for the response.
@Manasha (2308)
• Pondicherry, India
23 Nov 12
Yes, you are correct and it would be fine if we get into things in a fine way . So, ever ever spoil others' image at any cost.You will be the loser in your life.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, You are right. The people who spoil the image of others are the losers in their life. Thank you for the response.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 12
I am lucky to work in the company where there is less company politics and gossips. Another reason for it is I only reported back to my office every end of the month. So less time spend there, less problems. I heard of stories where gossip can really damage a person's career prospect. Many people resigned due to this! It is definitely not healthy.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, I am also a victim of office politics. My boss is jealous of me. He was young and new in the office and I had salary more than him. I had more knowledge than him. So he made my transfer to Mumbai. Which was not possible for me. My wife is suffering from muscular disease and she can not live alone. For whole day she can stay with the company of her students but at night no one is there to take care of her. So I resigned from my job. Before I was working in my home city. Thank you for the response.
@Shavkat (63449)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
It is a great thing to feel awesome than being a bitter person. I don't mind what makes people think about it. The moment of appreciating yourself means an optimistic way of living. Don't mind the people who wish to pull you down. It is a sign of insecurity.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, I also try to neglect these people. I feel pity for them. But sometimes I have sad feeling why people are jealous. Thank you for the response.
• United States
23 Nov 12
Yes I have experience with them too! But I am not angry or mad about it. Actually they showed me who I don't wonne become! I just feel sad for them cause jealousy won't bring them any faster to theire goal in life!
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
23 Nov 12
Hi, I also don't become angry about them. I feel pity for them. and I think that there must be something I have better than them and so they are jealous. Thank you for the response.
@Deepizzaguy (13820)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
2 Feb 16
Famous old saying is "Be happy with what you have." I try to control my jealously over sports stars that get their egos massaged on ESPN. These sports stars worked very hard to be successful in their profession.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Nov 12
I don't honestly believe that there is a person among us that has never had any kind of experience in our lives with people that are jealous. I think that no matter where we are in our lives, there are people that are jealous of us for whatever reason. For me, it is typically that people are jealous of the fact that I've been in a pretty good relationship for the last twelve years of my life. However, there are people that will be jealous of something as simple as what kind of car that we drive or where we live. I consider it to be pathetic.
@prashu228 (25808)
• India
24 Nov 12
hi, I agree we come across such people at the work place and also in the society. The people at the work place who are not so much hard working always try to pull the legs of others who are really hard working and good at work. I have come across such people at my working place.Its really like hell when we face such people sometimes we may loose temper and get really hurt at times.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
Well my friend, this thing always happens to most offices. That's because everybody wants to be in a higher position over the others or would like to be promoted the fastest way they can - by being so like a glue to the higher bosses. Such people are those that don't really have talents but to gossip. I avoid those types of people, and have a group that i can trust.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
In every organization, there is always a person who is jealous of the success of other people. Some people who tried to damage the character of another may have their own reasons why they were doing that. For me as long as I am doing what I am supposed to do, I just didn't mind what other people are doing.