first baby girl coming soon
November 25, 2012 6:32am CST
Hi! I'm about to become a dad soon with a baby girl. I'm really stressed and maybe you know the feeling of all the responsibilities of the father when it comes to finances support and moral stuff. It really stressed me up. I never discuss this to my wife because, she might freak out also. But I'm excited and Im ready for the responsibility or commitment, its just I don't want her to know that I'm freaking out. Is that normal? any moms there that can advise me? thanks
28 Nov 12
Any person who is anticipating a big responsibility may feel as apprehensive as you are. But you should just think that you are not alone on this. You have your wife and your parents that can help you along the way. There is no book that can teach you how to be a great parent to your child. You will just become one when you are already in that situation. No such thing as a perfect parent or a perfect relationship. But making it almost perfect as much as you can will make a great difference. Congratulations on your angel!
26 Nov 12
I became a Dad to a baby girl just about nine years ago, and I learned a few things straight away: 1. you can't really 'prepare' for being a parent - just have to 'hit the road running' 2. it's the most natural thing in the world, you switch from your previous existence to 'Dad' in an instant 3. Daddy and daughter can have a very special bond Don't worry, you will just cope when it happens, the only thing you have to adjust to is that life is no longer about you and your wife as a couple, it's all about that little bundle of joy - if you get that right, everything else will fall into place, trust me... To an extent, financial matters are out of your hands, just do your best and love your family
• United States
25 Nov 12
That is definitely normal! I'm sure you will do fine though. Maybe you should confide in your wife about how you're feeling. She probably has some concerns of her own. It's always best to talk things out with your significant other. Communication is a very important part of any relationship. Congrats on becoming a new father (soon)! Having children is really one of the best things in life. My daughter is almost 8 months old and she makes me smile every day. :)
• United States
25 Nov 12
I'm the mother of 3 and grandmother of 4 and I can tell you your in for a fun time...lol! Kids are great but a lot of work and cost a lot of money to raise. You shouldn't hold anything back from your wife but share your every thought. You need to work together as parents and she might be able to help you in the freaking out dept. She's probably freaking out too and it's normal especially when it's your first child. Good luck and let us know when she's born!