It always seems like the poor people do good
November 25, 2012 7:07pm CST
My father-in-law was a really nice person,how ever he was poor and not in good health.One of his health issues was he was almost blind and his wife was crippled and bed ridden.His young adult stepson was disabled with medical conditions also.But,he would always tell his daughter to write us and our daughter holiday cards.Before I had our daughter I would visit them and play Yahtzee and cards.And we would call each other on a daily basis as well as he would talk to his son(when he wasn't working)After he passed away the cards did not come any more.When my husband got diagnosed with cancer and could no longer work we lost our place to live.My husband asked his cousin,that owned(inherited paid for)house,property with a garage and loft,if we could store some stuff there.We also knew he had a car that they never used,we asked if we could buy it in payments,so I could take my husband to the doctor.He said no to both!And he asked his sister that owned a nice house, if we could stay for a while on their enclosed porch.She said no that they would never even let her parents-in-law ever stay with them.One time when we did not have money to get the new meds that my husband needed he called his one brother and asked if we could borrow $70 from him and he said no.It was not that my husband borrowed from him before and didn't pay him back.Matter of fact,my brother-in-law had some of my husbands collectables.He got the money from his other brother that was a homeless alcoholic!My husband asked another brother that was just renting a room (in the office) at his work,to help us get our daughter some stuff for Christmas.Just before Christmas my husband died.When he was in the hospital critical,I was the only one that was there.The one homeless brother was going to come but he got the flu!The brother that we asked for the $70 asked why we didn't tell him that my husband was that sick and I told him that we had.I said well I would of lent him the money if I had known that.Later he gave me one of their old SUV's,that had a lot of things wrong with it.None of them call me or my daughter.The cousin's pick up my daughter and have her stay with them for a few days,mostly because they have a daughter just a year older then my daughter.They buy her holiday gifts and had a birthday party,which I was not invited to(didn't even know about it).Recently another cousin died that lived near them and they never called me.Another cousin died earlier this year and a friend of my moms worked for him and she never called either.Also after my grandfather died that side of the family had no contact with us. Why do people do that?
• United States
26 Nov 12
Wow - that is a lot of family and a lot of hardships. I tend to think people should live treating people the way they wish to be treated. I think people in harder circumstances relate more easily to others in need, and they tend to be very considerate. Some people don't realize how tough something someone is going through is until they go through something similar, or something drastic happens. I wouldn't know why people would do that. Too many are like that, with the "I got mine" attitude. It's pretty saddening.
• United States
26 Nov 12
Hi ladybugmagic,That is not all of the family! I think you are right.There are people that have said to me,"Not all that can happen to one person!" when I tell them about stuff in my life.They don't believe me,they think I am just trying to get people to feel sorry for me.......NOT!
26 Nov 12
I see the same tendency. Like pensioners who have really small money here would donate some to a foundation, whereas some super wealthy people not. Maybe it's because the poorer people now what it feels like to be abandoned or to have little money and no good prospects.