is marriage the answer to unwanted pregnancies?

Philippines
November 26, 2012 8:16pm CST
No... because early marriage might end up to divorce. Why not wait until both of them will mature and is of right age for marrying, keeping the child . Marriage can wait .
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@rsa101 (15483)
• Quezon City, Philippines
27 Nov 12
I agree with you. marriage should be done by two mature persons who are responsible enough to maintain their marriage. Marriage should not be done because of pregnancy. It just complicates things when they realize in the future that they are not compatible to be married.
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Right.Because early marriages are the most unstable.Girls who had married as teens were far more likely to have undergone a marital dissolution than those who married even just a few years later.
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Even me, I see marriage as not the key of the problem for that situation. Your just making the situation worse. If you get married just because for the responsibility for the child or because of the child sooner or later the marriage will turn to nightmare.
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
How i wish everybody thinks the same. Thank you for such an honest opinion. You see, because of economic situation nowadays it is not ease raising a family especially having a child early. I do hope the teenagers would thing a hundred times before indulging into a situation they cannot escape by having a child out of marriage at an early age right?
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
I agree with you. I think that it is wrong enough to get pregnant in a young age and it would be doing so much worse if you jump into marriage not prepared. A person who commits to marriage should be someone who is matured enough to take the responsibilities. Teens who get pregnant should be given enough time to grow up and mature. They need to know what life is ahead of them.
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Indeed... in addition to the fact that there are also factors like health and conditions that can complicate her life forever.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
1 Dec 12
I think a pregnant teen should let her baby be born and keep her baby if possible. It not then adoption is an option. I think the young couple could try living together and get engaged. Then when they are in their early to mid twenties they could get married if they still want to. If they marry too young they could end up getting divorced. A teenager should get married because she is pregnant.
• India
27 Nov 12
Hi friend, you are right, marriage is not the solution for unwanted pregnancies, youngster must realize their responsibilities and avoid unwanted activities in their teen age. They must have self control to avoid unwanted pregnancies
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
I have had friends who have had unwanted pregnancies, and they have not rushed into getting married with the boyfriends who got them pregnant. There was only one who got pregnant and they got married and they have been engaged already and been together for 8 years. :D I believe it is indeed a big decision when one decides to marry, and it should not only be because of an unborn child, ultimately when parents do marry and is not even ready they will only make the child suffer in the end as they break up. But of course, other couples who marry young or has to be married due to this circumstances but would be able to withstand anything that is given to them.
@Hrozean (116)
• United States
27 Nov 12
Marriage is not the answer. The marriage is not going to make the parents or childs life any different. The marriage or pregnancy is not going to change whether the relationship will work or not. I'm a firm believer that if couples were to take time to stay connected with each other outside of the home and children other families and friends and church they will never have a reason to get divorced in the first place. If it does end up needing to be so then at least the divorce would be one of mutual feeling and less chance for nasty divorce "battles" as so I have heard them called. However I will say that experiencing an unwanted or as I'd rather say unexpected pregnancy it does show your potential as a parent. I personally found my unexpected pregnancy as my last chance to straighten up and be responsible for the choices I had been making.
• United States
27 Nov 12
Not necessarily. It all depends on the people involved & the situation their in. Raising a child isn't easy not to mention it can be expensive, so the first question they should ask themselves is, "Can we give this child all that it needs?" When there's a child involved it is no longer about you or your partner, it's all about the child. So if a couple doesn't feel that they are ready for marriage or raising a child then maybe they should give some thought to putting the child up for adoption. There are so many couples out there that would give anything to have a child of their own, ones who could give them a really good life. In short marriage is hard enough, but add a child into it & it becomes even harder.