How do you face fear?

Greece
November 27, 2012 11:51am CST
Last week I had to have a minor operation. I was rather anxious about it and had been putting it off for about a year, but the time came when I had to face 'the knife'. I coped with this in two ways. First of all I prayed that all would go well and that I would be calm and then I forced myself not to think ahead about what might go wrong, but rather live in the moment. This gave me a sense of control which worked for me. How do you face fears?
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@peavey (16600)
• United States
27 Nov 12
I had cancer surgery about a year and a half ago. I coped with it by praying and by asking others to pray for me. God was very close to me all the time and I felt relaxed and had no fear whatsoever. You have to know me to know what a miracle that was. I don't tend to panic, but I do tense up and I do not like unfamiliar places let alone unfamiliar procedures!
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• Greece
28 Nov 12
Another genuine and wonderful testimony to the power of prayer. Thank you for sharing peavey.
• United States
27 Nov 12
That's all we can do is live in the moment. Worrying doesn't add a thing to our lives, yet most of us still tend to do it. I try not to worry about much EXCEPT about driving. I cannot drive out of my comfort zone. I get really anxious when I have to drive about 30 miles from home. We have a doctor there and I have to travel on a super highway to get there and I'm scared out if my skin every time I go. I have to control my breathing when I feel my panic coming on. I also have to talk myself down like "I'm doing good" and stuff to try and calm myself.
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• Greece
28 Nov 12
Driving? Don't mention it - my fear too and I have been shackled by it for too long. I think I would have been OK if I had learned to drive when I was young. The nasty for me was the M25 in England but now it is the way people drive in Greece! They break all the rules here.
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Like you, praying is the first thing I do when I need to face my fear. I ask God's guidance to give me enough confidence. I think that God is with me and he won't let anything bad happen to me. Then after praying, I will gather my strength and my courage and face my fear. It's good that you were able to undergo your operation safely. God really is always here with us. He always makes a way for everything. Happy mylotting.
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• Greece
28 Nov 12
I agree and it is encouraging to know that MyLot has a good number of believers encouraging one another and sharing their faith.
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
27 Nov 12
You should have mentioned something about it then we could have prayed for you. I faced something similar a few years ago when, at age 54 (!) I got appendicitis. I had a few hours to think about it and I was a little bit afraid. I asked myself, what is the worst that can happen? If I die, I can see God and all my dear departed loved ones. If I live, my insurance will cover almost everything. It's a win/win situation. I was a bit surprised when I did wake up afterward. When I'm afraid of something I just run to it. The worst that can happen is that I die and continue on in my journey. Not confronting it prolongs the fear. It's the trepidation we feel that's the worst, not the fear itself.
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• United States
27 Nov 12
I was in your shoes three years ago. I had a myomectomy. (Removal of fibroid tumors). I was petrified going under the knife, not knowing whether I'd wake up from anesthesia or not. I cried every day before the surgery. My family was there to reassure me that everything was going to be fine & the rewards afterwards were going to be tremendous. The aftermath of the surgery was painful. I prayed and asked God to help me with this and he did, along with help from my family. If we can get through going under the knife with major/minor operations, we can conquer anything. Fear is something that gets in our way when we get scared. The only way to fight fear is to face it. When you do that, anything's possible.
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• Greece
28 Nov 12
I did not worry about whether I would wake up or not, my big problem before the op was that a year ago I had a hip renewal and I was concerned that during the op my leg would be moved outwards and the hip would pop out!
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 12
Someone, I can't remember who once said, the only thing to fear is fear itself, it's our imaginations that are at fault here, because we concoct in our heads these real life scenarios about the fear we are about to face and usually will blow them out of all proportion, so before we even get to face our fear, our minds have already made this fear a thousand times worse! So in the end we end up avoiding it to escape the fear. Its only when we ration out the irrational thoughts and feelings about the fear and think about it logically, i.e. what doesn't kill me makes me stronger, then the fear becomes more approachable. How often do we play out these scenarios in our head and be ready for worst possible endings, when we finally made ourselves ill thinking it and when it's done and we've accomplished it, we think why did I worry or fear so much in the first place!
• Greece
28 Nov 12
That just about sums everything up very nicely wolfie. The things we worry might happen rarely do, it is the unexpected things that arrive to challenge us.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 12
Hi 41CombedaleRoad, saying prayer continuously is the first reaction I would do unconsciously when facing fear or danger. Followed by deep breathing slowly. It's really works to shake off the fear as well as keep me calm. When my mind is tranquil it would be easily for me to find a way out to cope with the danger facing Happy posting
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@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I have to be brave enough to face all the fears I have. At first, I feel reluctant in doing a thing but I want to do it so I will pursuade myself to continue and face it with all my might. I am just shocked when I see myself succeed and be able to attain aand conquer fears. I feel so proud of myself.
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@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Facing fear is one of my goals in life. I think we have to face it in order to survive. Because if we will just let fears to live in our lives, then, we will not succeed in every endeavor that we want to do or pursue because we are afraid that it might pull us down.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
There were situations when I just went through it, come what may, and there where times when I stayed sleepless thinking of plan Bs or other ways out or around it. I believe that there are just times that we have to face our fear, and we will one way or another.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Face it soon as possible. The more I postponed it the more I feel scared. So, for me it is better to face it the soonest possible time and have it done.
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@betty1989 (752)
• China
27 Nov 12
when I face fear, I keep telling myself that God will bless me. I do not need to worry. Everything will be fine.
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@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
27 Nov 12
I also think that just thinking about it and fearing what might come is worse than reality, but one only realises that once the procedure is over! Living the moment is the best alternative and that was true for me, be it during my first and then during my second delivery! Actually it was exactly like you mentioned, I had a sense of control with the second one and it also went by in no time at all! I hope your operation went well and that you are feeling all right now!
• Greece
28 Nov 12
Thank you sylvia, yes it went well and it was so good to get back in my own home and bed! You are right to say that one realises afterwards that the fear was so unnecessary, it made me feel like kicking myself...
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I face fear by overreacting! Then I can to my senses and calm down! If I was not such a worry wart I would not over react all the time! I do this alot with other things in my life! Just a bad habit I developed over the years!
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Going under the knife can be the scariest thing that could happen to a person. In this case, the best thing to do is to pray, pray, pray and leave everything to God.
@GreenMoo (11842)
28 Nov 12
I don't honestly know. I can't remember the last time I was fearful in that same way, just smaller incidents of being outside my comfort zone. I'm lucky! I think the way I deal is just to ignore it and carry on. It's not a beneficial emotion.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
In order to overcome our fears, let's just be calm, and surrender it all to God. Don't think too much of it because that would make us more anxious. Just let it flow and everything will goes well !! That's how I face it also. Have a great day! :)
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
28 Nov 12
With most of the fears that I have in my life, I have to say that I face my fears head on. In other words, I'm somewhat afraid of heights, so I went to the top of the Sears tower and observed the city from the sky. With other things, I use a lot of prayer. An example of dealing with my fear in this way is that my husband is a cancer survivor and my biggest fear is that his cancer will come back. I face that fear by constantly praying that the cancer doesn't come back.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
28 Nov 12
I like to face my fears head on. I donlt like be being in the dark. i like to see what it is that I am battling. sometimes knowing conquers the fear the quickest.