A surgery at his age?

United States
November 27, 2012 1:09pm CST
My father is 80 years old has a bad heart and other health issues. He also has a hernia sticking out of his belly but he has no pain or problems with it,it just don't looks good. He is doing very well now but he thinks he has more chances by woman when this hernia would not stick out that far So he consulted a specialist and he said that he is not sure if he can get him out in one peace in his health condition. That was enough for me I just lost my mother! I said no way grabbed him and went. He was pretty upset with me! Now I found out that he has a new app. Cause of this surgery So I called my sister and ask her what to do. She gave me to think. When I am 80 years old I wonne still decide what I do or not And he is very clear in his head Now I am guessing that I am selfish and I am cause its me who don't wonne loose him And I don't wont him see me ruling over his life. So I decided after a long talk with him that I won't stand in his way when he wants to do that. How would you react ?
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8 responses
@Shavkat (56924)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
I don't have any idea about the surgery. I admit that we need to consider the age of having a surgical procedures. The only thing we can do is to ask the doctor if it is fine at their age.
• United States
8 Dec 12
After the doc told him that he isn't sure about getting him out in one peace he don't wonne have the surgery anymore lol
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I think having a surgery at his age might have advantages or disadvantages. But as long as it can prolong his life, then, there's no problem to that.
• United States
29 Nov 12
I am happy that he finally agreed with me he called me short after I posted this and tod me I don't have to worry
@kavaryan (55)
• India
28 Nov 12
My mother is now almost 90 and she refuses to be hospitalized when anything serious happens to her. The older we get I think we become more stubborn. I think you should let your father have his way. Let him be happy. Finally that is all that matters.
• United States
28 Nov 12
He called me yesterday after I posted this and told me that he changed his mind He won't do it anymore cause I made him thinking I am just so happy about that
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
28 Nov 12
Hi, surgery at the age of 80s is risky but if your father is not listening anyone's advice then your decision not to stand in his way is right. There is no other option for you. old people and children are very difficult to handle. Old people think that they are neglected because they are of no use.
• United States
28 Nov 12
I posted this yesterday and in the night he gave me a call that he decided not to do this surgery I can't tell you how happy I am
@chunxiao (66)
• China
28 Nov 12
Maybe the only way is to follow your father'decision.Just as you said that your father has a clear mind and he know what he is doing.Maybe he thinks that it is a second chance for his life and he wants to live better than now.You should talk with him and discuss with your sister.You can ask your father that if he has considered the bad result of the surgery and if it happened, does he have any regret.Then,just let him make the last decision(because don't make the surgery may be also a regret in his rest life).
• United States
28 Nov 12
I am happy to tell everybody that he called me yesterday and told me that I might be right and it is not worth to die only cause of looking better Thank you all for your help and respons
@ctryhnny (3463)
• United States
27 Nov 12
My Mom was almost 80 and she had a problem that the dr's said that at this stage it wasn't safe to do surgery. She passed away 2 years later of an unrelated illness. I'm only 65 and if my dr. suggested surgery for anything I would say no. I'm of the belief and people will disagree but once they cut you open for any kind of surgery you end up having other problems. I know this from the experiences of family and friends.
• United States
27 Nov 12
I agree with you that it is very risky and I really don't like it But I can't do anything about it
@squallming (1777)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 13
I would have done the same if I were you. Because nothing is more important than health and life. The age and health condition of your father is already putting a big red sign saying no to the surgery. Any person with sane mind would have think a surgery with his condition is a really bad idea. I hope nothing happened to him after the surgery though as the risk is just too high. We should learn to be contended with what we had when we were young.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
I agree with you surgery at 80 is risky. If that would happen to my father, I could not do anything but to support what he wants. Old people are stubborn they should get what they want.