What's your ideal marriage age?

China
November 27, 2012 8:03pm CST
Myboyfriend and I have a marathon of love for nearly eight years. We fell in love since college and kept in long-distance relationship. Recently, he desire to get married. However, I have not finished my study of PhD. I am busy and under high pressure for the last semester. I am so confused about whether to get our marriage license for now.
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@williamjisir (22909)
• China
12 Dec 12
If I were in your case, I would choose to finish the study of PHD and find a job first before taking marriage into consideration. This way you could be more focused on your study instead of being distracted by other things. I got married at 28, and it was a late age for my generations. Back to then, the ideal age for marriage was 25 around. I think that it would be great if I could get married at that age. not three years later. Take care.
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• India
11 Dec 12
There is no ideal age to get married. Once you have found someone who you truly love and can spend your rest of your life with her/him without any doubts ,thats it ,you have found the ideal age and the ideal person to get married. But if you do want an age I would say abouve 24 and below 35 for sure. Make sure you both are financially stable because statistically majority of marriages end up in a divorce because of financial problems.
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@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
You don't have to get married if you think that you're not yet ready. I don't think there is a limit age for marriage. I would even find it romantic to see old couples getting married. Marriage is a very sacred covenant of two people about to be united with God. I know that you don't have hesitation of being married with your boyfriend but the fact that you're having second thought is enough for you not to get married yet.
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@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
talk to your boyfriend for that matter.. it should be discuss because it was the future your talking about.. but for you are in a stage of ideal to get married but it is really up to you.. i get married when i`m 25 and we`v been together of my husband since high school..
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I don't think that there is a true ideal marriage age. some people are ready for the challenge at a young age while others take much longer to be ready for marriage. some are never ready while others remain unsure of how they feel about it. when you are ready you are ready. the age does nothing to to deter the feeling.
@ShyBear88 (17038)
• United States
29 Nov 12
When ever you are ready to get it you can. Me and my husband didn't finish school before we got married it was our choice when. The lineces is only good for 30 days before you get married so you have to do in that time frame at least where we live that is long as you get for and then you go and get officially married. We did through the court so we didn't have to have a big wedding at all.
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@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
28 Nov 12
I think your age is definitely ideal, but I don't know exactly that in your country how old you can be when you are doing your PhD - but it's likely to be 25 or 26, maybe? Anyways, that's a good time for marriage. At least you're mature, you've lived together for quite a bit... that you haven't finished your PhD only matters if he wants to have the ceremony in the last semester or if it's realkly expensive, and you can't afford it. Don't be too cautious - go for it!
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@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
28 Nov 12
Hi,i think it would be okay to get married right now, i have seen long courtships at times end up in break ups ,you get too familiar with each other and end up taking each other for granted.it would be best if you are sure of your feelings to agree about the space you will need as you pursue your studies and then if you reach a good agreement get married.If you agree on holding up starting a family and he wont feel neglected when you are stuck in your books i don't see why the marriage should not take place.
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@Zer0Stats (1316)
• India
28 Nov 12
When you find the RIGHT person.
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• Philippines
28 Nov 12
For me, 25 and above is the ideal age to get married. Around that age, most of us are mature enough to face the reality of marriage.
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@betty1989 (752)
• China
28 Nov 12
if a voice comes from deep inside telling you that you should marry now, then follow your heart. Age matters little if you are over 20 years old. If I am you, I will finish study first and then you have plenty of time to think about marriage. good luck for you. Eight year' love is not easy. cherish your love.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
28 Nov 12
I think you need to follow your heart. If it was me, and I could do things over I would finish school before getting married. That is just my opinion though of course. As for the age, I don't think it matters really. It is more personal choice. I got married when I was 20 years old. My husband and I will be married for 8 years this year. =) It all depends on your situation though. I wish you the best of luck with your decision...
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@misjoseph (162)
3 Jan 13
well is nice that the two of you have love one an other for such a long period of time, but i think you should complete your studies first, because at the level you are now, you should not let marriage come in your way. i think if both of you love and trust one other very well both of you should be able to wait....
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
At my age right now it is okay for me to get married if I have already a work of my own and a stable boyfriend, I mean a boyfriend who is financially and emotionally stable and who really loves me then I will go for it. As of now I still unemployed but who knows i fI would have a job of my own and a boyfriend then we'll see. :)
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
22 Dec 12
After 8 years, when do you want to get married? Are you really willing to get married after you graduate? Or are you going to wait until you get a job, etc? Perhaps your boyfriend is feeling that you are putting it off, and will continue to put off getting married. Perhaps this is what is really confusing you. Because otherwise, you could tell your boyfriend very clearly that you desire to marry him after you have graduated. He is asking you what is most important in your life - him or your studies. But you can explain to him that both are important and he needs to respect that. But you need to tell him that both are important and be able to figure out your life that will include both your education and your future marriage with your boyfriend. Is your boyfriend earning his PhD? Or has he already earned a PhD? If not, this may be a way of telling you that he really doesn't want you to be more educated than he is. Do you really want more than a long-distance relationship with your boyfriend?
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Maybe you could ask your boyfriend if he can wait a little longer until you are done with your PhD before you finally tie the knot. It would be a lot easier for you to go about with the wedding plans if you are not burdened with other things in mind.
• Greece
16 Dec 12
There is no ideal marriage age. You can get married anytime as long as you are ready. I mean, not just you think you're ready. If you're really ready financially and emotionally. But since you have been together for eight years, I think it's time for you to get married. We only hesitate if we are not sure about it. You seem to have a loyal loving partner who prove his love for eight years. That's long enough. Don't make him wait any longer. You might be inspired to study well when you have a new highlight in your life. And based from your post, you're getting PhD so you must be at the age where people are getting married. Isn't it nice to start a family while you are young to enjoy it. But still, the decision is yours.
@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 12
Welcome to mylot swallowbian It would be the ideal marriage age when it's the time for you wishing to be with your boyfriend day and night. If you don't have the confidence to concentrate in your PhD study you could delay the marriage right after the graduation. I believe your boyfriend would respect your destination if he is the person of considerately. Yeah, celebrate the two great ceremonies of graduation and wedding at the same time would be a wonderful and pleasant moment I was married at the age of 27. I was still having my last year on the job training. It's great that my husband did a lot in helping me in many every life routine and errands. So that there wasn't any distraction happening during my study. Further more he had given me lots of comfort and courage as well as encouragement then Lol...he did help me in some of my assignments. Wishing you all the best in all and happy posting!
@Hatley (164777)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Dec 12
hi swallowbien welcome to mylot. I think if y ou kept your marriage day simple you could go ahead and marry and still finish your Phd as it could come in really handy up the road s a ways. Surely he wants you to finish and have your career as you can do that as well married as single. I am for marriage after 8 years its time to marry.[