petty childish quarrels with brothers, sisters, cousins, playmates. etc.

@nicanorr (1789)
Philippines
November 28, 2012 2:26am CST
We do things on impulse, instinct when we were still small. Thus quarrels among siblings happened because of the lack of control of emotions. It cannot be denied that we haven't experienced this stage. We all have passed this way to the point that when the petty quarrel becomes hot, scratching, kicking, hair pulling, saliva spitting, clawing, hitting, pinching, name calling, other bad things results. What particular small quarrel has happened between you and your brothers, sisters, neighbors, school mates, etc. that you can still recall? Responses are welcome.
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@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
28 Nov 12
LOL, yes, but I am the youngest in the family I can not be violent and I am so fragile, I am the baby in the family. But is sadder now that these quarrels are something brought when aged or upon growing up. Like now, siblings still quarrel, even adults and also to the point of hurting each other physically. that's very violent and scene maker. The worst is quarreling until mature and then not letting go of the past and sometimes passed on to the children. So now their children fight among each other. Such petty childish fights.. turning to serious adults misunderstanding.
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@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I am thankful to the responder for bringing this matter up. Petty kid quarrels are but part of the formative years of growing. Before they get serious where elders, adults and parents are now involved in the scene, they must be stopped or solved. Like a fire, it must be doused off with water to put it out.
• Thailand
29 Nov 12
Glad you liked my response. Yes, children fight real hard, but after 10 mins you will see them sharing ice creams, fight is nothing serious for them. untilllll the parents or adults squeeze in the scene. that small fight will become war. Yes. that's true as some people just don't know how to do it.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
We all desire to give kids the so-called well-rounded personality. And the best training ground for them to acquire this trait is the locality where the family is. With ever watchful eyes of parents, kids must be let loose to taste lessons of right and wrong with peers. With parents, elders acting as referees, counselors, they'll graduate with flying colors ready to face the essentials of life.
@prashu228 (25811)
• India
28 Nov 12
hi, good one. yes of course many memories. I am a typical possessive sister to my brothers. usually i am calm going,but they should listen to me as i am the eldest hehe, some kind of monarch rule haha. . If ever any one beat my brothers that should be me and not anyone. The interesting and most silly one is i used to beat and cry for them at the same time. One more no others friends of ours should try to cheat or beat them , i will be the first to hit that friends if they do so. hehe. Oh my God i was like real monarch. Poor brothers never said anything or hit me.
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@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
You've clearly demonstrated the role you've had with your siblings. Now that you're all grown-up perhaps, what is the present observable relationship between you and your brothers? Are your relationship as siblings close? Just curios!
@prashu228 (25811)
• India
29 Nov 12
yes of course we are very close , all those fights stopped while we were in high school it self . Actually we didn't realize that. But fights were not all serious ones. so we are always close. They give importance to me in all aspects. When ever there is any problem it is definitely me whom they remember first to share then my parents. They know the fact that i care a lot about them . They even say that most of the sisters are not like me. I mean in terms of caring about brothers.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Yes, life's ups and downs are prominent in the formative years of kids. By and by as they grow up to adulthood, they shed skin so to speak, leaving or forgetting manners that aren't good and using to advantage desirable traits and behavior. Parents have a lot to do during this stage so that they'll not tread the wrong road.
• India
28 Nov 12
Hi friend, i had a lot of incidents in this sort. During my childhood days, i had lot of fight with my brother, once he pulled down me and i got a huge wound with his activity, till today i had the scar in my leg on the symbol of this incident. We never forget this kind of childhood fights
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Thanks for the response friend. I feel sorry for you for that wound inflicted by your brother. As for now, are you okay in your relationship with said brother? Just curious!
• India
29 Nov 12
yes, we both have a good relationship now, during childhood days, we don't know what is good, so he did this thing. He asked a lot of sorry for his activity
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Yes, it comes to mind that wrongful deeds as time passes by are forgotten, forgiven. They are replaced with bright ideas that are relevant to the need of the times in order to pursue goals to achieve a fuller and richer life. Would you mind telling me what you do for a living? Just curious.
@else22 (4319)
• India
28 Nov 12
I had never had such quarrels with my younger sisters when we were children.Actually papa was too strict in such matters and quarreling with each other would have been inviting thrashing by him.So we had no way,but control ourselves.If we had differences,we would sort them out by talking to each other or asking papa to sort them out and decide.Children quarrel.It's natural.Problem arises when elders interfere and start quarreling with each other.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I see a long-time picture of you and your younger sisters well-behaved and well-disciplined, and a strict papa. Now that you're grown up, what can you say of the current relationship obtaining in the family?
@else22 (4319)
• India
29 Nov 12
Our parents are no more.I have a couple of younger sisters one of whom is a widow with a young,unmarried daughter,and the other is unmarried by choice.Both of them live with me and my wife.We love and respect them and so do they to us.We still have a sweet relationship with each other.I would try my best to maintain this sweetness in our relationship as long as I am alive.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Our sincere condolence for the loss of your parents. We have a belief that they're there unseen to watch over you as are my parents who are now in the great beyond also unseen as they watch over us. We pray for the good of your well-being and the continued upkeep of the good relationship in the family.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I don't particularly remember what the quarrel was about, but I do remember what happened following the quarrel. My brother and I had a disagreement of some sort and it resulted in him getting really mad at me and wanting me to get in trouble. So, he smacked himself on the arm and blamed it on me. This was something that worked for him many times. However, there was a time that he did it when he thought no one was watching, but my mother happened to see what happened through her china cabinet glass (she was in the kitchen and the china cabinet was angled in such a way that she could see into the living room through it). He ended up getting grounded for a week.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I see self-inflicted punishment resulting from misunderstanding a rare form of technique for one to achieve his purpose. Thanks for responding.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I caqn remember having all of the silly fights with friends and family members. tjey were often over the smallest of things that snowballed into so much more. I am happy to say that those relationships have grown and become more maturing.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Your response is very much appreciated. How are your family members now that they're matured. Do you often have family get-together?
@sweety_81 (2129)
• India
28 Nov 12
I can recall a few incidents when I had big fights, heated arguments with my brother. I once threw a bucket to the ground when I was quarreling. Now, I laugh at such things. Yet, when we are children, such things do happen.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I feel I was in the scene when you threw that bucket to the ground out of anger with brother. Was the bucket full of water? What happened? How's your brother now?
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
28 Nov 12
The kind of quarrels you talk about and the way they are expressed I never had with my siblings or others and also my kids never had. We learned to fight with words. I think it's normal to quarrel/fight esp where you feel safe (should be home/between friends/family). This way you learn what is acceptable, where your boarders are (what do I want or not), the boarders of someone else, you learn to say NO (which is not allowed for many of us and is killing us as soon as we are an adult because we always have to be friendly, helpfull, etc). You need these young experiences to survive in the outside world.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Your insightful response is well appreciated. Indeed it will help a lot in the proper upbringing of persons, especially children.