My year went good to bad

Canada
November 28, 2012 10:06pm CST
This discussion is pretty much me ranting, but i feel that if i do i may feel better in the end. So those of you want to read this go ahead. But i wont blame you if you don't want to. Lets see 2011 where to start? Okay I had been working at wendy's restaurant for three years at this point, and i decided that i wanted to start making better money i wanted a better life for myself and my boyfriend. I was sick of getting paid minimum wage. I knew that in the next five years i want to start having a family and a house. So I figured out that i needed to get my career, I did not want to go back to college or try university because I had seen dozen of people from my high school do that and not find jobs so I knew I was not going to waste my time and go down that road. I figured that my best bet would be to take a trad so that was what I did I took a secretary course figured that I could get a job just about anywhere when I was finished. As I took the course I realized that I was going into the right field because I was getting hundreds on my exams and doing really, well. At the end I graduated being one of the top students in my class and made some really good friends. I got my diploma at the end of 2011, I thought that 2012 would be a good year for me but boy have i been wrong it took me from that December until august of 2012 before I was even able to get a job in my field. I signed up for driving classes which I had always wanted to do, took most of my tax money to do it was doing really well until i got a new job so I was only available at nights for class so they had to reschedule everything and made me two months behind. So now I forgot almost everything that I learned because get this no one in my family will let me use there car. They only teach you how to drive automatic and everyone who I know that is wiling to let my drive their car has a standard, and guess who those people are my dad, and my boyfriend. My own brother wont let my use his car and he has a automatic. All because his girlfriend said no and she does not even have her license. My dad does not understand it because back when my brother was learning to drive my dad helped him out. My dad would do the same for me if he had an automatic. So here I am losing how to drive because no one will let me practice on there car. And then i get laid off from my job last week right before Christmas because the business has gone down. Me and my boyfriend were half way to getting a house, we wouldn't be living in a crummy apartment anymore. we even adopted a puppy because we thought we would be getting a house in six months. but no now we are stuck we a small apartment where we don't even have a storage unit and two cats and a dog. And to add on to everything else someone decides to hit my boyfriends parked car while in was in the store and drive off. He's insurance wont even cover half of it. It's been like bad like again and again and again. I am so scared its not even funny. I don't know how I'm going to get a job, there is never any jobs in my field at this time of the year. who knows when i will get employment insurance. How are we going to pay our bills. I went to to this field thinking it was a secure field. but it seems like nothing is secure anymore, how do i know that even if i do find another job that i wont get laiyed off again before we buy a house again. I'm trying to move forward in life and things just keep holding me back. I'm laying in bed with my mind racing. I can't sleep, all I want to do is cry my heart out. I feel depressed all the time cause I'm bored at home and i don't like not working, i don't feel safe. This is the first time in five years since I have not worked. I feel like leaving Wendy's was a biggest mistake of my life, at least there i was secure and was making money. Now I just feel useless and depressed and it scares me. I hate this. So what was to be a really good year for me has gone to poop. If you guys have any advice or want to leave me a comment I am open to them.
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6 responses
@cluelle (132)
• Canada
29 Nov 12
I completely understand the frustration you're having about your driving and trouble with unhelpful relatives. I wish I had advice for how to deal with this, but the most I can say is that I agree with the poster who said that your strong work ethic and desire to succeed will help get through this. I feel like you'll do everything you need to do to make it, and hope the best for you.
@cluelle (132)
• Canada
29 Nov 12
*addition*: I'm sure you've explored this option already, but have you looked into Virtual Assisting? From what you say about your success in classes, it sounds like you might be able to market yourself on Odesk or one of the other well-known freelancing sites. You can also check into reputable online transcription companies, because they are often looking for virutal assistants as well. I don't want to sound like that person offering "opportunities" in PM...and I'm not talking about referral links, but I've looked into this a lot, so if you need pointers about which sites to look at, I can point some out to you.
• Jacksonville, Florida
29 Nov 12
I am soooo sorry your year has gotten so bad like this! =( I know it is so hard being laid off from a job. We have been right where you are now, more than once actually. I know this is hard to believe but your at rock bottom so the only way to go from here is up. Once you hit your worst, things will improve. I know it doesn't seem like it right now but it will get better. My husband and I were doing so well for a while. We were about to get our own place (we were staying with my parents), we were saving money and my husband was working full time. Things were finally looking up... Then I get the phone call, my husband got cut at work on a saw. He cut tendons and muscles in his hand, and he had to have surgery to get it all back together! It was the worst possible thing that could have happened at that time because he would be out of work and we were stuck in H*ll living with my family...or so we thought. We called a lawyer for workmans comp. The one lawyer we called said they could not take the case because the company did not have workers comp like they were supposed to. So, we could have gave up and gotten upset but we didn't. Something told us to call another lawyer. We did and guess what? They took our case. So, our worst moment ever actually turned into a Blessing in disguise. We got some back pay and used it to get out of my parents house and into our own place! Then at the end of the whole thing we got $35,000 which we used to pay behind bills that we couldn't pay for a while with my husband out of work and we got 2 newer vehicles that we could have never gotten before this happened to him... Did we ever want him to get hurt? No of course not. BUT it actually helped us in the long run although it did not feel like it at the time... Maybe things are happening for a good reason. I know thats also hard to believe but really I did not think his injury could have ever been anything good for us, but it turned out to be our own little blessing in disguise. I hope things get better for you and I'm sorry I wrote so much here. I just wanted to tell you that things are not always as they seem and things will get better!
• Canada
29 Nov 12
I'm glad that you wrote so much I'm just surprised that you wanted to read my story. I do hope that things get better, I know that my boyfriend is still working full time but it would be a lot better if we were both working. i really need to get a job but i don't want it to take me another whole year. I really do hope that things start to go up from here, I don't think I could take much more.
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I just wish you the best for the coming year, just be positive and don't dwell on the not good past or not good happenings with your life this year. Always look at the bright side of life and step forward one at a time. Don't be in such a hurry! God bless!
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
29 Nov 12
welcome to our great site here... Im sure 2013 has to be better for you. It sure cant get worse. Keep your head up, things will get better soon for you. Take care there.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
29 Nov 12
I don't really have any advice. I think you've had a run of bad luck but with your strong work ethic you'll beable to pull through. It's a hard time to not have a job and with 3 pets I'm sure you're worried but it really is a matter of finding another job. Once you get another job you'll be able to save up an emergency fund so you won't have to worry as much.
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I must admire you because you have the qualities of a successful person. It is just that you are in for an early lesson that you can use in the future to be successful - having your own house and lot, a nice car, more than enough money to establish a family, and other dreams you have. The circumstances that happened to you should not be a stumbling block for your success, but a stepping stone that will make you even stronger in achieving your dream life. Feeling depressed will surely not be of help. There are a lot of open opportunities that you can start with with a minimum capital. Research about the best mlm companies in your area. Find a mentor, and when you've found it, pursue with all your might. Your story, five years from now must be a success story. You've got the toughness to make it work. Go for it.