How to overcome emotions being BETRAYED?

Philippines
November 29, 2012 10:11pm CST
Being betrayed by someone that we loved and trusted will tears apart our hearts and leaves us bruises and too much pain in our heart and mind. It is actually a crumpling feeling that makes us desperate and nauseous. It is therefore slays our self esteem,our confidence and trust to anyone else. It seems that we are riding first time in a roller coaster that everything is too fast to understand. Further, we are just wondering if we could ever trust that person again, and even to others. Sometimes we are unsure on how to overcome such pain that felt inside in our hearts. The pain runs so deep that we maybe wonder if there's anyone could ever be loyal to us. We are vulnerable and we have no idea how to snip the strings and how to move on. Do we need to take the risks? or just simply accept the fact and move on without thinking about what happens?
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@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
I think the best way to overcome that feeling is to forgive and forget. Forgive the one who betrayed you and forget all the pain it dealt with you. Just pray for the one who betrayed you and let the Lord do what he deserves.
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Hi kokomo, Yes, I definitely with you that the best move and solution to conquer those feeling is to forgive and forget. However, we cannot the deny the fact that it's very hard to arrived at the point of forgiveness and forgiving most especially if it will caused to much pain in your heart. But nonetheless, God will take the rest and knows what's the best for us and to a person who betrayed us. Just hold our faith...
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• St. Peters, Missouri
30 Nov 12
Being betrayed shook my very being. I no longer believed in myself. I was sure I had done something to lead to it and that I deserved it. Personally, I had to go through the very dark times and stumble to the other side. But how to do that? For me, I leaned on friends and family and others for emotional support. I needed to feel good about myself again. Somebody just telling me it wasn't my fault didn't help in the least. I needed to talk about it - ALOT! To this day, I have difficulties fully, 100%, trusting someone I care deeply about. I wished I could just accept it and move on, but it was so much harder than that. What do you think?
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• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Thank you for your valuable response. Yeah you're right, it is very devastating feeling when we are betrayed by someone whom we trusted for. The emotion of being totally exhausted and demoralize is hardly be surpassed most especially if the person who initiated betrayal is the most important person of your life...It cannot be easily forgotten and accepted in the part of the victim.
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@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
hi, for me its really hard to overcome emotions being betrayed,because first we will feel anger and depress and after that sad emotions,and moving forward really takes more time before it will be gone,i already experienced that before in my life and no one will experience it again in second time.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 13
Truly indeed that it is very hard to surpass such feeling being betrayed most particularly if the one did it is very important person close to your heart. However, it is actually part in the course of life's growth. We should always pay forward in extending our patient and understanding to certainly defeat such pain. We just always remember that no matter how bad things get in our life, there's always good things awaits and keep us going forward. Sometimes, we felt exhausted because of such bad interference but we must take note that God has a reason for allowing things to happen in our life, we may never understand His wisdom but we should have to trust his will.
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@betty1989 (752)
• China
30 Nov 12
Forgiveness is the best cure to be betrayed. I understand you must be very sad and helpless. Time and mercy will heal you at last.think about positive thing. cheer up, mylotter
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• Philippines
30 Nov 12
You're absolutely correct betty, hence, to forgive is not an easy move to do most especially if the pain cause by that act gravely injured your heart. This maybe cured but it will takes more time to heal, and of course it will requires constant therapy - a words of encouragement from the people around in order to boost up again your confidence.
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• India
25 Feb 13
Betrayal is always painful. It is up to us to decide whether that person deserves a second chance or not. At times forgiving him or her also seems difficult and unacceptable. Trust is fragile, don't play with it and don't let others do so.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
26 Feb 13
Hello Gil, I hope that you are fine. It´s very realistic your post, you describe the feeling when you are bretayed. I got 18 years ago two hard betrayals. One of my boyfriend whom I was going to marry, and the second from my father that was cheating my mother. You descrive so well that this feelings may drive us like in a roller coaster. First of all I went to talk with a pshyq, talk, talk, talk, hours of talk, at the same time I began looking for God. Time has helped my to heal every pain. The most positive moves you can do is the best. Blessings Gil... dainy