when you can't have what you want

Philippines
November 30, 2012 5:56am CST
i know it's a classic statement esp when we want something but we cant just have it that easily. i know we work hard to achieve something, but sometimes we wonder why we can't just have it? we get frustrated and lonely esp when that thing will make us happy. it seems that the more we want it, the more it goes away. maybe, it's good that sometimes we just let things happen. and see what the result may become.
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@shaieen (258)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Hi there! I definitely agree with you. It's just so frustrating not to get something you really want. Sometimes makes me totally depressed for days. But sometimes, depending on my mental state, I make strategic plans to achieve it. But whenever I am very hopeless and pessimistic too, I just pray to God and ask for help, then forget about the thing I want because I might turn crazy thinking about it over and over again.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
There's nothing wrong in setting up a goal to achieve. This gives us motivation to aim something in life. It helps us become more successful. But we must always remember that everything will happen in God's will. If there is something that we want that we did not get that doesn't mean that He doesn't want to give it to us. God give us something better. He's will are always better. And so it is important to have faith on it. But this doesn't mean that you will stop dreaming and just based everything with fate.
@Shavkat (65051)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
The way we aspire for something is really difficult to obtain. Even if we sweat blood to acquire the things we wanted, it is still not to easy to have it. The only we can do is to hope and there is something that we are looking forward to.
• Indonesia
2 Dec 12
For some, life is a pretty hopeless place, and yearning for the unattainable is better than nothing. "I can't have anything I value, but at least I have my daydreams." Life ? or at least a happy life ? requires a can-do attitude. Specifically, the belief that one might not get a certain thing one wants, but a personfs still capable of wanting other things. This belief is part of the can-do attitude. Many people hem themselves in with the assumption that they only want a small number of things. But our capacity to value is limitless. "The grass is always greenerh might mean that your neighbor has a better lawn, or a better life than you do. While lawns can be easily evaluated, lives are harder to know and judge. Sometimes people seem happy who really aren't. Indeed, the people who seem happy might be happy, but you're not with them all the time. You canft compare your own life, which you live 24/7, with the life of another. People have to believe in their values, i.e., "I can find that thing that I want." Of course, just wishing it doesnft make it so, but itfs a necessary precondition for attaining anything valuable. The only alternative is to give up. Once you've given up, it's absolutely certain you won't attain what you want. A self-fulfilling prophesy if there ever was one! There are always possibilities out there waiting for you. All you have to do is get out there and make them happen.
• India
1 Dec 12
Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Life is really an unpredictable one, we must learn to live practically and get enjoyment with whatever we have, if we expect a lot we will get disappointments, better to avoid high expectations and get happiness with the things we have, it will help you to avoid frustration and unwanted worries
@funfreak2k2 (1740)
• India
1 Dec 12
I believe that we get what God wants to give only. If we don't get something, may be that thing is not good for us. God may have stored something better for us. When the right time comes, God will definitely give us.
@GandharD (148)
• India
1 Dec 12
Yes we really feel bad, when we dont have things we want. But some day or the other, the thing is going to be ours. You never know. You got to strive hard for that. Suppose you dream to have luxuries like an expensive car, a good house, expensive mobiles, electronic items etc, we got to work hard in order to achieve that. But it is frustrating when rights things are not with us at the right time. We feel jealous, and think 'Why we dont have it'.. But you going to get it..Sooner or later. Just believe in yourself, and LOVE WHAT YOU DO..Success is your's!
@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
Very true. Sometimes when we take too much time and effort or try too hard to get something, it never comes to us. We should learn to respect right timing also and that everything will happen in its own time and no need to blame ourselves for everything that doesn't happen.
• United States
1 Dec 12
Sometimes I seek that I desire in life and when I don't always receive them it bothers me. I have since learned to seek God in prayer for the things that I not only desire but for the things that God desires for me to have. I am trying to learn the value of patiently waiting for my desires to be made manifest in my life.
@regz123 (18)
1 Dec 12
Everyone of us may experience that situation.But persistence will help us get our goals and also with the help of God, just keep trying the best we can.
• Indonesia
1 Dec 12
When I can't have what I want, it's not because life is treating me unfair but because there is something else better for me than the thing I want. I'm human, and I do feel upset when I don't get what I dream or what I want after I put a lot of effort to make it come true, but life always knows the best for me so I have faith in life the up down situation is such a good training for me to appreciate this life more. I may not always get what I want, but what I received is actually what I truly need. I just have this conversation with my long lost friend, what if long ago I didn't choose the option I chose, what if long ago I made another decision, what would happen? Would I got what I wanted? Would I live a happy life? But then I know, if I got what I wanted easily my life would have been so flat, the challenge, the up and down situation is somehow beautiful. I can live a happy life even without things that I want.
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Its true, we cant have what we want all the time. But everything worth having doesn't come easy.=) Sometimes we just have to wait or work really hard to achieve something we really want.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I think that it is very discouraging to to want something that we know we can not have, it makes us just want that something in our lives evenb more. not ralizing that we want cn not be usually does not fall into tthe picture right away.
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Somehow I do agree with you, because as of now our plan of transferring to our newly acquired house are getting so frustrating. Up until now we still have no sure money to pay the move-in fee for us to be able to move and transfer on our house.It was just because the 13th month pay received of my hubby is not enough to pay our move-in fee and to pay for the monthly amortization of the house. So I would agree with you that "the more you wanted to get the things you want, the more it gets tougher to reach/get". And now my hubby is so frustrating to his company because he is now 2 years or so that are working but still receive the same 13th month pay that he receive last year. He thinks that this ain't going any good anyway. Working so hard for a full one year with just getting a not too satisfying benefits as an employee. But we can't question God for what had happen. Maybe it's just not the right time yet. Maybe. I will just hope and pray that somehow we over come this issue and resolve what has to be resolve and may God grant us the strength to face this challenge in our life. I believe that God has reason for doing so. Thanks for a great discussion ^_^
@Mavic123456 (12625)
• Thailand
30 Nov 12
Yes, I will just leave that want after wanting it and working for it several times and still failure. I will psyche myself, it is not meant for you. There are lots of better options in the future. So, I will wait again.. and again and again. Now I am old and single, I am still waiting LOL. Maybe I will have it soon too.
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
That's probably true. If something was meant to be ours, then it's ours. If not, then it wasn't meant to be. But I think what's important is how we cope with the outcome. I mean, we should think positive about things especially if we don't get them. Feeling sad or depressed will only make things worse.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
30 Nov 12
This is a rather hard thing. Sometimes we really don't know why we can't get it. Are we not appropriate? Do we not deserve it? Is it not for us? Or we just have to wait? I constantly overanalyze everything, so I kind of estimate whether I have the chance for getting the thinf or not... if I really don't, even with a broken heart, but I would let it go and look for something else that I want in my life.
@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Yes just let things be, if it's for me it is for me. If not then it's for someone else. Been there you know, so many frustrations in life that sometimes I start to think what could be wrong with me? Then they say don't think about it, other people have bigger problems, count your blessings, etc. I realize that's true I'm luckier than most people. It's just that I want something badly but could not have it and I've done a lot already :(
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
You're right. We can't always have what we want. A good job, a nice house, a luxury car, etc. sometimes even the ones we love. Good for me I had my husband. He's the one I want to spend my life with. Even though I can't have everything in life, I'm satisfied to have my hubby and our son. They are my everything. I hope you can get what you want. Goodluck.
@margies (128)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 12
sorry, i guess we must appreciate that we have today, although maybe you feel disappointed , because what we expected become unexpected... if we always look up , then we will never be satisfied with what we have now. There are many people who have more difficult situation than we are. complacent with what we have, i think it's better, if not, it will make us more miserable. Be grateful with what we have today... :)