unfaithful wife

Philippines
December 1, 2012 2:13am CST
My Father has with his living partner for almost 20 years my father is in 60's and working as a security Guard. My step-mother is 50 yrs of age now. and A freelancer she is always in the field .My uncle do work in the place where she is always there. a bus station. When my uncle talk to her and he introduced himself as a brother of my father's ex-wife.. she said to my uncle that they are already separated.though it is not true, and also my uncle saw him. flirting with one of the bus driver there. Hearing this makes me anger.But if i do,it might get things worst. I've heard these rumor even before.i AM NOT Ready for consequences that who would take care of my father when he got old? I am living w/ my daughter in my auntie's house. My mother has his own family and we are also with them.I am not able to help or take care of Him too. but it also hurts me that she is doing that to my father despite that even my father earns a little He raise her children, They have one daughter but it died After a few months it was born so they don't have anymore children on their own.but only in my step-mother's side and of course us in my father's side.If i do talk to her. although we are not close.for sure she will deny this. or it might lead to argument.AS of now it's only prayers I do..
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6 responses
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
1 Dec 12
It's a sad thing to know that our love ones are being betrayed by someone whom we think we can trust. You can talk to your step mom in a nice way. Tell her to act decently. Not for you but especially for your father. Have a nice day!
@francesca5 (1344)
1 Dec 12
this information about your step mother is all hearsay, you only have your uncle's account of what happened. she is 50 and the chances of her having secret affairs with other people are, in the nicest possible way, reduced as we get older. she may just have a flirtatious personality, and just not grown out of it. obviously i don't know enough about the situation, to offer much advice, but given they have been together for 20 years i would just talk to your father to see if he's happy with the relationship, without spreading gossip, so don't mention the incident. as its only a he said/she said story about her talking inappropriately to a bus driver and your uncle, pretending to be someone else, which is not honest either. just check that your father is happy, and then stop worrying.
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
Thank you very much! and God bless! yap he must follow his heart.i forgot to tell if his happy or not. and will tell it when i have a chance
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
1 Dec 12
You can talk to your dad to plan any possible actions if this issue is proven true. Try to see his reactions, listen to his opinion and discuss for some possible plans. Even if you cannot take care of him right now in your own , there more ways to help him. Goodluck.
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
thank you vernac for your advice. and it makes me realize that I am stil worth and capable to help him despite I am not financially stable
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
This is really sad. Maybe you can talk with your father's live-in partner. I am sure if you talk with her by heart she won't get angry. Just try to open a conversation with her- and slowly open up things that you've heard from other people. Don't accused her directly- just be polite by showing some care for her and your father.
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
her being unfaithful has rumors ever since , and i just ignore it but when my uncle have told me about it , that is the time that i get aware of it and feel angry honestly and hurt too hearing that. We are not that close so I don't know how to start talking to her.I hope God will make a way
• Australia
1 Dec 12
i feel sorry to your father,i could really realized why your step mum still has an teenager personality?what she is looking for?you told that your father being a good father too?why you just told smoothly to your father whats his wife doing,and let him follow your step mum where she is working so that he can really see whats her hiden..it is not fair for your father,even he remarried but still he was your father.
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
yes, it's really upset in my part. Thank God i am not like before that i am starting to change my attitude of being war fraak and trouble maker.. or else i have done something bad with her.Thank you very much for your advice
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
It's sad that your step mom do that to your father. Your father is being nice even to her children and still she betrayed your father. You should talk to your step mom just a girl's talk ask her what is going on why he said that they are already separated. Maybe that time they fight so she said those things. Talk to her in a good manner.
• Philippines
2 Dec 12
yes you are right .. My father is a good one. ok he is not perfect person he drunk too but he have done his obligation .and this step mom of mine at first i feel like her spunk her or broke her into pieces for what I've heard she's doing to my father.. but My faith and fear to God. keeps me cool in this situation.and through the help of this my lot getting good advice from lot members like you.. so i thank you..