"Chatty Kathy!"

United States
December 4, 2012 1:19am CST
I have this close friend of mine who I met when I exchanged neighborhoods and came to a relatively nicer school. Everyone in the neighborhood, while being very rich, are definitely not as snobby as what the media portrayed it to be. Us ourselves in this neighborhood, we live in a fairly big house. I personally didn't want to have this house, but for its time, that's definitely not my choice to make. My friend's name is Michael. I don't mean to take this poorly, but if you imagine an overweight person with hard-rimmed glasses, a "pop-culture" type of T-shirt, and baggy pants, this describes my friend. He's very intelligent and quite an amiable fellow, though he does get in my nerves. Much like how I entitled this discussion, he loves to chat, and can sometimes be one of those broken disc recorders (that simply replay itself.), and it at times really gets on my nerves to the point where I attempt to steer away from discussion with him, though he simply interrupts me and simply goes back onto his topic. Don't get me wrong here.. I'm sure that he's not trying to be a snobby egocentric person when he does this, though I'm not sure how to feel when he does this. I feel that most conversations I've been having with him are pretty much one-sided, where we talk about one thing that me and my friend personally like, but end up being a bit "awkward" toward each other's opinions on the games that we play. This doesn't happen all the time, though they are very noticeable, and need to change. Perhaps I'm at fault here though.. His friends seem pretty happy about his interests and laugh with him during his time playing his favorite game. I'm not sure what to do..
2 responses
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Well, if he is intelligent, then you can tell him that you prefer not to talk so much. Sometimes, people talk when the other person stays quiet. Find some topics to talk about that you can talk with him. Engage in a conversation with him, if possible. I would talk to him. If he still doesn't get it, then don't spend so much time with him.
• United States
6 Dec 12
Hehe, I wish it were like that. I remember this one time where Michael and I literally were "fighting" for the privilege of the one talking. I decided to be submissive, considering how "ferocious" my friend is. He's currently in my college-level mathematics course, which I'm glad, though I don't know how we'll be able to work when much to my knowledge, he only does chat about games to me. But yes, I occasionally attempt to stray away from him, though it's like he's doing that with everyone. I kind of think he's blind to body language, but I guess it's up to me to open his eyes up to that type of body language. Thanks! ^^
@Adoniah (7515)
• United States
4 Dec 12
You seem to be a very "status" oriented person. The way a person dresses, where they live and how they speak seem to be more important than what one is contributing to life. If Michael is well accepted by everyone else, then maybe you need to look inward to discover why he irritates you so.
• United States
6 Dec 12
Yeah, I guess I am. There are times where I don't generally care of what others think of me because I realize that in High school or anywhere else, people will simply judge you before they even realize your true personality. I don't generally believe that Michael is well accepted by everyone else, but he is accepted within a group of friends that I've been in for a very long time. I'm kind of contemplating on this group of friends now, because I have this other friend who is relatively normal to most people that see him, though I know his other side. He doesn't "explode", but his morality is something I can kind of understand. If anything, I believe he made converted my friends into this little cult of his and expects us to join.. Of which of course, I'm not willing to do, because I know that this will go into his head and unfortunately my friends will act that same role and not even realize it.