How to mend a broken heart?

By Vin
Philippines
December 4, 2012 5:30am CST
Heartbreak is perhaps the worst of all ailments. Can a broken heart really be mended? Yes. Based on your experience, how do you do it?
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25 responses
• Indonesia
4 Dec 12
I've experienced it and I can say that I've passed the bad time, I've moved on and it becomes easier when we accept thing as it is, when we let go what has happened, learn from it and believe that there are the right person at the right time. Heartbreak is not nice but it's not that bad. I came to mylot after I broke up with my boyfriend and I still remember I posted a discussion about it..shame shame I won't look back at my childish moment. Yes, it was really hurt at first but as other people have said, time will heal but only when we are willing to move on. I don't feel bad about my past relationship anymore, I don't feel the anger when I talk to my ex boyfriend, no pain and no regret. Actually I started talking with my ex boyfriend again just recently, not as a lover not as enemy, but it's great to see him again, be civil and discuss so many projects again. Talking to other people and get busy ourself with activities can help us to distract our mind from the pain. You don't have to seek another person to replace the one you love, just take everything slowly. I don't have new lover until now, but I can move on and forgot the brokeup.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Thanks for commenting. Some people just want to have someone as replacement so that they can fill in the empty spot in the heart. One way to better move on is to keep oneself busy always. But the most important is the willingness to move on.
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• Indonesia
6 Dec 12
It's okay to open our heart for another person to fill the empty spot, because it's means we are not giving up with love, not locking our self from the world. Some people rather close themself and being cold with love because they feel traumatic with love and relationship. I think try to find someone new is also part of moving on, but make sure that the feeling toward the new person is genuine or else it would be unfair for this new person.
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
That's right.
@ungu89 (2001)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 12
its really take so much time to forget all that pain. until know it already 3 years, i still cannot make it away from me. maybe at certain time that memory come back. huhuhu but still as time pass all the will disappear
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Just hope it will become well for you. You know you will move on. Be strong. Stay at the bright side. Just take a little more time.
@ungu89 (2001)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 12
the time will come when i meet other that is the right one. yet, the time is not today
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
I would like to believe that "time heals all wounds"....but that would just happen if you really let go of the past. It takes time to get over the pain after a broken relationship. And not unless you teach yourself to move on, then no matter how long it takes, still you'd get stuck with that pain. Ways to go through life after an ended relationship: be with your friends, enjoy going to different places and most of all, tell yourself to STOP feeling bad and find something or someone that could make you happy again.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Thanks for replying. Just enjoy life and be happy. Teach yourself to move on.
@ungu89 (2001)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 12
i agreed with u @jenny, "time heals all the wounds" as u really let go all the past. it depend on individual, either u can make is faster or not
@celticeagle (118520)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Dec 12
Broken hearts can be mended. It takes time. You have to give yourself time to get back on track. When you break up with some one you usually feel badly. You might be angry, surprised, hurt, etc. It is important to give yourself time to get over those feelings and move on a bit. Don't jump right back into something immediately. You can really set yourself up for another hurt if you don't give yourself time.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Yeah. That's right. I think you have to give an amount of time for healing after loving again.
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@celticeagle (118520)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Dec 12
Before you try to love again.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
4 Dec 12
I think it is so hard to mend a broken heart. For me , I will start a new relationship then,I will forget the pain.
• United States
5 Dec 12
We call that being "on the rebound". Those type of relationships rarely work out.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
In a way, you just want to mend your heart with someone you don't love fully.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
4 Dec 12
The best way to mend a broken heart is to create new memories. Keep yourself busy, so you don't have time to dwell on your feelings, and then one day out of the blue, when you are not even thinking about it, someone will come into your life and you will form a bond. You will start creating new memories with someone new. You can't contact your old friend, via facebook, email, snail mail or any other social avenues. This will allow someone new to come into your life, you will attract want you want.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Thanks for replying. Just keep yourself and be open to possibilities. Not even knowing you will find someone who will make your heart beat again.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Always
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
5 Jan 13
I think this will differ for every individual. But as they say time will always be the biggest factor. But what you do in that time it takes to heal is what's going to make it easier or more difficult for yourself. If you sit and only think about the lost love, you will make it much harder for yourself. You should take the time to focus on you and something you always wanted to do. Get a new haircut, travel, etc. Also, teaching yourself something new can make you feel proud and worthwhile since we have a tendency after a broken heart to feel worthless. You could teach yourself a new language, read new books and learn about a new culture, etc. Take the time to focus on yourself and better yourself. The healing will come when you don't even expect it in ways you probably didn't even recognize as they were unfolding.
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Yeah. Teach yourself to move on and make yourself feel better. That's what I do too. Maybe improve myself by getting a haircut, workout, and new clothes and be attractive.
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
hi, yes its true that broken heart is one of the worst we will experience in our life,sometimes we need the help of other people just to get rid of that situation,and that what i did when i was in that situation,so i am thankful to my friends and my family who were there for me.
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Yeah. That's why some people don't get into relationships because they don't want to get hurt.
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
It can be mended of course. We are a living creature and we have our own minds aside from hearts... case to case basis, it is easy to mend a broken heart if you will let yourself to love again. It sounds cliche but it is true. But of course in my advices with friends, I will always tell them who asks me for advice that they need time and space to mend their broken hearts. I tell them to entertain dates or indulge themselves on dating to enjoy being single. I am telling them to date and not to fall in love that easy. That they need to relax and never think of being single is not a happy situation. Wait for the right time and for the right one for it is worth waiting than falling with the wrong one again. Mending a broken heart is just like fixing your self again to start new. And forgetting the one who hurts you is just like spitting a bubble gum...
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
What you said is really correct. You need to be that way so that you can move on. Be single and enjoy it. No commitment and pressure.
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
I usually drown myself in -self-pity. Play music that reminds me of......or makes me even more sad. That lasts a few days only. Then I get sick and tired of the 'poor me' feeling and make a new start. Those few days I really need to feel the pain intens, to live through it. After that the biggest and hardest part is over!
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Thanks for replying.
@Shavkat (63477)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
There is nothing wrong if having a broken heart, you will just feel that the world turns upside down. The feeling of rage from within. Thus, you can still get some learning from it.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Yeah. The important thing is to learn from it.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Yes, a broken heart will be mended again if he/she finds someone who can really fix it. Time heals all wounds.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Thanks for commenting.
@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
From experience, yes of course. But it took a long time for me. :-)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Thanks for commenting.
@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Yes I do think that broken hearts can be mended. How can that be done, is first trusting that there is actually someone out there for you. Also, maybe taking time to get over the last heartbreak and possibly trying to find yourself. Then later when you are ready to find someone else then you will and maybe that one person is the one and they could help mend your broken heart and showing that there is true love.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Yeah. In a while, you should help your heart to mend. There is someone always there for you. But you should not wait, but find him or her. That is the most common mistake we make.
@cupkitties (7254)
• United States
5 Dec 12
Since I don't date anymore, its been years since my last heart break. Back then I might have cried and carried on because it would have been the end of the world to me. Now, I look at it like maybe this was not the person for me. That means the right person is still out there so why should I spend my time sulking about? I won't allow myself to be like that. Plus when you act that way, it gives power to the person who hurt you.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Yeah. If you act this way, it gives power to the person who hurt you. We should show no weakness and be strong. You know there will be someone out there.
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
4 Dec 12
To mend a broken heart it is good to continue being there while being supportive. Disappearing and being upset would be the worse thing you could do! It might take a while, but I am sure the broken heart would soon be mended!
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Yeah. Just be positive and avoid being negative.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
4 Dec 12
It is a waste of your time, you just have to look for a new one. Mending a broken heart will only increase your pain and make your suffering last longer. It is not worth saving at all.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Thanks for commenting.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
4 Dec 12
Hi jvincent, Yes speaking from a person who has had a broken heart, I do know for sure that broken hearts mend..It may take a little time and most time it will will take a good amount of time...But believe me you will definately get over it.. The hurt isn't just a hurt its a real Pain... Do whatever it takes for you to move on...
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
Thanks for commenting.
@youless (92244)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Dec 12
According to my experience, it does take a long time to mend a broken heart. Just let it be and as time goes by, you will feel less painful. Especially when you find the right one, then you will forget the past. You may even doubt why in the past you were just so silly. Time is the best medicine.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Yeah. Thanks for commenting.
@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
good day jvincent_129, mending a broken heart starts from the person who encounter this situation. since he/she knows how his/her heart will treat this. although, generally, a person who encounters this sometimes needs a friend to talk to. perhaps, to divulge all those not so nice situation that have happened.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Yeah. You need a friend to talk to so that you can express yourself to somebody else.