Married at young age a gift or a disaster

Indonesia
December 6, 2012 7:38pm CST
many people say getting married at a young age with divorce-prone because of emotional maturity to marry but some people choose get married at older age while emotionally it was nice but too late to enjoy the love of life like having a child. where the most good.
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@lizyuson (10)
7 Dec 12
i think people must commit themselves into marriage only if both of them are stable in all aspects like emotionally, financially and spiritually. Age is a factor to be considered since maturity occurs over years. However, it may also depend on the couple since development differs among individuals.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
I think that the most important thing to put into consideration is the maturity of the couple- do both of them think that they are ready to face life together? Are they ready to take responsibilities other than just for themselves? Are they financially stable? The time of marriage should be regardless of age, but should be about being emotionally matured, spiritually-centered and financial secured.
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@allknowing (66751)
• India
7 Dec 12
There are so many permutations and combinations for a marriage to be successful, regardless of at what age one marries. When people decide to marry late in life it is more for companionship. They prefer to have someone in their life rather rather than live alone.
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@ctryhnny (3463)
• United States
7 Dec 12
The first time I was married I was just out of high school and it was basically a set up between my family and his. So we were both 18 at the time. 3 kids and 12 years later we were divorced. My son got married when he was 32 and his wife 26. They have only been married 3 years but lived together for 6. They now have a 9 month old son and my son is talking about a daughter in the near future because he feels like he's getting too old to have more children whereas his wife is still young and has a lot of years ahead of her. There are pros and cons for both. In a way I was happy that I had kids very young...19...because I had the energy to keep up with them. Getting married older makes it harder when your thinking about having kids. You don't want to be 70 when they graduate from high school.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
I would like to agree with your statement. I am 27 years old now and will get married next year. I just realized that, if only I had a stable job after I graduated college and a good boyfriend , I should have had settled down at 21 or 22. In this way, maybe I have 2 or 3 children now and when I am about 50 I can already retired early. Getting married at young is a great idea if only you and your partner have stable job and your both in love, without these two factors there is a big tendency for a disaster.
@Shavkat (63616)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Nowadays, it is not likely getting married at a younger age. The mere fact, some women are more empowered and know what is right for them. On the other hand, there is no age limit of getting married, they can do at younger age or not.
• India
7 Dec 12
Hi apriadiq Well it is difficult to brand marriage at young age as either a gift or a disaster. I havent met many people who were married at young age but I can tell you what I feel about it. I prefer marrying at a mature age say late 20s because my philosophy in life is that one should enjoy every part of life. If one married immediately after his/her education, he/she loses their bachelor part of life, which in my opinion is one of the most care free time of life where you can try out crazy things. So I prefer marrying after 25 at least. Anyways have a nice day and welcome to mylot.. =SuperShames=
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Dec 12
I got married at 20 years old and my husband and I are still together and married. Not all young marriages fail. If you know you know, no matter what age you are... My husband and I knew we were meant for each other, we complete each other. We got married 8 years ago and still going strong...
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
A very nice topic! Personally, I would say that it would really depend on each person's views in life and it would also depend on how he or she will handle the situation. Perception of a person is also one factor that could surely affect the situation. Knowing the fact that when we hear the word gift, it represents happiness. But haven't you experienced receiving a gift which you did not like even if it was given to you heartily?.. My point is, even if we encounter disaster or receive a gift...It does not really matter...What matters most is how you will handle the situation.. Because there are things that are nice for you and may not be nice for others, there are also things that may not be nice for you but are nice for others...Its just really a matter of choice for me..:)
• India
7 Dec 12
Marriage is important in our life and every one must marry their beloved person to enjoy the life and to give the real meaning to the life we lived. But marriage in the young age is not a good thing. We must have maturity to get marriage. Infatuation are quite common in the young age, some people think that the infatuation is the real love and wish to marry the person whoever they have crush. Even some persons marry their crush secretly during their school and college days without any maturity. This kind of activity is wrong and it will spoil the entire life. This kind of quick marriages never last long and end with a break up or divorce. School and college days are the time for studies, we must concentrate with our studies and know about the difference between the love and infatuation. True and real love have the ability to wait for a long time, if your love is a real one then you must wait until completing your studies and find a proper job to settle down in the life. After getting job and maturity we can marry our beloved person without any issues. Marriage is not a simple thing as well as child's play. It is an important event in our life, so we must be very careful before taking the marriage decision. We must be ready to face various responsibilities after marriage, we must be ready to face the challenges before our marriage. If we get married at our school or college days, we don't concentrate with our studies as well as don't face all the responsibilities in the marriage life. So marriage in the young age is really a great curse as well as disaster, it will spoil our entire life as well as we are spoiling our education due to our unwanted marriage. So never think about marriage in your young age which is the age for studies and hard work.
@mandy8611 (154)
• China
7 Dec 12
couples do need to take a long time to know each other before getting married, marriage life long, we have to make sure what kind of person he/she is. I think it's better to get married at older age, most people will get more mental maturity as they go older, they will have more experience to get along with others,then there will be less argues in thier marriage.divoice not only cause harm to the couple. but also to two families and the kids if they have had kids.so I think we have to take marriage seriously
@mrsuniega (789)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
getting married at a very young age is not advisable since young who are involved with these are not yet equip with responsibilities. for me right time right age is what a proper way to get marry.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
7 Dec 12
They say that wisdom comes with age... When young people gets married and stick through, I would say they have determination and count their vows to each other very high. Perhaps we quit to easy?
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 12
Well, you don't want to get married when you are too old. You can be as young as a teenager to get married but just think about how can you feed your wife and children. So, study hard, get a good work, and marry are the age between 18-25 (Women) and 20-30(Men) Since Mens have to provide for the family, it's fair to wait till before 30 to get married so we can get a good steady income and savings before starting a family.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
7 Dec 12
It was for me... I married at 19. Im sure now I was to young. The good thing is I made a great son out of it. Im proud of that. If I re marry Ill do things alittle different this time around. Take care there.
7 Dec 12
Disaster.
@nykalex88 (244)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Its better to enter married life at the age between 24 and 28. Not so young, not so old. There are so many differences when you were married young or old. But when you're married just in time, there will be a lesser problem. I am now 28, my wife-to-be is pregnant with our second daughter. Although we are not still considered as married, I already think that we are. I like to have children at my young age so that we can spend more quality time when they are grown up.
@youless (92401)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Dec 12
I tend to think that marring at young age is a disaster than a gift. As people are still not mature at that time. And they may just students and they should focus on study. Since that, they don't have a job to support a family. And not a good education cause they hardly find a good job. The finance is usually a problem to lead to a disaster for a marriage. Besides they are so young at that time, they don't know how to give in and understand each other, it will make the marriage fail. If they get married so young, they probably don't know that they may meet a right one when they grow up.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 12
Some people married young not knowing what is in store for them. Marriage is not all about 'bed and breakfast' kind of thing. The moment one sign on the dotted lines the euphoria of love slowly dissipate and in come the responsibilities that would shock the immature young brides. Being married young is only killing the joy of youth as married life automatically push a person to assume the role of wife and later mother. But it is not all that bad marrying young as having kids early means we got to enjoy grandchildren or ggrandchildren when we are still not too old.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
I agree with you that many couple who married at the young age not stay long. Even here in our country that is no divorce those marriage in young age experience family problem and result to separation...
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
I got married when I was 21 years old. Almost two months before I turned 22. My husband and I have a lot of differences when it comes to disciplining a child, etc. We often argue. I'm glad that we are able to meet halfway all the time. I don't have any plan to get an annulment because I want to grow old with him. I just want him to realize his mistakes and change for the better. Nobody's perfect. We've been married for 8 years now. I hope we'll make it until we get old. Life is full of trials. :)