Forgiveness: Easy to give or not?

@deine86 (115)
Philippines
December 7, 2012 1:48am CST
Hi there everyone, have you experienced being cheated by your partner? On my side, yes I experienced it not once but twice. I'm very angry and I don't want to see his face again, since that day, I decided to stop seeing or talking to him. I've erased his number on my phone. Everyday when I see his number pop up on my phone, I will cancel it. He send many text messages to me asking for forgiveness. He comes daily to our house hoping that one day I will forgive him. I don't talk to him or either be with him. Don't you think I'm so rude, I just want an advise, can anyone give their opinion, thanks!
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10 responses
• United States
7 Dec 12
I think it really takes a smart person to leave a cheater. I say this because I would never stay with a cheater. as hard as it is to up and leave I will every time. I think it is a blessing to find out before you get invested even more or you catch something you can't cure.
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@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
7 Dec 12
It is easy to forgive why not? Who are we not to forgive people who have sinned or offended us. Who are we to put on judgement to a person. It is easy to forgive, if you think that you also make mistake. What is not easy is forgetting... It is not easy to forget that one time in your relationship this person cheated on you. It is not easy to forget the pain it caused you. It is not easy to forget that this person made you look like a fool. It is easier to forgive than to to forget. [b] "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. " ~ Lewis B. Smedes[/b] http://www.inspirationalspark.com/forgiveness-quotes.html
7 Dec 12
To forgive would be easier if you will have a closure. By talking to him face to face and expressing how you really feel. about what he did. It is by releasing your anger that you will really be free from it.
• Thailand
7 Dec 12
Certainly... if he asked forgiveness why not.. this the time to smashing him words of the expressions .. how hurt he inflicted on her. just to release.. i agree.. strongly agree
• Thailand
7 Dec 12
LOL, such a bad grammar I have above.. maybe I was already sleepy when i typed those, or maybe I really had a bad grammar day. Welcome back bali... how are you doing? It is nice to see you in my box. What is inner beauty?
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hi, actually it also happened that to me when my ex partner cheated me,though he opened it with me i was still angry with him but on the other side he was still sincere with me because even he knows he cheated me he still opened it to me,when he told me sorry then i forgave him because i loved him but when he will do it again then i think we should need to have a space.
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
7 Dec 12
Want my honest opinion? Once a cheat always a cheat, sorry but if he has done it the once, what's to stop him doing again, plus you will always have the suspicion of him doing again, say if he's late, or he makes an excuse not to see you, you will be wondering if he's seeing someone else! Life's too short, you are worth much more, his loss, maybe it will teach him a lesson NOT to cheat in future, but sadly some guys never learn and will continue to cheat on others.
• Kenya
7 Dec 12
Forgiving takes away lots of burdens from us; So for give him and you don't have to get back together simply because you've forgiven him. That will depend on you whether to forgive and leave the man or reconcile. All the best.
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 12
Well, just be nice and forgive him. But never even think about getting back together. Personally, i would just leave my partner if she cheated on my but in peace.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
7 Dec 12
No it's not easy to forgive. It's easy to say you forgive but it's proved in reality most people are not able to. Sooner or later (even years later) they still remember what happenend and it is still bothering them, it's even making them sick. Saying you forgive someone because society, your believe, etc want you to is not realistic and it will make you sick. It's better to admit you are not able to. To say what you really feel, to express yourself. If you hold it in it will kill you. After that go on with your life and let the other person (the cheater) do the same. Fact is broken trust is broken trust. The only reason why you should forgive is so the cheater can go on and pretend nothing has happened. No I don't think you are rude. I think he is. It's rude to stalk someone, it's also rude and stupid not to understand that if you do keep stalking someone you will NOT give that person a chance at all to get over what is happened. That way you keep confronting someone with what happened and what you did.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Dec 12
i think its wise to cut off from a cheating partner early enough to avoid more heartache.i dont think you are being unfair i think he deserves it.he has shown what kind of a person he is so why should you want to forgive and go back to him after this.find someone who will respect your relationship.the leading causes of marriage break ups is infidelity,so if you have seen the danger signs stay off.
@betty1989 (752)
• China
7 Dec 12
if you are treated by him, I bet you must be very angry and you do not want to see him or talk to him anymore. But have you evr think this will do nothing to you, just nothing. If you try to forgive, time will let you forget the pain he gave you and then you will be able to forget and there is nothing about him since he means little to you. Everything he did is meanless to you since you donot care about him.
@betty1989 (752)
• China
7 Dec 12
If you are treated by someone, first you must be angry and you do not want to see him anymore since you are hurt by him. Anger overcome everything. Everything about hin will make you irritate. But, have you ever think if you keep acting like this, what will you get? Mothing, just nothing. Forgiveness can make you forget he has ever treated on you.