Do you mind going out, or to the movies by yourself?

United States
December 7, 2012 7:09am CST
Now that I think my husband is intent on getting me upset I'm pretty sure that I'm going to have to start making a personal evening for myself.Whether I go out with friends or do something by myself. Since he doesn't offer to watch our daughter for me I'm just going to start letting him know that I'm going out and that he will have to watch Viv. I'm looking forward to doing more things by myself as well as spending time with my friends. I really do need time for myself and since he doesn't offer to help I'm just going to have to implement it myself.
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13 responses
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
I don’t mind watching a film by myself. If the film really interests me, then why not watch it on my own… I had some experiences watching films by myself, going to the movie theatre with me all alone. Since my colleagues are very busy and most of them are living far from my location, I tend not to disturb them with their private lives. And I really want to watch the movie so I had no choice but to watch it by myself.
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• United States
19 Dec 12
Yeah I feel the same way. Sometimes it's a last minute decision and so I don't want to bother others when they are busy. And I feel that it is the opportunity for me to do something that I enjoy so I should.
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Hehe true. Most especially when you crave to watch the premiere or the film and you long wait for it for a couple of months or so, and when the released date had come, no one will go with you to watch such film hahahaha so, you have no choice but to watch it all along. Thanks for your response.
@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
8 Dec 12
I can go out and see movies alone or by myself. I have no problem with these. and about you? yes, it is time for you to take some time off, even alone or with friends, there is nothing wrong with that. You need some breather too. You need to own a space for yourself also. You need to breathe some polluted air too. LOL. and besides that will be a good daddy-daughter bonding. He will get to know what little Viv can do. He has to know how adorable she is now. He should not let any chance of this little girl's growing up to slip in his seeing. so yes, go and have fun...
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• United States
8 Dec 12
Yeah I had a good time. Last night I went by myself since I had just recently thought about going. But it was nice to get out of the house and do something for myself.I will though next time make arrangements with one of my friends that I really enjoy hanging out with. We haven't been able to get together in awhile.
• Thailand
8 Dec 12
that's nice to know and now you are revived and energized, ready again to work all your routine jobs. It is really nice. You have breathe polluted air. LOL. welcome back then.. and glad that you have enjoyed it.
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@sriroshan (2586)
• India
7 Dec 12
I use to go alone to watch the movie before marriage. But now I never go or avoid going alone to movie. I do go for the movies in the Theater with my office staff, but most of the time I go for the movie with my children and husband.
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• United States
8 Dec 12
I'm glad to hear that you go out to the movies with your husband and children and that really is a good thing. I was able to go out by myself and I had a good time. I think it is really a great thing for me to be able to do this. It is time just for myself. Since I have my daughter all day from the time she gets up until she goes to bed it's nice for me to make time for myself. So my daughter was able to stay home and spend time with her dad.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
9 Dec 12
Yes I always prefer this and you know when we all go together for the movies after that we just go for outing and that's the reason we prefer to go for evening show. After movie get over we go for dinner out, this is not always but once in a month or two month depending upon my hubby free time
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
10 Dec 12
I honestly have to say that for me it really depends. Now I don't mind to go to the movies or something like that by myself occasionally. I also don't mind to go out with friends to a bar or something like that if we are having a girls night (I'll leave my hubby at home with the kiddos). However, if I have a friend that is going out with her significant other and they invite me along, that is something that makes me uncomfortable and I won't go out by myself in those kinds of situations.
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• United States
10 Dec 12
Yeah that can be uncomfortable especially if we feel out of place. It is nice to have a girl's night out every now and then. I'm planning on having one in a month or two. I'm excited about it because everyone that I invited is interested and able to go. It will be in a different state and we will get a hotel room so we will have to start saving now for it. But I'm excited.
@ARIES1973 (9531)
• Legaspi, Philippines
8 Dec 12
Well, if that decision could make you feel better, then go for it. You also deserve some time to relax. Personally, I go out alone also. Doing some shopping by myself and meeting some friends. Although it seldom happens because Iam so busy nowadays. Enjoy your day!
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• United States
8 Dec 12
I did go out and I had a good time. Next time though I will make plans to go to a different town and spend some time with my friend who I haven't seen in awhile. I enjoy doing things with my friends and I'm going to start doing it more. I have been in such a routine of not spending time with friends because my husband is so anti-social. But I'm a social person so I need to spend time with them.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Dec 12
Sounds like you've been handed the keys to freedom! It is good that you have moved on and thought about yourself and making a social life for yourself, even if your husband has made his thoughts and feelings clear, make him think you CAN enjoy yourself without his company. When I left my ex, it was quite over-whelming, being able to do what I wanted, go where I wanted, and who I saw, it's great doing what you want to do and not having to compromise. I do most things on my own like going out etc, I can please myself totally, it's heaven.
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• United States
8 Dec 12
Yeah I'm glad that I have the decision to do this. It is something that I need to do for myself. I really enjoying going out of the house and doing things. Since I'm home most of the day. So I went to the movies and had a good item. I'm also making arrangements to hang out with my friends for a night or weekend trip. I'm looking forward to that. I haven't been able to do something like that in a long time.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
7 Dec 12
Now that I am married, I really love hanging out with my husband. But honestly, sometimes I wanna go out with just friends too. Specially shopping, guys don't enjoy this specially going to different stores and trying out on some clothes. They're straight and precise on what they want to buy then go home, I just don't enjoy this.
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• United States
8 Dec 12
Glad to hear that you enjoy spending time with your husband. That is a great thing. There are things that we as women like to do that men don't. I enjoy going to the movies with my friends,out to eat, shopping things like that. My husband and his brothers enjoy playing hours of video games.
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
7 Dec 12
I used to feel really self concious about going places alone but I grew out of it and really like my alone tme. If you notice people out alone somewhere, watch and see what the do. Most read at dinner or find something to do. Most look relaxed.
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• United States
9 Dec 12
Yeah people who are alone do genuinely seem like they are able to relax more. I think that when we do things by ourselves we are able to focus more on our thoughts. That helps a lot with our getting what we want from our life pursuing goals and things like that.
@lowloy (316)
• United States
7 Dec 12
i usually have more fun by myself, because i don't wait for someone to get done doing what they are doing. i will have the freedom to move as i please, but at the same time the person that is not with you and wants to be will feel upset to miss out on your company. i feel obligation to include others with me since they are apart of me. responsibilities come with being married and of sharing ourselves with those we love even if it is making us miserable, bt free time is expected as well. sometimes we have to be smothered with love from the other in order to learn the value of relationships.
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• United States
9 Dec 12
I agree with you. When we do things by ourselves we are able to go at our own pace. That is why I went to the movies by myself the other night. Since I had just thought of going the night before it would have been hard to get together with my friends. We all have different schedules. And the friend that I know would have been able to go she lives 30 minutes away and I would have had to go pick her up. So at times it's not bad for us to go out on our own.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
7 Dec 12
Everyone needs time alone sometimes, but I do not want time alone while I know there's an angry partner at home. Is he not perhaps scared to take care of the baby by himself? Try talk to him again.
• United States
9 Dec 12
Yeah my husband he wasn't upset about me going out. He just doesn't offer so I have to just let him know that I will be going out that night or day. Now that our daughter is older he doesn't have as hard of a time watching her as he did when she was an infant.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Dec 12
i think as long as he understands you are out by yourself,he will understand your position and probably be challenged to do something for you.it would be so bad if he thinks you are going out with someone and the tables turn against you.just talk to him and make he understand you need help and support even with your daughter.
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• United States
9 Dec 12
Yeah I have talked with him about needing his help and support. We will have to see what happens. Hopefully he will start to help me. He knows that i would only go out by myself or with my friends. He doesn't worry about me cheating or anything like that.
@caopaopao (8562)
• China
7 Dec 12
I can feel what you are feeling now. It's really tired to watch child by ourselves. It's lucky for me that my husband usually helped me to take care of my daughter when she was little. Go out and feel relaxed, I believe it will do good for your health and feelings. Enjoy yourself, dear!
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• United States
11 Dec 12
I completely agree with you. I was able to go out and I had a good time. It's nice to be able to do things for ourselves every now and then. I hope to go out again sometime soon with my friends. I had a nice time.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
7 Dec 12
Hi... I don't mind being on my own... In fact, I have been on my own for years. So these days I actually prefer to be on my own than to be with people... Guess, I've become kind of a loner... And enjoying it too... There is nothing wrong in being alone or on your own, as long as you can take care of yourself and as long as you enjoy your own company... :-)
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