have you ever got over your'e first love?

United States
December 7, 2012 10:14am CST
I know alot of you don't really know me but I have been with this one guy for 13 years I thought it was true love until one day out of the blue this guy finds me on a site tells me he never stopped caring for me and he could take care of me now that he has a job and he wants us to be together for ever and always he was my first everything and now I talk to him on a site and I am very confused what would you do?
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
in life that kind of situation usually happen,i have some known people who closed to me who have been experienced that,they thought they are the one then after many years the love will gone unexpectedly,and its really hurt and very pain.
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@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
14 Dec 12
Leave both of them until you can think clearly. You don't deserve either one if you are this confused. True love is about commitment, not just about some fanciful feelings. This guy 'out of the blue' did indeed stopped caring for you because actions speak louder than words. He never cared for you for 13 years while the guy you are with, I am sure does care for you with his actions. He certainly hasn't put you out on the street, so he must care enough about you to make sure you have a roof over your head. True love is about loyalty. So, you really want to go back to a guy, who for 13 years never had his act together enough to have a job to be able to care for you until now? True love is about thinking clearly. When you are really in love with a person, it means you have the ability to think clearly.
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@Shavkat (18120)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
It is been a decade to feel the old moment with my first love. I got over being head to heels to this person. It is not a mistake, but it is a learning process to move on. We may fall in love over and over again, but we can withstand to move on. It is like a cycle, but we can change the cycle to find the right one along the road.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Well, my story is a lot different from yours, but similar as well. I really did think for a long time that I had gotten over my first love. But then, I went down to my friend's house to pick up my kids (they were spending the night with her and her children) and when I got there, he was there with his then youngest and that was a little bit odd because I hadn't seen him in years. Well, several months later he tracked me down on facebook and we had a long late-night conversation. I told him that I wanted to be friends with him again. He said that we might be able to do that but he would always have feelings for me. It was at that point that I realized that I did still have some feelings for him. I do maintain a friendship with him, but I can tell you that I rarely visit with him if his sister (my best-friend) isn't with me.
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@edvc77 (2144)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Would you believe I had my first love at the age of 30? :-) And I married at the age of 36 with another man. I don't know why it happened that way. Sometimes I thought of my first love from time to time. He was married too already. Maybe we just really meant to be. Thanks for this discussion. Have a nice day!
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@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
It would really depend. I believe that there's only person that would know what to do, you. You would know if your love deserves a second chance or to just let go. You can hear a lot of advises but at the end of the day, it's only you who can decide for yourself. Hope you'll make the right one.
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• United States
7 Dec 12
I would always love wayne but he could never get me back. although he tried in the past as well. he cheated on me when he was in the army and I would never take him back after that. If you love this man set yourself free so you could be happy.
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@Hatley (130439)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Apr 13
hi lanieky on a site but not face to face Are you even sure this is the one whom you knew before?I think if you love the man you live with that you should be careful of someone on the net., If you want to know more you will have to meet face to face and do you love this man just because he says all those sweet things to y ou? do you even know if this is the same guy or some one else? you are on the net and often people hide on the net.