Love in distance...

Philippines
December 7, 2012 11:05am CST
I felt something special for someone so far from where I am. But I couldn't express or even share it to anyone, well, except here. I always hear the same question whenever I share about it "how well do you know him?". They said, that, you wouldn't really know someone unless they're at your side, unless you see them, watch them and get to know them in person. Whenever I think of this, I feel a little pain, is it possible to love despite the distance? Can love grow even if two people are so far from each other? Shall I continue feeling that something special or would rather stop it?
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16 responses
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
You are not alone roselavon. I am also in a long distance relationship for three years and I do not know that we have reach this far. We really love each other and we are always longing to be with each others side. Yeah, It is very hard to be in a relationship in a distance but only the two of you can say and do that you can do it if you believe that the two of you can. Trust is the recipe of a long distance relationship and it really measures how the two lovers love each other. How far they can do and their patience to wait for the right time to be together.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 12
wow.. Thanks Kokomo, you somehow inspire me;)..
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
My pleasure ;)
@nytrisco (567)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Hi there rose, here is my point of view on this one. I am not being negative and all but these are based on some of my friends' stories and experiences on long distance relationship. It is very hard, It's like there are only 40% chances that this kind of relationship will work. The main reason why it will not usually work is because people who are in this situation are seeking a physical attention. Even though your are video calling, texting, sending email to each other often, but it is very different if you could see your love one in person, you could touch and hold him/her and express how you feel. Sometimes they cannot resist anymore, it's either your love one will gonna go home to see their partner or search for a new partner in their area. Second, misunderstanding, since they are far from their love one, and the time is usually different, they tend to misunderstood each other because they will going thought that their partner is not giving them time anymore. I remember my friend who is worked at Saudi Arabia for 2 years, all of her roommates had relationships, and some already had planned with their marriages, but due to their long distance relationships, after a year, all of them on their apartment turned to single again. I am not telling you that it might not work because at the end of the day, it is up to your decision on how you handle your relationship. Goodluck!
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• Philippines
11 Dec 12
nice one nytrisco;). Well, the world is different though. Some things work for some, some doesn't;).. I'm about to figure out, where am I at.. Thanks.
@songst557 (232)
• China
8 Dec 12
Enjoy your feeling first,I have several friends who got married with their beloves got known on internet,so take this relationship serious.But at the same time keeping a wary heart,there is no doubt the liers on the internet more then in life.
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• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
8 Dec 12
hi rose, well i would suggest you to go for it, coz even im in the same situation. Im in a different country and she's another..she knows about it but she says we can just be frens. But my love for her is not goin to be less till the end of time. And they say you only realise the value of a person when he/she is not with you. So give it a try, make him realise the same what you feel for him, and may be a day comes when he praposes you and you'll be on top of the world..
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
It is possible for a love to grow even with the distance. But it is also important that the person loves you back. If you're the only one loving, then that might be a problem for you. It takes two to tango you know.
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
9 Dec 12
I agree with you my fren, But don't you agree that at first love starts from one side and then it becomes mutual,Well the person you are loving should realise that he/she is important in someones life, only then he/she will start to think is that perspective, orelse he/she would be under the impression that they are just friends. what say..?
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
I can see your point rajendraingale. What I realize here is that, people have different ways. All of us are unique when it comes in loving. Maybe for some, long distance doesn't work out for them, while others do;). I love everyone's opinion though:). And thanks for another nice one coming from you..
• India
12 Dec 12
Hi friend, There is nothing wrong in long distance relationship if we have proper trust and understanding with each other, first of all you must know about him very well and have a good understanding with him, if you are 100% sure about him, then there is nothing wrong in having distant love
@mhean30 (28)
• United Arab Emirates
11 Dec 12
Long distance relationship is possible. If the two person in love will believe, trust and honest to each other distance will not be a problem. Of course you need know more about him.
@betty1989 (752)
• China
8 Dec 12
love is not about distance or I can feel you when at my side. Love is even there is distance, you can still fell each other deeply. I have four years' long distance relationship. I can keep things going well with my love since I can fell him when he is not at my side. Distance makes our love more pure, more real since distance cannot stop me loving him. Love is great. Come on, mylotter. have a nice day.
• India
8 Dec 12
Hi friend, distance is not a factor for real love, we can have good love even though we are living far away from our beloved person, but we must have proper trust and understanding with each other to make our relationship strong
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
It is but normal for us to fall in love to the person whom we feel is so special to our hearts. It may be near or far from us but we really feel, how much that person loves us and respects us. No matter how far they may be, but the sense of being there always for you, talking and sharing his/her thoughts to you is but enough to show that he or she loves you back. But, it is better to really know a person personally, because sometimes their are people or persons who presume that they are good but are different when in person. Just pray that the person whom you fall in love with is just as good as he seems to be in person when you have a chance to see him or her.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
8 Dec 12
Long distance relationships are a gamble - no matter how much you love the other person, it is a risk. Reality is that things can go wrong and challenge the relationship if it is not strong enough. On the other hand, it may never happen to you. I think it is very important to not put your heart on someone you barely know....take your time and check things out.... carefully...
@hyden06 (87)
• Indonesia
8 Dec 12
There is no limit in love. If you love what are you doing, go on. It hurt if love has restrain. Every one is free for love. Now, the distance is not a problem. We can talk with telephone and we can chatting on internet and there are many ways to communicate with other in long distance.
• United States
8 Dec 12
I would say that if you two are able to spend time with each other and really make a connection with each other then continue to have those feelings for the guy. Be sure that he is on the same page as well because, you do not want to be the only one with feelings and want to show those feelings to him when doesn't feel the same. That will really make things bad. Things are possible to make things happy you just have to go for it. At least try. You won't know if this is worth your wild if you do not try.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
8 Dec 12
it's not impossible. but it also depends on the persons involved. if he feels the same as you feel for him, you will both be open to each other and trust will be built and then Love gets stronger this is what happened between me and my husband when we met online this is why long distance worked for us. we got married after 1 yr long distance. but we know not everyone is trustworthy, especially online we never truly know
• China
8 Dec 12
Well in your case may be we should call it a "love feeling"but not a really love,because you still do not know this guy. So you have two choices,one is go for that guy and tell him you like him,the other one is stop this thinking.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Everything is possible to happen if you allow it. The only thing is, are you ready for the consequences that comes along with it? It is still best to know the person well enough before you pour your heart and soul out to that person.
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
Loving someone is not based upon when you are together. Distance is not also an issue for being in love. Love is so wonderful and can bring magic into our life. When I said magic, it is not about like fantasy and fairy tale... It's all about how wonderful our feeling is. Well, personally I don't know you and I don't know what's the reason behind of this feeling of yours. I just like to respond to your question about how possible to fall in love from a distance. Well, I think it is happening and it is possible too. But are you sure you are into love? Maybe you are just attracted, infatuated or having a big crush to that person? I am not contradicting your words, I am just being rational and look for the every side. Just think of that... If ever you will say that "yes, I am truly inlove!" then it is what you are feeling and not ours and no one shall say that they don't believe you. But whatever anyone will say, what you feel really matters. Good luck to this beautiful feelings of yours!