Boyfriend gift dilemma!

@besweet (7227)
Greece
December 7, 2012 6:20pm CST
I want to buy a gift for my boyfriend, it will be for his birthday and Christmas. My choice for this year will be clothing, because my budget is m lower than previous years. I know that he wants a new pair of jeans and I was looking to get him one online, from the site that I usually order my clothing. However, even though I know his size I am worried that it might not fit because I don't know his measurements. Every time I order my dresses and jeans I do it based on the specific measurements of my body and I have seen thay sometimes sizes are different depending on the brand. My other option is to give him the money and let him choose what he wants. Tomorrow he will go with his friend at the big city to watch a race and I am thinking that it's a good opportunity to send him try some jeans and pay for them. But then the whole gift idea will dissapear because it won't be a surprise! Should I give him the money tomorrow before he leaves or search online and risk buying something that won't fit his body?
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@adhyz82 (36262)
• Indonesia
8 Dec 12
what about if you measure his body? or maybe you ask him without he recognize that you want to buy him jeans?
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
I could ask but he doesn't know the measurements and I can't measure him and be discrete about it! lol I know his size but it's difficult with jeans, sizes might be slim or regular fit etc, and I will need the hip measurement to be sure!
@adhyz82 (36262)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 12
maybe...it can`t be surprised anymore for him..right?
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@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
8 Dec 12
I think it would be a risk to buy his clothes online. Sure you would not want to ask him for his size now and spoil the surprise. What about a gift voucher where he can buy something at his special shop?
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
A gift voucher would be nice, thanks for the idea. I might be able to give him one in time and then he will be able to buy it himself. But it looks more like a gift if I give him the voucher, instead of giving him the money. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
I think it would be better if you buy it on a department store or mall so that you can see the jeans for yourself before buying it and you can return it immediately if it doesn't fit. I don't think giving him money so that he can buy his surprise jeans would be a great idea for a gift. My brother received a gift certificate from his girlfriend and he was so sad although he did not tell his girlfriend about it. So maybe a wrapped jeans would be much appreciated.
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@Mavic123456 (15161)
• Thailand
8 Dec 12
Money for boyfriend? I don't give money as a gift. I give it because I give it definitely not a gift. I don't know money is not a gift for me. It is just something you give to a person when he/she needs it. It is just something to give to a person when you want to help this person, or when you have extras like, winning in a small town lotto or getting huge bonus. A gift is a gift to me that I have thought of and had spent time choosing it. a gift for me is me who represents my thoughts and how I see the person's personality. A gift for me is a tangible item, that could show how I appreciate a person. That's why when I am asked what do you like.. I would reply, what ever you think that will fit me and what you know I will be needing. In this way, i can also see if this person gifting me truly know me. I apologize, for this reply.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
Don't apologise, I know what you mean. I used to be like that and I was buying wonderful and successful gifts for others. But then things changed and there are so many friends and gifts that I buy all the time, that I want to do it fast! With my boyfriend it's not like that, I want to get him what he needs and now he wanted a new pair of jeans. Last Christmas, my boyfriend bought for me a very nice and expensive coat. It was wonderful and he talked with my friends to find the size. He bought the Small size and it's a perfect design, but it doesn't fit me and I I only had 15 days to change it but didn't have the chance to travel 2 hrs to go to the store and find something else. It looks baggy on my body, but when my friend tried it on it was great on her and we generally wear the same sizes! Anyway, I still have the coat hanging in my closet and I feel bad because he had spend all that money and I can't wear it. I also went to the tailor who tried to make it fit but it didn't. I will try again this year with a new tailor because it's a shame.
@Mavic123456 (15161)
• Thailand
9 Dec 12
I am glad you did not take any offense on this. I might sound unfavorable. Anyway, I couldn't buy dress for anyway as present, I am too stupid with the size. grrrr.. I don't know how to estimate. go whatever you think is the best for your BF.
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@galileo2008 (1147)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
We have the same dilemma. I thought of giving my boyfriend a polo shirt this Christmas so he could use it when he goes to work, but I am afraid that it won't fit him. I am thinking if giving him a wristwatch instead and I am keeping my fingers crossed that he will like it.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
15 Dec 12
A watch is a safer solution. But the polo shirt is also a good idea,.I bought one for my bf last year. What I did in order to get the right size was simple. I found a polo shirt from a brand that he wears already and checked the size of the one that he already had. So I was sure that it would fit him. It's not the same with jeans though, except from the sizes they have the regular fit, the slim fit or the lon one. So many that he has to try it first in order to be sure!
• India
12 Dec 12
Hi friend, there is nothing wrong in ordering cloth for him using the online sites, but if it is not fit for him, then your gift don't have any meaning. Better to give money to him and let him to select his dress by his own.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
13 Dec 12
I think ordering online with the risk of getting something that does't fit has no point. I gave it some thought and realised thay if its not a gift that only I will be able to change for him later, then I don't give him the freedom to get the design of the jeans that he wants.
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
9 Dec 12
I think it would be more fun if you took him shopping. Every gift does not need to be a surprise. Then, you and your boyfriend will be able to go on a date and buy him jeans at the same time. I think he will appreciate the time you two spend together. Giving him money is too tacky and impersonal. I would not risk not being able to get him the right size online. Take him shopping, then he will be able to buy jeans that both of you will like. :)
@besweet (7227)
• Greece
9 Dec 12
That would be a perfect plan but it's not easy to do it here. I will try to make it happen until Christmas, but the mall is in another city and he was there yesterday. I wasn't able to leave and he went with his friend. They did some shopping but I decided not to give him tge money now. I need to change my plans and find something new now, or go and buy it myself next week from a local store, it will cost almost 30% higher here and the designs are limited.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
Buying gifts is actually my problem also....it's because that I don't know what to choose or what to pick.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
16 Dec 12
I am going to get him something that he needs, and he had told me a while ago that he wanted a pair of jeans! I am trying to find what the person might need when I am looking for a gift, or maybe I am buying something to surprise him/her, but surprises are risky when you don't know that person very well!
@themdno (403)
• United States
9 Dec 12
It looks like you probably already made the decision, since this was a day ago, but this is what I think. Whether or not it's a surprise is no big deal to us guys. It's the thought that counts, for you to give the gift is what means the most to us. Also, just explain to him what you asked us here. Tell him you wanted it to be a surprise, and you wish you could have gone with, etc...but, that this is the best way to do it. I'm sure he'll understand!
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
16 Dec 12
Well, I haven't given him the money and I didn't have the time to go with him at a mall yet! I decided not to risk ordering online since it will be a shame to give him a gift that might not fit. I am thinking that we might go together and ask him to try some jeans before Christmas. The stores are going to be open every day until late this week so I hope we will find the time!
@Razzles (391)
• United States
8 Dec 12
I am sure that whatever you decide to give your boyfriend, he will like. It is hard to buy clothes online. I have bought clothes for kids online and jerseys that are usually oversized anyway, but other than that, I steer away from purchasing clothes online. I think the best thing to do is to give him a gift voucher. This way, if he doesn't see any jeans he wants, he can apply it to something else. Happy Holidays!
@besweet (7227)
• Greece
16 Dec 12
Hi! I am buying clothes online for myself and I have found my style and my sized for everything! But when I am trying to decide for others I am unsure what I should get! For now, I have kept the money and I am probably going to get him something from a local store which will possibly cost me a lot more, or I will do as you suggested and get a vouvcher for him!
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
8 Dec 12
This is a suggestion that works in our household, rather than my mother buy me something that I don't want, won't use or won't fit me, she will tell me to get what I want for Christmas then she will give me the money, but she will also give me a small gift as well! It doesn't have to be expensive, after all the thought that counts. So Why not let him get his jeans and then buy him a little surprise to go with it? His favourite candy for example, or something else he likes which is reasonably priced.
@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
Hmm, that sounds nice indeed! I could give him the money for the jeans and then get him another symbolic gift to exchange for Christmas! Thanks :)
• India
8 Dec 12
very nice idea...keep it on.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
Thanks, I will :)
8 Dec 12
I think you have a better, third alternative. At the end of the day jeans bought online or in person by him won't have too much meaning. They will only be "the jeans my girlfriend paid for". A good idea is to make an event out of it. Whenever you do have a chance to go out, take him to the mall and have him pick out the pair he wants that you pay for while being with him. If he is not picky about wearing something just bought (some people hate wearing new stuff without a reason!), have him wear the jeans out the store because he needs to be dressed for a surprise special occasion. Either go out to a movie he wants to see, a restaurant he loves or go home for his favorite movie and meal that you are making from scratch. The whole buying jeans turns into an entire event with meaning vs. just some clothes.
@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
That would be perfect! However the mall is at the city he is visiting today and I can't go with him. I think I will probably wait and find something online or plan another day at the city! I though about it over the night and it doesn't look like a gift if I give him the money to buy it himself.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
I don't think that it is wise to give money instead of really buying the gift. Why not ask him the size of his pants in a way that it would not be obvious that you are planning to buy him a pair. Then if it doesn't fit well, you can always come back to the store and have it changed. Much better if you buy it from a store than online.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
I know the size because we have bought jeans together in the past. Now the time is limited and I am not sure I will have the time to go to the city close to my place and get the gift. I'll try to do that next week, I am so confused right now! I got some good ideas from you guys and I will need to think about it again!
• United States
8 Dec 12
If you take him to the store and he thinks your just window shopping you can get his size then. you will then be able to go and pay for them at a later time. I would not worry about jeans if I were trying to surprise him. I would find something else. let me tell you what my man got for Christmas. keep in mind I forgot some stuff since I started shopping since august. I went to aeropostale and bought hi some shirts. I went and bought his a set of great smelling body wash and after shave and stuff. it was from melalueka I bought him boots as well. he has so much body wash he needs none for months. I bought him whitening toothe paste since he stopped smoking. today I bought him two bottles of body wash. I have 8 boxes and I don't remember the rest of what I bought him. Oh,cologne that I really don't like. so,I think I am giving it to some one else. I never thought of buying him jeans because he has so many already.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
I had bought for him the Armani Code perfume before this summer from the duty free at the airport, it was in a gift set with shower gel if I remember correctly. He is still wearing it so I wouldn't get him another one now. He likes Polo T-shirts and he has a big collection of them but I also got him one last year. When I go out for shopping I always get someyhing for him as well, and now I can't decide what to buy because I have already bought for him a lot of things. I know that he wanted a new pair of jeans because his favourite pair was ripped when he fell off his bike. I was looking at the clothing websites and except from t-shirts and jeans, the other men's stuff looked a bit metrosexual, if you know what I mean. A body wash set sounds good, and I like the whitening toothpaste idea because my guy smokes as well! I want to spend more money for him though, I'll go out at the stores next week and hopefully I will find something or else he will probably get a voucher! :P
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
It's my problem too. My boyfriend wants us to have an exchange gift every Saturday of December. I know that you find it useful to just buy him a new pair of jeans but it will be hard to give it as a surprise gift without having problem with the size.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
It's risky to get a size that might not fit because then there will be no time to return it! And in that case I wouldn't like to spend a lot on a pair of jeans that he will not have the chance to try and he might have to return. We still have a few days to decide until Christmas!
@spicymary (558)
• Romania
8 Dec 12
I wouldn't risk on this. Jeans are tricky, they should really fit on the body to look good. You can give him the money with a nice message. I'm sure he will be glad. Or you can think at something else. He may need jeans, but he will enjoy other things also for sure.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
He also wants a $400 camera! A pair of jeans is in my budget and he will be happy to get it as a gift! I might give him a gift voucher for that store and let him buy what he wants!
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
8 Dec 12
Im sure he will like what ever gift you decide to get him.. its the thought that counts. Have a great weekend there. see you here soon.
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@besweet (7227)
• Greece
8 Dec 12
Thanks! He is going to get the jeans for sure, I am just worried that it will ruin the surprise if I give him money to go and get the gift himself! It would be nice if we could go together but I can't leave this weekend.