How to maintain my friendship

@lldrwin (187)
China
December 8, 2012 6:54am CST
I believe that no one will deny friends is an important part of our life. But the difficult is how to reinforce friendship ,put it simple ,how to maintain it in daily life ,we may separate from each other.I'd like share my view about friendship. To be frankly,I do bad ,I seldom contact with my friends, so do they.when I busy doing something or working ,I feel full and cheerful.well, everybody will feel lone , me too. I intend to keep in touch my friends ,but a strange idea coming up,if they ingore me ,I will treat it as a harm for me . On another hand ,if one of my friends call me or text me ,I'm very happy ,also will pay more attention to him/she. As if i always waiting care from my friends,I seldom active to get access to them ,it's too bad.I wanna to change the situation as well as improve relationship between my friends and me,I need friends. What do yo think about friendship? Could you give me some advice?
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@Mavic123456 (7927)
• Thailand
8 Dec 12
There is only one thing you can have true friends and maintain it. BE YOURSELF. Don't pretend someone who you are not. If you have 100 friends, showing who you are, filter them to smaller amount. Sifted like when when baking. lumps and dirt are taken filtered by the strainer. You may have few friends, but these friends are the best already, tested with fire and water. and you will be happier. For me, having a few, trusted, worthy and productive friends are better than a lot of friends whom you really don't know who they are.
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@lldrwin (187)
• China
11 Dec 12
Wow,I completely agree with what you said ,whatever we do ,we need be ourselves. A true friend ,we know each other ,accepting all things, including advantages and disadvantages. I have doubted myself whether I have some problems stopping me from keeping in touch other people.After a period of time,some of them are false,they do not care me heartly.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
8 Dec 12
Friends are very important, and they are like money, they are often hard to come by and easy to lose. It is a special friend that will call you, answer a text or a phone call or even a letter in the mail. It doesn't take much time to pick up a phone just to call or say "hi." If you have a friend that wants to spend time with you or even lets you know they are thinking of you, then you have found a gem and must treat that friend accordingly. Let your friend know that they are special to you, but calling your friend, sending notes in the mail, or texting a friendly "hi." sometimes it is even nice just to drop by, your real friends will love this kind of gesture and will appreciate your spontaneity, although if they are busy with family you might want to reschedule your visit.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
12 Dec 12
Surely ,we experience happiness and sadness ,needless to say , how friends important to us. I am suffering a problem that I don't know how to care them .Now,most of my frends thinking i forgot them and seldom call me ,making me feel sad. I insist that pretending yourself is no meaning ,so I decide to distinguish true friends from them ,the only way to maintain good friendship.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Well, my best friends and I have actually a particular days in every week in order for us to meet and unwind. We actually have that sleepless nights every Saturday wherein, we actually stay in our friend house and eat, talk and talk the whole night!
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@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
There are many ways to keep in touch with your friends #1 is through phone,personally i do not use phone as often but you can keep in touch with them sending hi and hellos or even an inspirational quotes everyday. #2 is through facebook, i know that most of us has facebook account and active in this site,i have been keeping in touch with my friends and colleagues through this site , we actually have our own pages to be able to be reunited there.It just need a little effort to be able to keep those communications up.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
11 Dec 12
Surely,internet could shorten our distance.it's disappointing that most of young people seldom call their friend,don't even think about gathering in our society ,on the other hand ,some of them seek for comfort from dummy world,acting as I am really lonely. Personally , i think the reason why is that the concept "if you never care me ,nor do I",so I choose alone.I got confused,if you ask anybody at street"what do you think about friend" i bet those guys will say friends is an important part of my life, why our action is opposite.
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Well i think those friends do not give even a little effort and act oppositely as what they say are not really counted as your true friend. they don't know what is the true meaning of friendship after all. Well if i have also that kind of friend i will also chose to be alone than being with them.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
13 Dec 12
Actually, what I do is being myself ,I will show my real world to friends ,whatever advantages and disadvantages.
• Indonesia
10 Dec 12
Everyone need friend to share. It is important to maintain communication with your friends but do not let you over-exert yourself or forcing your friend to always send message to you. Maybe they're busy, you can make an appointment to meet with your friends once a week, it will be more effective in keeping your friendship than to send message every hour
@lldrwin (187)
• China
11 Dec 12
Making appointment,sounds a good idea ,We can reserve our time to meet each other,very nice . Hi friend ,I agree with you that always let my friends contacting me is not helpful to our friendship,emotion is mutual.
@bellis716 (4809)
• United States
10 Dec 12
Perhaps you could carve out some time out of your busy life for your friends. Find out if there is a particular time of day that you could talk on the phone. Maybe you could plan on some mutually enjoyable activity where you could get together once a week or even once a month.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
11 Dec 12
I am wondering since human beings are social animals ,why so many people unwilling to hang out with friends, may be they care who do first too much.
• India
9 Dec 12
Hi friend, good to know that you are very much interested with friendship. IT is really hard to live our life without friends, always i try my best to keep in touch with them through online sites and contact them through phone, if they are living far away from me.
@songst557 (232)
• China
8 Dec 12
Some people make friends easily,I think that's a kind of talent by born,but lack of this ability is not a shame,I think you need to accept what kind of person you are,you have your own advantage,just show it out,you will find some people will be attracted by your charm,it's better than you find them in every corner.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
11 Dec 12
Hi,I think easy come ,easy go! True friend is hard to get ,I wanna to select true friend from my social community,kicking off some false people . It does not mean the more friends you have ,the happier you are.
@betty1989 (752)
• China
8 Dec 12
It is easy to make new friends but it is hard to maintain friendsship. Thanks for the technology, we can contact our friends freely. For me, I should contact my friends once a week by texting or calling or chatting On the Internet.By his way, ymy friends will be happy since they think I remember them. It is important to have a sense of belonging. So, just keep in touch with your friends even you are busy.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
12 Dec 12
As known to all,human beings are emotional animals,that is to say,we need care from our families and friends. Certainly,the high-technology make communication easy ,but it can not replace traditional ways of contact.