My sons 1st Birthday Party

That is so sad. Someone should make a video of it all happening and play it back to them and then they can see how awful they are. Starting fights and arguments at a child's birthday party is not only bad for the adults but think of the poor kid whose birthday it is. Man, some adults sure act like kids. I know what it feels like though, I have relatives who did that on holidays and still do. They are miserable people. I was so happy and felt like I was dreaming last Thanksgiving when it went so peaceful with the food turning out so good. All for the dessert that is, my mom didn't want me to make anything and she ended up buying a very sweet type of cake and also sweet icing on some awful cupcakes (I only had one piece of the cake cause the icing was soooo sweet so you might as well say those were for the spoiled brother again cause he loved it) and an apple pie that went half wasted cause no one ate the rest of it.

First of all,my best wishes and hearty blessings to your little one on his first birthday. What you have said here is really sad and unfortunate.At least the elders should have a commonsense.They should have a wish that the first birthday party of a child should go undisturbed.They should try to make it a grand occasion. This often happens in my family also.Some people from my own family and from other families manage to ruin the whole party or a festival by triggering exchange of arguments between each other. You can't change the nature of people.If they fail to hurt others,they feel something is missing.

Oh dear! You just have to learn and live with them, people don't change at that age. I would say the opposite, maybe they find it interesting to fight and do all that stuff. I don't want to dissapoint you but I have experienced this in my wider family gatherings. I have some relatives and we are not very close but we see each other at some gatherings. They are fine for a while but then they start doing things that are kind of embarassing from my point of view. I don't care so much but I can imagine how you feel. They are your family though and you should accept them with their flauds. However, the baby should have a nice celebration and this should be respected by all the guests an family memebers. It's a shame to ruin that.

Sadly, you can't changee them and they will always be like this. I thought the samethin with my family and I realized they can't be changed. Happy Birthday to your son, and many more in the future. I hope he enjoyed himself, and had loads of cake.

Sorry to here that i wish they just spend the time to get to know each other and just be happy for your son and just make that special day nice and happy for the sake of the kid

it is very difficult to give you advice for such family matters. I will give suggestions but not advice. 1. What is the root of the problem? Why does your family resorted to fight with each other? Finding the root problem is may help you think of the possible solution. 2. Are the members willing to be reconciled? What will be the best word to tell the person in case one is not willing? 3. Are you really willing to take the responsibility to patch their differences? 4. Will you be accepting any outcome of your actions, let say, if it turned out negatively? I think you have to answer the questions above for you to be able to help. What if there will be a session to talk this out among members of the family? This may turn out good or bad. We don't know how these people will react on each other's view regarding the situation. Will anyone of the fighting parties, admit and apologize? Will there will be acceptance of the apology? It is just like pandora's box. You open it but you don't know what will exploding on your face. so think deeply if you can and if you are courageous enough to be a mediator. Good intentions, I salute you for such. I just hope you will find all the strength to carry on and mediate.