on being "poked" by strangers...

@Cutie18f (9563)
Philippines
December 9, 2012 7:19am CST
Just this afternoon I got poked again by an insane woman while I was walking downtown. I was trying to avoid her because I really do not want to be "poked" by anyone I don't know. I'd been poked by dirty kid beggars many times and I always reacted with a bit of anger because I do not want to be touched or poked by any of them since I don't know them and I think it's bad manners to touch someone just like that. This made me think that maybe I look gullible. These people always go ahead and come with palms outstretched or if not, they come and poke or touch me directly if I am looking elsewhere. Do you have the same issue? I consider this as an issue. I know it's just me but I am sure there are some of you there who also share the same feeling.
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11 responses
@1corner (744)
• Canada
9 Dec 12
Can honestly say I've never been poked by a stranger before, but tapped on the shoulder/back (to my surprise), yes. It was a well-dressed guy standing in line behind me at a Tim Hortons store. I wish I'd expressed to him my surprise (& disgust) before heading to the cashier. There was no good reason for it - he should have just used his voice to let me know another till was open. I don't know why this woman did this. Was she begging from you, or simply due to her insanity, randomly poke people around her? If you knew she was insane, & was headed towards you, couldn't you have done a much better job of avoiding that experience, like running to another part of the road if it so offends you? I'm thinking, though, in the spirit of Christmas, maybe you could apply some tolerance. What she did wasn't well-mannered, but she's not all there mentally. Be the bigger person, & apply some understanding. At least, you weren't physically hurt.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
She was trying to beg I think but that really scares people away instead of getting help.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
11 Dec 12
Okay, she was begging. If she was desperate, I'd understand why she "pokes" instead of simply holding out her hand to beg. Perhaps you could have given her some change, then let her know NICELY, that it scares people when she touches them. That way, you've not only given her something that she needs, but also helped her learn why people avoid her.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
But she's insane, she might do something bad if I talk to her. I had this experience also of another crazy woman many years ago. Because I took pity of her, I tried to toss some food to her direction and guess what? She picked up stones and started throwing them at me. She probably thought I wanted to hurt her. See? It is hard.
@murkie (1105)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
these beggars are really like that. just thinking about would really be annoying. who knows what they have been touching and whatnot. then they're going to touch it to you? we see plenty of them here. often time they go to the trick of telling you it is for their food. when they won't accept it if you gave them food. they want money instead. most times me and my fiance think their is some gang behind it. there is some "big man" who collects all what they have begged for that day. but scam or not, we don't give to these types.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
They can beg with open palms but touching is a big no-no to me. It's one of the things I hate.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Awww...with 70% isoprophyl...
@cupkitties (7502)
• United States
9 Dec 12
Poking bugs the heck out of me. Even after they remove that offending appendage, I can still feel it digging into my skin. Just drives me up a wall. Another thing is those people who start to rub on your arms and shoulders as they speak to you. I have noticed its among a certain culture of young men who do that here. Maybe its normal for them, but its sure creepy for me.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
9 Dec 12
That's different from being "poked" by an insane person. Sounds to me like these young men are trying to be touch-feely in an exploitative way. Take care!
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Any sort of touching by strangers is creepy.
• China
11 Dec 12
May be they just have psychological problems of touching or being touched ,and they just recognized you as a "cloth mother "thay makes them feel comfort ....
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
10 Dec 12
Generally speaking I don't like anyone to touch me but I won't make a big deal out of it (but try to stay out of crowds if possible). But I also am the one who idiots seem to like to touch. For example: I am at the mall shopping with a daughter high pregnant and an idiot comes to touch my belly and stroke it and asks me to come with him to the parking place blah blah because he is doing some investigations about ??? for school (yeah sure). My daughter is standing next to me sooo surprised. Beggars seldom poke or touch me although they might follow me (not my country but if I am abroad) which can be very annoying as well.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
That's weird. Touching someone's belly, especially when you are total strangers, is a big no-no to me.
• China
11 Dec 12
Be merciful .They didn't touch you with something deadly .And we are just made of atoms .Do you know how much atoms are crashing with you now ?(Both in and outside )This kind of talking is long and really interesting .
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Whenever beggars poke me I make very clear that I DON'T like it all! It's funny in a way because I only experience this behaviour in the Philippines. But when I go to the market there's always thi man who doesn't have real hands and fingers. Yes, I always give him some. Because he's helpless AND he does not have this annoying 'poke' behaviour.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
Hi Franse! Yes, it is a very annoying habit. Somebody should tell them this.
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
Ha! I always tell them loud and clear "DON'T touch me!!" Next time they'll do it again. And what I really don't understand here is why they keep on poking. Should they stop doing that they might even generate more money after all.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 12
I believe it's the aura we carry about ourselves my friend, I am sensitive, caring, warm, and vulnerable, and people can tune into this, they see you as an easy touch, someone that will be gullible or weak, and easily manipulated. I have been bullied for most of my life, been in two abusive relationships, why? Because people see that I am easy prey. Yet I am 6 foot 2, muscular, it didn't make sense. After extensive therapy I learnt it was the signals and body language I was giving out. Study your body language, maybe even get a book out about it, I find it very useful my friend, most of the language we give out either knowingly or unknowingly is through how we carry ourselves in public and the aura we give off to others to say that we are easy prey, easy victims ripe for the plucking, sad but true, you do learn the hard way, but in the end you wise up!
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
Maybe it is indeed the body language. I have to learn to look more untouchable then.
• China
11 Dec 12
Maybe you just need a man, women,someone or something as who or that is right as your patron saint.
@mensab (4207)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
it is normal that you do not like to be touched by strangers. most of us consider our body as very private, thus we do not allow others whom we are not that close touch it. however, for me, i do not mind being poked by stranger who do not mean or without intent or malice. accidental or non-malicious touch can be let go and shrug off such as that of a "crazy" woman.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
Mensab, I am sure you would greatly mind, the insane woman was very, very dirty.
• China
11 Dec 12
I think just as Amrican Prometheus put it ,"See things ,not as they are,but as they might be." Couldn't you see something more sophiscated?
@beamer88 (4267)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
Poking someone is rude, plain and simple. And I can't blame you for getting irritated at those who poke. I don't think you look gullible. It's probably that you're not intimidating enough for these beggars. I think that's why they poke and pester you, thinking that you're too nice not to react firmly to them and give them money.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
I don't know why I easily attract people like this. I don't think I look nice, in fact I frown a lot and my eyebrows are arched because they are drawn, yet these folks still come and poke me.
@prashu228 (25503)
• India
9 Dec 12
haha what a nice description cutie. They just want money and by irritating they think that they get what ever they want.
@prashu228 (25503)
• India
9 Dec 12
Oh my i have been through this. yes the children(beggars) come and touch i get irritated. It happened many times. I say them don't touch me. But no they don't listen at all. Moreover they don't take what ever we give they demand for money and how much they want. No plans worked till now.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
I also tell them never to touch me but still they do, they are just hard-headed.
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
14 Dec 12
Sometimes I think this happens by accident, and then there could be other times where it happens when someone, especially if they are homeless might be trying to seek for some attention as well. Personally, yes, this is not the Best way for someone to try and vie for someone's attention and if you do it, you should apologize as well. But to just feel like they might be doing it just to do it, makes you wonder about that person for sure.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
I have experienced them , too. And just like you, I also felt uncomfortable being touched by a stranger. Well, I could not blame them for doing that because you will notice how desperate they are to have money by begging. A single poke, might make me uneasy, but I'll let it pass. But doing it more than 2 times when I have already clearly stated "NO", well, I would be really mad about it.