is he love me or not

@ungu89 (1999)
Malaysia
December 11, 2012 9:59am CST
he care about your more than anything. always be there when you need him. but he never said that he love you. its really hard to find, if he love you or just like you can care you ask a friend. when u ask him, he never give straight answer to you. he just said. "i only have you and care only you. have u see me care for other?" yes, its what he said, but is it what he really do. you never know he might doing other on back of your. its really confusing. really complicated. what is this!!!!!
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14 responses
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
He's probably confused himself. Or maybe something is holding him back. Don't force it out of him though, just let it flow. What have you got to lose? Action speaks louder than words.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Why should you care if your ex doesn't care about you? The only real person you can count on to do that is YOU. Don't rely on boys for love and attention. You can give that to yourself and get it from your family and friends. So don't let those silly boys get you down. Again, we don't need boys we merely choose to be with them because we want to. Always remember that. You can also be more aggressive and straight to the point with a guy who is not clear in his intention. Your story above doesn't have much information so I don't what kind of advice you would really need.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
look like u have fail so many make u said like this??? or maybe u see other people fail so many time... its not that i depends all my life to a man, i just want a family later, how can i have family with woman.. haha
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
there is nothing i will loss , even if he not choose me. hehhe... maybe i will miss someone that care me so much, even maybe ex never care about me as he
@marguicha (215346)
• Chile
11 Dec 12
Each case is different. But I would think that he has for you a brotherly love until he says otherwise. If a man wants a woman, he has to either tell her or show her. But the terms of endearnment are completly different if he wants friendship or more.
@marguicha (215346)
• Chile
12 Dec 12
Maybe. If you love him enough as to wait for him, do so. It is not easy and sometimes you just have to move on if the loved one doesn`t show any signs of wanting to have a nearer relationship.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
yes, i don't think i have the problem to wait for him. i'm still study, so, there is still time for us to know each other better
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
with an apposite gender, it really different between friend and love. as for know, maybe i'm just a friend to him, maybe he still not ready for the commitment yet.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
I think that he does love you but is afraid to commit himself to a relationship. Did he have a previous bad experience with another person? If so, maybe that is what's causing him to hold back his true feelings for you.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
So, that is the reason why he just tells you that he cares for you. Maybe he is still not ready to be in a new relationship. Maybe he has not gotten over his past relationship yet. Anyway, just don't rush him. For sure, if he sees you as special and would realize that you can be the perfect girl for her, he would open up himself to you.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
yes, maybe your are right, even when he talk about it, i see that he like still waiting for that girl.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
i'm not sure how bad his previous relationship. i try to seek about it many time, what just he said that the girl cheat on him, he caught the girl with other man, and the girl said she don't like him anymore. but he had mention that he the one that approach the girl, the girl was not arrogant when he first met her, even the girl is a model and pretty so. i never see the girl.but he said the girl is pretty. i think he maybe still like his ex. maybe that why he just being nice with me, even he said he don't have anyone right know. sometime it make to think, maybe he said like that because he is lonely now
@Olleenz (3398)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 12
Some people can't say directly but they show it .... Maybe he just typically person like that
@Olleenz (3398)
• Indonesia
12 Dec 12
Maybe, ..... But if he give special thread only to you, it mean something ....
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
maybe yes, maybe not. but now what can i do, just wait for it. i cannot rush into relationship yet too. hehe
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@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 12
ermm.. maybe yes like you said. love someone by showing through special treat. but if u not saying it, people might think u just being nice
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
11 Dec 12
for many men its hard for them to say I love you... My husband was that way. he bought me nice things, took care of me. But never said I loved you. Till it was to late.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 12
its really hard to understand man too. he said he like the simple way. what he say is what he do. but if he never say directly, it really hard for me to understand. maybe yes he love me. maybe he just like me..
• United States
11 Dec 12
Does he value your time and your dreams? This is the real test... does he put you and your concerns first especially when that is not convenient?
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
he always encourage what i'm doing right know.. he already working while i still study. he know that i will continue my study too after this. he always have the time to me. even while he working, he still can text me. sometime i'm wondering like he don't have so many work to do. haha
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 12
i'm a gentleman. here my experience for this case. Sometimes, i meet somegirl in my life, i would like beauty and good girl. whenever i like a girl, i will give my attentions, my time, my money, or other who can i give to her. But, all of my gift is not high priority. i just like, not love. i can called her by younge sister. And for my love, i will give my life. It mean, she is the high priority to me.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 12
so, u mean this guy maybe he just like me. not love me??? that day, i just said why u care much for me, then he just if u don't like, will no care u so much, i just be normal. in really high note voice, like he angry when i ask this question.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
what a hard question u have here. i'm not sure how u can feel love, what i know, i feel very safe when he is around
• Indonesia
11 Dec 12
do you love him?
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
11 Dec 12
Men are not the same. Some men are too expressive while others are not. Some men are not used to saying the word i love you but they have special way of showing their love. I also love someone who doesn't say i love you all the time, but I knew by heart he loves me more than I ever knew. He shows a lot of things enough to prove that he loves me- without saying the word. In your case, it's only you who can tell if he really loves you or not.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Dec 12
I think that saying "I love you," is something that is very difficult for many men to say for whatever reason. So I really think that the only way that you can tell whether or not a man actually loves you is because of the actions that he makes. You know if he shows you physical affection in public and he talks to you like he genuinely cares, then I would be inclined to say that he does love you. However, if these things are not something that is happening, then I would question the feelings that he had for me.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 12
maybe yes, maybe not. something in public he not so caring.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
12 Dec 12
Is that a poem or something you really tried to describe the boy you like? Sounds like a poem to my, so rhyme. I can tell you this, some guy never express themselves explicitly, and they always try to hide their feelings. Me for example, I don't say I would love you forever, or I want you to be on my side, etc..... I just feel weird if I say it to a girl, and I don't know if she loves me or not at the moment. So, maybe he cares about you, or really love you, but he just don't know how to express it out, or he just hid it.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
its a guy that is my friend now!! hehe maybe he still don't want the commitment yet, he still busy with his work even he have so many time with me. maybe he try to hide it as u said, maybe he still the time. that's why i'm not rushing into it too. but, it just sometime he make me feel so special when he is around.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
11 Dec 12
To me it does not sound he loves you, I think he even doesn't know what real love is (or at least the kind of love you mean). But clear is he does care about you and if it comes to that you can ask yourself the question what is more important to you in the end. What will count more? A guy who tells you he loves you and is not able to show it or a guy who cares about you and says he only has you? Might be in the end this is even a bigger love as you thought at the first place.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
there is a said, it better to be with the one that love u rather than u love him. maybe it is worth it to be with him, at least i know he care about me so much. it is different between like and love. maybe he just care because he feel comfortable sharing with me, but the love is not there.. its really hard to understand, i just scare to ask him directly too, if his answer are not like what i expected
• India
12 Dec 12
Hi friend, each and every person is having their own style, may be it is his style. I think he loves you, since his word implies his real love, try to understand him fully as well as have full trust with him to avoid unwanted issues
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 12
i just need to be normal with him. i will never show mine if he don't say anything
• India
12 Dec 12
he must be a really good player. Tc
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
i don't know. maybe he just lonely,
@Mattxu (62)
• China
12 Dec 12
First of all, I should say your grammar is too bad. I even couldn't understand your meanings. Though my grammar is bad, I find that yours is worse. Let's get down to business. In my opinion, I regard that he may not love you. From what you have said, all we can see that he cares about you very much. But I know that is not love. I should say that he is having an affair with you. If he really loves you, he will never give you evasive answers. He may not be sure of your relationship by himself. So, keep a calm attitude about your relaionship.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
i know my grammar is worst . at least i try to write and i earn too. hahaha ermmm... if u said so, that he just making affair with me... i will think about it... i will not rush into relationship now, it just make me curious why he acting like that.
• China
12 Dec 12
Have you seen "Gossip girl"? Chuck is so in love with Blair but he never says he love her.Love can not be judged from what he said,but from what he did .
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
i did not watch it. but will be in my list.. hehe later i will watch it, as know i dont have so much time to watch series