Respect

India
December 12, 2012 3:08am CST
Always remember that you can't force a person to show you respect, but you can always refuse to be dishonored and disrespected. I always give respect to all people I know though some might dishonor or disrespect me. [b]Please share your views and comments on this. [/b] Kalyani December 12 2012.
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@tshihmin2 (186)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 12
You're right. I also always show people respect. We cannot demand people to respect us. If we demand for it, it will only make the situation worse and definitely you will never get it. Nowadays, people are are very nasty. We can't even tell them off eventhough they are wrong. So sad!
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• India
16 Dec 12
The globe has nasty as well as good persons, better to keep away from nasty stuff. Thanks for sharing.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
I respect people who respect me and those who deserve to be respected. I can never respect people who don't respect me. I can only ignore them or give them my deadly glare. I hate disrespectful people but I don't go out of my way to disrespect them. That's just inappropriate and by then I would be no better than them if I do such things. Always do the right thing. It's simple and not easy to do.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Yes you do the right thing Aja Thanks for sharing.
@creationhub (3070)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 12
Humanely speaking, we cannot bring ourself to respect many people. Like you said, to respect people despite of their attitude or character is something. To me, this is what really brings out the character in us. Personally, for me, respect is to be earned, not demanded or forced on. It is about stature and not status.
• India
16 Dec 12
Very right, we can never demand and get respect. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Good values is not taught, it is being learned. It starts at home. Respect is one of the good values we must learn and share to everybody. But, how can we start with it? Simple yet hard for some, let us start it with our selves. Showing respect within us would naturally show and affect to people that surround us.
• India
16 Dec 12
Yeah we learn it from parents, from society from friends. Thanks for sharing your views lol .
@nat1_ong (150)
• Guam
12 Dec 12
We are all human beings with different appearance and opinions. We have different attitudes and personality and with all those different I believe we all must give due respect to everyone. I agree you must disapprove someone portraying disrespectfulness to you. I really hope my fellow citizens is respected in different countries. Racial discrimination also entrails disrespect
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• India
16 Dec 12
Yes there should not be discrimination based upon race, religion or nationality Thanks for sharing. Welcome to mylot
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
There are really some people who are disrespectful. Maybe they are brought that why or influence by the environment. I always respect people but sometimes it is hard to deal with people who are rude. I just ignore and avoid them. Have a nice day!
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@prashu228 (25821)
• India
12 Dec 12
Hi yes sometimes it really becomes difficult with some people,they test our patience.Its hard to deal with such people.
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
This topic reminds me of my sister-in-law,who I think,is the most disrespectful person I have ever met in my entire life.
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• India
16 Dec 12
edvac77 There are rude people every where, better to avoid lol
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
13 Dec 12
It is a good thing to show others honor and respect. It can be hard to do to those who show us disrespect. I think in situations like that we have to try really hard to adjust our attitude and be the bigger person. It's not easy though.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Some times it is difficult, i agree lol.
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• United States
17 Dec 12
It is at hard times to do though. Especially if we are treated this way over and over again. Then our patience can start to give in. We have to keep trying though even for our own peace of mind.
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• India
29 Jan 13
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
12 Dec 12
Hi Kalyni2011. My worst experience last year was when my sister's young boy (19) showed total disrespect towards me in the presence of others. I was mostly hurt when I noticed that his mom did not do anything to correct or discipline him. 'My children have freedom of speech', she voiced...
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
16 Dec 12
dee777 That's too bad..I think you had every right to call him out on his bad manners...even if your sister would be upset..after all she had the opportunity to correct her son and since she didn't, imo yu have the right to correct your nephew
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• India
16 Dec 12
Welcome to mylot and my discussions That was really sad, your sister's giving too much freedom is not good, she will realize it when she will face disregard or insult by this guy.. Thanks for sharing.
• India
16 Dec 12
Yes stary Dee should come forward
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
hi, yes its right we can not force someone to do respect for us,but we can complaint if someone disrespect us,but i want to handle this thing when someone didn't respect me,but i always give respect to others even they are simple person only or no position in society.
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• India
29 Jan 13
We must respect all, poor as well as rich
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
16 Dec 12
Kalyni2011 Yes, respect is earned, and can not be demanded..of course there are some people who will resent us for telling the truth and we can't compromise your standards to please anyone.
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• India
16 Dec 12
We must stick to our standards lol. Thanks for sharing.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
14 Dec 12
My parents taught me to show respect from the time that I was a baby and for that reason I show all people respect today. I also really appreciate it when a person shows me respect. However, I do see that there are a lot of people that don't have the habit of showing respect to everyone that they encounter in their lives. It is people that don't know how to show respect that drive me up the wall. Their parents should have taught them better manners than that.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Dear dorann We learn what is good and what is bad from our parents basically, they are our first guru and teacher.. Thanks for sharing.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
For us to be able to be respected, we should also respect others and I think all people must respect each other. They said respect is a package of love so if we are loving someone we should respect him or her too.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Yes dear kokomo Respect is a package of love, i do agree.
• China
13 Dec 12
Well in my opinion,I think the respect is interactive,if you want to get more respects from others then you should respect them first,vice versa. So usually I always respect other and willing they will do the same way to me,and if I do not get the good result then that is OK because I had done what I should do.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Yes i agree it should be from both sides lol. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Hi Kalyni2011, I agree with you on this. Respect must be earned, so no one can really demand respect from others but anyone can refused to be respected. If respect must be earned, there should also be a reason why one should disrespect one person, if there's no valid reason, then you have all the right to defend yourself as a human being.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Dear lady.. I am happy you agree.. Thanks for sharing.
12 Dec 12
But dont u think its a bit hard to respect such a person who is nt showing or even considereing ur respect.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Welcome to mylot annieali Yes it appears bit hard, but not difficult at all.
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
12 Dec 12
Yes, it is best to be kind back. To maintain being professional and polite. I like that: to refuse to be dishonored and disrespected. We can return meanness with kindness. When does it stop if we are disrespectful to those who are disrespectful. Many people have turn around from their meanness when confronted with kindness.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Great thinking Zoe We should return meanness with kindness only. Thanks for sharing.
@challs12 (549)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
I have been told by my father when I was a kid that if we want others to respect us, we must first respect others. At first I don't get the idea. Later on when I have grown up, then only I understand what he meant. Other people surround us is just like mirror, they reflect us. When we do good to them, they also will do good to us (some of them not). So, when we respect other people, then they will reflect back by respecting us. This concept can be apply to any case. But we have to be smart so that our kindness not been taken advantage by others. About being disrespect or dishonor, I think it's up to them how they want to value me. As long as it doesn't effect me in my daily life, I won't bother about them.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Thanks for sharing challs, your father is very right, he has seen the world...
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
12 Dec 12
I know most of the relatives not respect me and telling some wrong words behind me but I feel happy because for me this is not important what they are saying but this is important they are remembering because telling about me. I am talkative and frank women and I think everyone is good if I am good even they are talking about me behind me.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Surekha beti Never care what they talk behind you, if they have the courage let them tell on your face; just avoid them to the extent possible. Thanks for sharing.
• India
12 Dec 12
I am also in your sort. Always respect all the persons. As you mentioned we don't force others to give respect to us, it is their own wish. But decent people always respect other persons without asking it from them.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Yes decent persons do that Thanks for sharing.
@prashu228 (25821)
• India
12 Dec 12
Hi I agree. What ever we do that always reflects. If we give respect others will definitely give it back. And when we are positive from our side others will definitely notice it and also the surroundings will be in good spirit.
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• India
16 Dec 12
Lets respect others, without expecting any thing in return.. Thanks for sharing.