Is it wrong

@JDaw2006 (428)
United States
December 12, 2012 11:03am CST
Is it wrong to want to keep your fiancée all to your self? That's all I want for Christmas this year. I could care less if we even go to see his family at all as long as I have him that's all that matters to me.
5 responses
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
12 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your situation and i think u have to make this Christmas special for u and your fiancee and taking your fiancee to his family will prove better for your relationship. I know u want to keep your fiancee to yourself but then u have to think about your future also. I do see a point about your possessiveness but u have to think from all angles and i hope that u will take an intelligent decision. What say?
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@JDaw2006 (428)
• United States
13 Dec 12
Thank you for responding. But the one thing that I did not say was the real big reason that I do not want to go to his family. But I will tell you the reason but will be posting a discussion about it at a later time. I mean its really bad the way things worked out. But I am married at this time just separated and I left my husband for his cousin. Well my fiancé moved to where I am because he left his wife ( not for me though ). Well then my fiancées wife started dating his daddy and moved in with him well everyone in his family kept saying it was just so she could stay close to my man and hope to get him back. Well she ended up talking my man into giving her one more chance and he told me he still lived her from the beginning and I under stood that I still live my husband to this day. Well then three weeks and three days later he called me and wanted me back. I was so hurt when every thing happened and I didn't want to jump back into things well you see how that worked out for me LOL. Well his wife went back to his daddy. I refuse to let her have any contact with him and they are now divorced. But I hope this helps you to under stand my big feelings about his family right now be size this just has happened we got back together on October the eleventh. So really it hasn't been that long ago and it is still kinda right there on the edge of my mind and my heart. Thank you again for commenting.
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
That's really complicated I may say. It must be so awkward for you to go to his family and see them. I understand how you feel. By the way have you talked to your fiancée about how you feel? I'm sure he will understand. Me too, with all the complications going on to my relationship I had developed this fear around my relationship with my present boyfriend which I know he's not comfortable with. So I have discussed it with him last night. We had few arguments but eventually he understood my point and assured me that he's not going to do anything that will hurt me.
@ShyBear88 (17219)
• United States
13 Dec 12
Well he doesn't need to see his family every year for Christmas but it would be good to share him some time with his family every once in a while and some times on holiday you can't keep him forever to yourself.
@JDaw2006 (428)
• United States
13 Dec 12
Thank you for responding. I do agree with you it's just right now I do not feel comfortable with him being around them or my self being around them.
@ShyBear88 (17219)
• United States
13 Dec 12
Your welcome. I have to share my husband and my kids with a lot of family members.
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@JDaw2006 (428)
• United States
14 Dec 12
Yeah I now it will get better with time but jut right now it's just really hard with every thing that has happened if you will read the comment I left on the very first comment then you will find out everything that has happen.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
I think it is wrong if you are already selfish enough not wanting your partner to have a life of his own. even if you are partners, he too has his own life, his hobbies, his wants, his own friends... same as you do, right? so would you want him to hinder you from doing the things you want to do even without him.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
I don't think it is wrong. This person is your fiancee after all.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
23 Dec 12
What exactly is your point? First you say you want him for you alone during christmas, next you say you would care less if you go to see his family. So with whom else you need to share your fiancée? I think it's wrong if he does not like it and it's something that the two of you have to talk about. Same if it comes to you. He has to respect what you would like/wish as well. So if that is not the same you have to find a compromis since I assume you both love eachother so you both should do what makes the other one happy.