I Am So Angry Right Now I Could Just

By Jodi
@jeanena (1615)
Bucklin, Kansas
December 17, 2012 4:24pm CST
Take a drive up to where my daughter lives and have a long talk with some parents. My daughter just called me to tell me my grandson might not be able to be in his program at school tonight as he maybe making a trip to the E.R. Some kid pushed him on the school bus on the way home and he fell and hit his arm and knee. His arm is hurting him so bad he can hardly move it she says. His little sister even carried his book bag from the bus to the house. It wouldn't be so bad , maybe just a kids will be kids thing if it was the first time this had happened. But this kid Has done the same thing to Cooper and Sophia before. Supposedly the bus driver never sees any of this. I don't buy it. When I was a kid riding the bus the driver would warn you and after a couple of times you wouldn't be riding anymore. They want people to turn in bullies but Aarika has tried to report this crap more than once and they always give her the no one saw it so it can't have happened.
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• United States
17 Dec 12
I would have been to that school already because i never play with kids and being bullied. I am glad I taught my daughter to defend herself. I was called to the school for her tearing someone up after they hit her first. I think he will be in need of a doctor soon and those parents better get off their azz and check their kid.
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@jeanena (1615)
• Bucklin, Kansas
18 Dec 12
Aarika said she is going to go talk to his parents and if that doesn't work we will find a solution. Unless the kid wants Coop to snap on him like his Mama did on her bully.
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• United States
18 Dec 12
That is good to know because it is getting out of hand now. take care.
• United States
17 Dec 12
Kids can be monsters! Some of the stories I hear about what they do to each other (and sometimes adults) makes me fear having kids who are old enough to go to school! Some of the schools in my area now have two adults on the bus: one driver and one there to watch the children's behavior. It's too dangerous to expect the bus driver to drive safely (keeping track of all of the cars on the road and following traffic signals) AND control the behavior of up to 60 rowdy kids! It's unfortunate that it has had to come to this, but the school bus should be a safe place.
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@jeanena (1615)
• Bucklin, Kansas
18 Dec 12
Wow 60 kids would be a lot of kids to try to keep up with.They go to a small school in a small town about the same size as the town my kids were raised in. They all rode the bus here and we never had this kind of problem .
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
17 Dec 12
I completely agree with you. I also do not understand why the driver is not interfering. I have the same kind of situation at the new school my kids are joining (well I am not the only parent going over to the teacher to tell about (each time) the same boy). Respond of the teacher: I will talk about it.. her answer to us: they were just playing! I think she is just too stupid or not willing to pay attention to that sneaky boy. And if it comes to the busdriver of your grandson.. he is just a coward or thinks it's not of his business. But if everybody has that kind of attitude nothing will change at it's only getting worse. I decided to take my children from this school. After the holidays I will see what to do. It's forbidden by our law to keep your children at home so if necessary I will leave the country. I don't want my childeren to be afraid at school or always being picked on because they are polite. BTW I told the school if it happens again I will go to the police. Perhaps your daughter can do that as well if the busdriver (or his boss) is not responding. Children should be safe.
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@jeanena (1615)
• Bucklin, Kansas
17 Dec 12
That right there is the reason I told her to take him and get it checked out and file a report about it if they find out the parent is serious enough to get it investigated maybe something will be done.
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@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
I know how you feel. My son told me that he has a very naughty classmate. He was his classmate since last year and so that made his classmate even more comfortable to be around him. Well, I understand how kids are and I am fine with that. First thing that I discovered was this classmate of his tore his book. I just told my son that I would fix it. Second time, his classmate rip a part of my son's bag. My reaction, a but annoyed but then I told my son that the bag is a year older that time so it must be needing to be replaced. The third time, his classmate poked him with a pencil! Well, that ticked me off! I really had to come up to their adviser and tell her what this boy has been doing to my kid. I'd like to pound the adviser myself coz it seems that she doesn't know anything that is happening to her class! And while I was listening to her explanations, I do not feel that she has the "caring attitude" of a teacher. I told the adviser that if his other student does not stop bothering my son, I would see to it that I'll have that student kicked out from that school. And I wasn't satisfied talking to the adviser, I also talked to the kid's mother and told her what her son has been doing. I saw in her eyes the fear and shame and I my heart melt. Coz I am a mother, too. And if my child does the same, I would feel exactly what she feels. But nevertheless, this kind of action should be out to a halt. Gladly, the other kid tamed ans he would always call me and say hi everytime she sees me.
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• United States
17 Dec 12
I think your daughter needs to remind the school district that they are responsible for the safety of her kids while they're in their care. If the bus driver isn't able to supervise the kids properly, maybe they need to hire a few people to act as monitors to make sure stuff like this doesn't happen.
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• St. Peters, Missouri
17 Dec 12
Unfortunately, with the budget cuts, there are fewer bus routes, therefore more children on the bus. However, this doesn't relieve them of their duty. I agree with renkinjutsushi, the district needs to be reminded of their responsibility. The bus driver might not be able to see the situation as there are so many children and so much activity, but they are still responsible. If the bus driver can't do it, they either need to hire a different bus driver that can or better, hire an additional set of eyes. Maybe the real solution would be to add a few new bus routes and cut down on the number of children per bus?
@jeanena (1615)
• Bucklin, Kansas
17 Dec 12
I had even thought of talking to the principal and asking her to see if they could get some volunteer parents or give extra credit to some older high school to act as bus monitors.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
17 Dec 12
My grandson hit his head in a class the other day and had to get 3 stitches. Later, at basketball practice, he had words with a fellow classmate, and the kid hauled off and hit him right where the stitches were, and ripped them out. My grandson did not hit this kid. So we had to take him to get the stitches put back in, and then he and the other kid had to meet with the coach for discipline for fighting in school. Now, remember, my grandson did not hit the other kid, but they both got the exact same punishment. This is not the first time the other kid has been in trouble. The handbook for the school says that if you hit someone, you get suspended. This kid has been suspended before for the same thing. My grandson has never been in any trouble at school before. He plays sports, and has been bullied by other members of the team. He went to the coach about it, and the coach just shrugged it off. Now, this school has a zero tolerance for bullying, but apparently don't go by it. My son is thinking about filing assaunt charges against this kid. I'm not sure if this is a wise thing to do...it might just make things worse for my grandson, but just how far can you let this stuff go?
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@jeanena (1615)
• Bucklin, Kansas
18 Dec 12
I am inclined to agree with your son. It might cause some problems but it might cause the bully to think twice before he does it again. The mother of this grandson was involved in some bullying when she was in school but it wasn't on the bus. There was a boy who was always shoving the smaller kids or tripping them when he thought no one was looking. But his mom was a total B-word and no one wanted to deal with her I guess . One day he shoved Aarika into the lockers (in shop class), she pulled back and open hand slapped him. He didn't come back to school for the rest of the week , we found out why when we had to go for a meeting with the principal. He was still sporting a hand print and everyone was asking him what it felt like to get beat up by a girl. They both got ISS because the shop is a very dangerous place for that sort of thing. But the principal did tell Aarika it was nice to see someone put a bully in their place.
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Get the kids away from that bully. Change schools if necessary. Just to keep the kids safe.
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@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
17 Dec 12
sorry to her that.. Hope hes alright soon. its sad.. but kids seem to do thing like that alot. Have a great week there. Merry xmas...
@jeanena (1615)
• Bucklin, Kansas
18 Dec 12
He is a tough little guy and says it is better so he is going to go be in his play.I can't wait to see the video. Merry Christmas to you as well
• United States
19 Dec 12
I've known plenty of bus drivers who would side with the bullies. They, themselves, were bullies. I've also known teachers like that. The fact is, just because someone is working with children does not mean that person actually likes children--and it certainly does not mean that the person is a decent human being. Forget the school district. If there is a physical injury, the police should be involved as should an attorney. There is nothing quite like the threat of a hefty lawsuit to remind a school district that, perhaps, it should make some attempt at protecting students.
@SamShima (71)
• Nigeria
18 Dec 12
Thus no fun. Anyway, it happens everywhere in the world. Some parents are that careless while some are not. In some cases the parents are careful types while their kids are just unthinkable. What is best done is you turn some blind eye else, you will bully. Summon courage, speak to the bus authorities to take care, that is their job.
@artemeis (4023)
• China
18 Dec 12
Bullies is a very pressing problem in this society and I could not help feeling angry with you here. Everyday, we are hearing how those who are bullied are suffering and to a certain extent have killed themselves. Something is very wrong about your school buses there and I could not understand why there's no assistant in the bus. In my country, these assistants helps the bus drivers maintain orderliness in the back, help children alight and board the bus and road crossing wherever necessary. I do not know what's in the minds of these companies where they could ignore such basic necessities like a bus assistant. I hope that parents at your end will band up together and demand for this to be implemented on all school buses. Also, something to be done with the bullies in your area.