What does she mean?

Malaysia
December 18, 2012 8:53am CST
She said "how regular will you work?" I said, I will follow the schedule, in my thought, isn't that written in the rules and regulations that part timers must work 60 hours a month, 6 hours a week. The tone she speak is not so friendly, and first she even said NO when the supervisor brought me to her to welcome me back to their company. I am so fed up why people at my place act unreasonable and no respect when working, isn't we are a democratic country and practice friendly manner?
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14 responses
@francesca5 (1344)
18 Dec 12
its easy for me to sit here and tell you not to take any notice of her, but its obviously not as easy for you to do. but as long as you do the job then don't worry about her, some times people have off days, we can't get on with everyone, just try not to let it bother you.
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• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
trying every now and then
19 Dec 12
it really is hard to do, there are some things that just press the wrong button for me, too, so i understand the problem. my advice would be try and create a "reasonable adult" voice in your head, a lot of the advice you get on mylot is very reasonable, so can use that, and then use it to fight the negative thoughts. though of course, we have to be careful not to filter out what is useful feedback, but people can be very negative, and its best to not get upset by it, regardless.
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• Malaysia
22 Dec 12
hey...hey..I get what you mean, friend. Trying to do that always.
@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
19 Dec 12
Oh well that's the power of the boss, she can boss people around. Lucky her.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
I am not that lucky.
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• Thailand
19 Dec 12
oh well they say if you are not lucky at work you must be lucky in love. hehehe
• Malaysia
22 Dec 12
ha...ha...ha...yeah, many people loves me, I know..he...he
@prashu228 (25811)
• India
18 Dec 12
I don't understand what is her problem . she want the worker to work so why can't she just maintain a friendly relation with workers . Its too bad on her part that too in the managerial level. somebody should give her the management tips i guess.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
She is the head of HR, that is why she is so bossy. By the way, this is the company I joined back in many years ago, that I come back now. It is TNS market research, you can search on the internet, there is all branches around the world.
@prashu228 (25811)
• India
20 Dec 12
Hmm it seems to be a good company. so sad the lady is not acting according to her position (in a dignified way). such higher officials should be well trained about how to deal with their employees.
• Malaysia
22 Dec 12
yup, that is the right way to go.
• Japan
18 Dec 12
Working hard - A person is working hard in his desk
Hi there, sorry to hear that but there are some superior who over act with their position and act mean too to there employees. I was a supervisor before but never act so bossy with people I worked with I am friendly and would asked them first for days off they want as long as I have enough people to work with.
@prashu228 (25811)
• India
18 Dec 12
i agree some are like that not at all friendly .But why should they do that? They already have the position so why don't they just maintain it.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
dear prashu, I also think that why she acted that way, she want me to do the work but why is she so not friendly? All kinds of people out there.
18 Dec 12
There could be many reasons for this question. For example, what does your work history look like? Have you been reliable? Good attendance record? If not, she may be concerned about that. Or more likely, she's used to the HUGE number of temporary workers who treat their jobs as something unimportant. Not everyone has a sense of duty. For example, when I had to leave a local job because of health issues, I gave the company two weeks' notice... and the management team was stunned. I was the first person who actually worked the notice period in years - everyone else who left just said "I'm leaving" and stopped working the next day! If you knew why she'd said "No" when your supervisor brought you back, you'd probably have a better understanding of her reasons. (By the way, 60 hours a month is 15 hours a week, not 6.)
18 Dec 12
hello spikethelobster, i haven't seen you in ages, i had a look at your website, it looks good. i started writing at helium, which i find quite safe, on very boring subjects, but i'm not brave enough to go beyond that yet.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
Sorry spike, I wrote it wrongly, it is 6 hours a day, 60 hours a month.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
19 Dec 12
There are a lot of bosses out there that really aren't all that good with dealing with people, so that really shouldn't be something that upsets you too much. However, I don't really know that you answered the question that she asked you properly. You see, I think she was wanting you to answer if you would be willing to work 2-4 times a week or just once a week. You know, working just six hours a week would only equal 24 hours a month, so you clearly need to work an average of about three six hour shifts every week.
• Malaysia
22 Dec 12
Sorry, I made a mistake. It is 6 hours a day and 60 hours a month. Yeah, I am willing to work just 60 hours not beyond that.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Do you mean you have worked before in that company. And your new superior gave you an unfriendly welcome.Is this the first time you have met her/him, if so maybe it's her/his way to gain respect which I think is not the right way to act when welcoming an employee.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
This was the second time I meet her, previously it was back in 2009, if I am not forgetful.
@artemeis (4017)
• China
19 Dec 12
I think it is unfortunate that you are in the boss's bad book and even more so, since you had returned to work after a brief absence. Nowadays, people are more mindful of first impressions than looking closely into the person's actual attributes. Everywhere is the same and once you are not favored life will be similar to what you are experiencing now whether it be in the office, school or home of your prospective in-laws. I don't think we can do anything to change other peoples' mindsets or how they want to see us but I am sure we can always make a day for ourselves and not be spoiled by them. All of us have our attributes and I am sure we will be able to move their hearts one day about us. We will need to be patient and sincere. I hope that all will be well with your superior one day. All the best.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
Someone said to me once about everywhere are the same but it is not really, depends on what people you meet up with.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
There are people in the world like that. I especially notice people in the HR department, some are kind and open but some are not friendly and they have these ugly expressions in their faces that make you want to beat them up. Just do the right thing, do what is expected of you and ignore that person's negative statements. Pretend that person doesn't exist, it will be good for your health.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
I don't want to get myself depressed sometimes because of this stupid people, but really it get on my nerves sometimes.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
19 Dec 12
I don't know what type of work you do and I guess it really dosen't matter because there are just some people in charge of group of people...that just take the word "Boss"...a little to far.. But this didn't seem like it was the case...Maybe she was trying to ascertain if you wanted to work additional hours or not and she just didn't ask the question the question the proper way... anyway there still isn''t any reason to be disrespectiful about the situtation..practicing friendly manners,,,good luck...
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
Later, she asked me whether I can work on Sat and Sun, I said I can work either one day but she did not like it. It seems hard for me to take her.
@wiguen (551)
• United States
19 Dec 12
democracy is the nice way of pure abuse, its just rules and regulations written by the ones in absolute control whom can modify them as pleased.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Just try to understand your boss.To build up an authoritative image some may be mean at first but as the days go on you will see her good part.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
Her good part even she is not so friendly. I think she should change that.
@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
29 Dec 12
Unfortunately, you are not the only one who has encountered this where you work. Often times I feel they think they own us and can control the hours you work and what type of job you will do, and decide what more you can do if anything. Most times they are only looking out for themselves and never take into considerationthe thoughts and feelings of anyone else.
@misjoseph (162)
28 Dec 12
I dislike people with that type of character after all they act like they are the only important people in the world... They believe you should not be treat like a human being... I think people who do these things are people who has some thing against you or people who are just jealous of you...