I'm sure you know someone like this...

Jacksonville, Florida
December 18, 2012 2:58pm CST
I absolutely cannot stand a pathological liar. It drives me out of my mind! Lol. They lie just to lie. It could be the most STUPID thing to lie about but it seems like they have to lie! I am not talking about those of us who tell little white lies now and then. I'm talking about people who lie about every single thing that comes out of their mouths. They are very sneaky and secretive people. Why do they feel the need to lie about stupid crap, like oh I said this and that to her but a witness to it says they said no such thing! Or oh I don't talk to this person anymore but you find something where it PROVES they ARE talking to the person. I fought them, they were hurting too but you see the person and they don't have a scratch on them. You know the kind of person I'm talking about, right? Why lie like that all the time?? Doesn't it get tiring? Don't you forget your lies after a while??
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19 responses
@Micmac (7095)
18 Dec 12
The ones that get me are the liars that get caught in their own lies consistently and they don't even remember what they are lying about and then they come up with a new lie to hide the lie that was revealed straight to their face. I think pathological liars have an inferior complex and are insecure and immature. One thing they never get tired of is their own lies. And they don't realise how boring they are. For them it's normal. I never will understand them but they are definately freaky!
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• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Dec 12
Your right. That has happened so many times and it is so stupid. To me, there is no point in wasting time lying about everything. Most of the time the person doesn't even know what their own lies are anymore! Then they sound REALLY dumb!! They are so secretive all the time like their life is that special that they have to lie about everything!
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
I really hate chronic liars. I know a couple people who are like this, and I always verify what they say with other people, because I have a feeling, they are not telling the truth, all the time. If there's any truth to what they're saying, perhaps only 10% of it.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Dec 12
Yes me too. I hate having to be this way towards them but if they would just tell the truth sometimes maybe I would not have to wonder about them! I hate not being able to trust the person...
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
Right. It may not be easy to earn other people's trust, but it's worth the effort. I have proven myself trustworthy to many people I've worked with, and I was pretty glad I've achieved success.
@celticeagle (115496)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Dec 12
Pathological liars are crafty aren't they? The best rule is to ignore these type of people, take nothing they say seriously and don't trust them. It does get tiring. It like the old cry wolf thing. THey sometime they will really need to be believe and no one will.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Dec 12
They are indeed. Your right, one day its going to happen that they will not be believed at all. They will regret all their lies...
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@celticeagle (115496)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Dec 12
And that is sad isn't it.
• United States
18 Dec 12
Wow you know my brother in law!
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Dec 12
I definitely don't want to know him now!
• United States
19 Dec 12
@wolfie34 (26877)
• United Kingdom
18 Dec 12
I am afraid I will have to hold my hands up to this, but I have good reason and I am sure once you have read my side of the story, you will understand why. I have been bullied most of my life, people find out stuff about me and use it against me, especially my ex, my ex had a crafty way of throwing stuff up at me, stuff they knew would hurt me. I am paranoid, I am extremely wary of people and I think people are out to get me, so I am guarded what I say, I would push people away and if they asked me anything I would lie, it's a defense mechanism I have built up over the time. I would even tell them a different name, tell them lies about what I do for a living, how old I am, all this to put them off, because I don't want anyone to get close to me or find out the real me, the sensitive me, the vulnerable me, the child in me. So by lieing or inventing stuff about me it throws them off. I hope that all makes sense.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Dec 12
It did make sense and I understand what your saying but couldn't you just not say anything rather than lie about everything about yourself? Do you lie about everything here too or just in person? I am not mad and I get why you do it but I just think there are better ways to protect ourselves than lying. When I don't want someone to know something about me, I tell them its none of their business, I don't lie about it though. Or you could just walk away or something... I just don't see the point in always lying like that, I'm sorry. I cannot stand when the person I know does it ALL the time. It gets on my nerves so badly... I don't think they have any reason to do it except that they want attention!
@wolfie34 (26877)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 12
This is the one place I feel safe enough to reveal the true me, there is only one thing about me that I would never reveal, but it's something I am not comfortable talking about so I will evade the question or 'rephrase' it so it doesn't make it obvious. I am also 100% honest in my therapy sessions, it makes sense don't it. I guess I am not confident around people face to face and because of my looks which is a plus thing I come across as intimidating so people don't approach me. It's the old problem isn't it you have to be around people to get used to being around them, and avoiding them keeps me safe but it doesn't give me practice of being assertive and telling them to butt out of my business!
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
I know some people who are just like that. And it gets irritating. I mean, this kids thinks he could get away with all those lies. I do not now if he is dumb not to think that the people involved with his "story" could be talking at each other somehow and "compare notes". I was actually dealing with him last weekend. And what made me really furious was when he got caught because of his lying, he pointed his finger at my son and made new "stories" which irked my in laws!
• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Dec 12
Its bad enough when they are kids doing it but once your an adult the lies need to stop! I understand you being angry when he blamed your son, that is very wrong. And his parents should teach him better than that. Like I said doing this as a child is bad but being an adult and lying about every single thing you say is ridiculous!!
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
You can say that again! And I blame the mother for her kids' behavior coz I know that their mother could also be a liar once in a while. I do not know if she just wants to say a lot of things but runs out of story that she has to make up new stories People are sometimes insane!
@katsmeow1213 (28885)
• United States
19 Dec 12
People lie because they want to be more interesting. They're insecure with their lives and think people will like them better if they lie about things. I used to be like that in high school. I did a lot of stupid things to get attention. I faked pregnancies (I went to an inner city school where a lot of girls were pregnant). Once I went a week with bandages on my wrists and people thought I'd tried to slit my wrists.. but I hadn't done anything at all. One time I acted like I'd been abused.. anytime someone touched my back I acted like it hurt.. until a teacher sent me to the nurse and there were no marks at all. I also told everyone in school I was dating a professional baseball player.. and most people believed me because I was going to the games all the time. Eventually I grew up and stopped. Eventually my life was interesting enough that I didn't need to lie and didn't need the attention. Actually until you brought this up I'd totally forgotten that I'd done things like that.. it's weird, because today I'm like the most honest person on the planet. I feel weird trying to lie about anything.
• Jacksonville, Florida
22 Dec 12
Your right I think that is why this person does it, because their insecure and they think no one will like them if they don't lie and put on an act. I think it's a phase some people go through when they were younger like in school, they do it to get attention or for people to like them. I have seen a few of my friends when I was in school tell those kind of lies as well. I heard a lot of pregnant stories, a lot of abuse stories, etc... But I think once your an adult all of the stories and lies should stop! It is no longer cute or fun-or shouldn't be! Yeah you grew up and realized lying is not acceptable. This person has still not grown out of this...
@toniganzon (44953)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
I've met a lot of people like that and it's really frustrating to talk to them everyday so i tried to avoid them as much as i can. Just this morning I told a friend of mine that I just realized how much of a big liar a former friend is. I'm so glad she's no longer in my life.
• Jacksonville, Florida
20 Dec 12
Yeah its actually good when its a friend because its easy to end a friendship but when its a family member like this, that is a lot more difficult. Not so easy to avoid...
@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
19 Dec 12
I'm thinking it likely does get hard to keep track of all the lies.. I can barely remember the day of the week sometimes, if I had to remember every little thing I said.. oh wow. Cheer up, old age will catch up to that person and they will be somewhat of a babbling idiot.. more so than now that is!
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Dec 12
I am sure it does too. I could never keep up with a ton of lies like that! I have no desire to lie to people like that because I want people to know they can trust me and I am an honest person. Yeah I cannot wait until old age hits them! LOL.
• United States
18 Dec 12
Hi Loving. I would think that it would be an exhausting job to have to make up lies to support the lies you told previously, you know? How do those kinds of liars actually keep up with the lies they tell. My forgetter is so good I can't even keep up with the events of my boring life. I can't imagine to have to lie about everything. I'd have to keep a notebook just to keep up.
• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Dec 12
Yes that is what I was thinking! How in the world do you keep up with that many lies??? I just don't understand it. Guess I never will... It has to be exhausting, it really does. Your right, I cannot remember what happened yesterday MUCH LESS keeping up with a bunch of lies I told all day, NO THANK YOU! Lying like that is definitely NOT for me...
@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Yeah I know one like that and worst is she is my friend or I thought she is I did not expect it of her because amongst us her friends she is the oldest and so she's supposed to be the most mature and open minded, but it's the other way around. I'm not sure when it exactly started but lately she's been behaving a little weird, she's in her late 50s but now dresses and acts like she thinks she's 20 years old. When I read your post it's almost as if you're descrbiing this friend of mine, she is exactly like that now, and I have this very strong feeling that when I'm not around she's lying and gossiping about me too Now I stay away as much as possible from her, it's a little hard to do because there are activities that we should be together as a group
• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Dec 12
I'm sorry, I had a friend like this as a kid and she was terrible to be around after a while. I cut ties with her. I understand how you feel because I deal with the person I am referring to all the time and it drives me crazy! I want to ask them, is there a reason you constantly lie about everything all the time? Its super annoying!!
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
18 Dec 12
I stay away from those pathological liars as far away as possible. I don't have friends who are liars and keep a healthy distance from them. So, I don't them bother me.
• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Dec 12
Yes its easy to avoid people like that when they are not family... Friends are easy to get out of your life, family not as much.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
22 Jan 13
I made a note in a response I made here recently about seeing some parts in the movie "Just go with it". Jennifer Anniston (or was it Adam Sandler?) made reference to having index cards to write down all the lies she made up just to keep up. I think pathological liars wouldn't even consider index cards. And I don't think they even mind when they are caught lying. It's best to stay away from these kind of people.
22 Dec 12
It is really funny how other people could be immune in telling lies. Eventually these people will reap what they sowed. They are just ruining their reputation. No one will believe in this kind of person in the coarse of time. I dont want eitheir to deal with a liar.
@MsTickle (25006)
• Australia
22 Dec 12
One of my exes was a terrible liar. It wasn't all the time, just every now and then he would say something untrue. Like we saw a guy at the library once who looked like a TV celebrity. It wasn't him of course but when he spoke to his son on the phone that night, he says..."we saw (name of celeb) today". When I asked him why he said it he just shrugged. It was soooo stupid. Yes, and annoying too. I noticed he started lying about other things too after that and I wondered how long he'd been lying to me. What a weirdo!
@Porcospino (16434)
• Denmark
20 Dec 12
My ex-boyfriend was a pathological liar and I never understood why he lied all the time. Some people lie because they don't want to hurt the other person or because they want to hide something or gain something, but the some of things that my ex-boyfriend lied about were small things that didn't matter at all. He also made up stories about things that never happened. It got to a point where I didn't believe anything he said. When he called me and told that he had been admitted to hospital I didn't get worried because I wasn't sure if it was true or just another story and I was so used to his lies. Another time I visited him in Copenhagen and he took me took "his" new apartment. At first he said "It is my apartment and a friend is staying with me", when I met his friend he revealed that it was his apartment, so my ex-boyfriend changed his story and said: "I own the apartment and my friend rents it" but that wasn't the truth either and his friend actually owned the apartment and he stayed there for free. I think that he lied because he didn't want to admit that he didn't have his own apartment, but I still found his lies very annoying and I simply couldn't trust the things that he said.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 12
So far, I know one person. She's my mom's aunt. I don't know what's going on in her mind, but it seems like lying has already become a habit for her. It's her daily life. It's her. I used to tell my mom that when she says something, just consider the other way around. Like when it's A, assume the B. That's the correct answer. At first my mom said I was silly. But my mom knows that this aunt is a liar, but still finds a hard time to find out which one is the truth. Until one day when she called another relative to tell her about what this aunt had said, this relative said that it wasn't like that. And she explained the other way around. So that made my mom believed I was right. So since that time, my mom always assumes the other message behind everything that her aunt says. And it always ends up the right answer.
@siya573 (26)
• South Africa
20 Dec 12
some people ca not finish a senrence without a lie....so i think its because lies are part of their convesations
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
20 Dec 12
I do know someone that is just like what you are talking about, that person is my sister-in-law. The biggest thing for her is that she will constantly claim that she is sick so that she can stay home from work. However, when it comes down to any of her three daughters being sick, she will try to get someone else to watch the kids so that she doesn't have to miss work. She really does drive me nuts. And, yes, there has been a couple of times that I can think of where she has forgotten about the lies that she's told. One example of that is that she once told me that she was allergic to fish. However, she now eats fish all the time.