Self-image is different from people's impression

@lldrwin (187)
China
December 19, 2012 1:02am CST
Recently,I'm too busy to shave my beard,so my face was covered by bushy beard.It's a little weired that I am feeling good when i look into mirror.The beard makes me full of manliness,I love my current appearance. I am not satisfy lots of white hair occupy behind part of my head,which make me looks like an old man.Sometimes,people will ask you the reason,coming up with many strange comments.Actually it is arise from genetic endowment,my mother and relatives on-law share the same condition.For the sake of health,I am not frequently use hair dye,it contains harmful chemical substance. I run into one of my female colleagues during lunch time,she say why I become hoary and old,My appearance suprised her.she point out that my bushy beard coupled with my white hair meets the typical feature only exist in old men.I feel sad about her word,it is a huge contrast between self-feeling and public opinions.I intend to shave my beard ,also have my white hair colored this weekend.
2 responses
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Sometimes, what you want others to see you isn't what they really is. It is because people may have various opinions on a certain object or person. And not unless you point out or make it real obvious will they know what that object or person really is.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
19 Dec 12
I konw different people hold different viewpoints on a incident.The key of this matter is what I am favor of is not accepted by others,it confuse me. Am i wrong,or I am addicted to myself world.what's the public taste on the image ,I just want to be myself.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
You just have to realize that you can never please everyone. So just be true to yourself and that is all that matters. Those people who knows you better will be your strength.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
20 Dec 12
Thanks jenny,you support me on this event.truely,nobody is perfect,so I do not care too much on other comments.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
19 Dec 12
Your self image is often how others see you. If you perceive people see you in a typical character then this is how you will often perceive yourself. It's been many years since I've had any psychology classes, but it goes somewhat like that. This is probably the reason why you act differently around different people, some people allow you to be your authentic self as they do not judge your behavior. You might be willing to show your full personality. You might act differently with your parents than your best friend, because you feel free from judgment. What other people think of my appearance is none of my business. If I am happy with the way I look, and I take care of myself, am clean, and dress appropriately than I am happy.
@lldrwin (187)
• China
19 Dec 12
In a sense,I think I belong to this kind of people who are definitely sincere to friends. I take the tidy self image into consideration,so I notice my dress style.Personally, i dislike what is welcomed by thousands of people.I prefer to choose these quality products ,which can show my unique taste.Like ipnone 4S ,I do regret owning it.It does not matter with the qulity or user experience,.In fact ,it's the best mobile phone i had ever bought,but it is very popular.I can not figure it out whether i insist on the wrong view on this issue.Apparently,my special personality is applied in daily life,but I still can accept the difference of others. I just consider keeping beard could ensure i looks like more mature than previous,I had enough of it many people call me little child. You must be a free person among your friends ,it's great.Surely,we should not ignore others comments on our disadvantages,but the rest of criticises is none of our business. Anyway,I will not change my mind easily.Wish we be ourselves continued.