Would you buy your newborn second hand clothes?

United States
December 19, 2012 1:26pm CST
I don't have any kids, and I am not married...yet. One day my ex girlfriend and I were toying with the idea of having kids. I asked her, "Do you think is a good idea to buy second hand clothes for our baby? She said, "No way. Don't you think is icky. I don't care how many times you wash the garments, someone else's baby has been there." I guess...she thought I was being a cheap b@stard, and that was one of the reasons we broke up. But seriously, do you think it makes you a bad parent to buy second hand clothes? What do you think is icky about it? Do you think you are a cheap parent if you do so?
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
19 Dec 12
i honestly don't have an issue with it. i buy second hand clothes all the time and would not hesitate to buy any for my kids. i have done and we borrowed clothes for our second daughter when she was young. what is the big deal? i love thrift stores!
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• United States
19 Dec 12
Exactly....what's the big deal. Kids outgrown their clothes too soon, especially newborns. I guess those who make a big deal out of it, are germ freaks.
• St. Peters, Missouri
20 Dec 12
Using second-hand clothes doesn't make you cheap or a bad parent. In my book, it means you're smart. We all have a fixed income of some type. Money doesn't grow on trees. So we have to use the money that is available to us to get all our needs and hopefully have some left over for saving and wants. Why would it be bad to spend less on clothing that will only be able to be worn a few months at best instead of saving the money for the child's college education? Or to buy food? It's a choice of what's more important. That's all.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
19 Dec 12
I don't see a thing wrong with it even though I always bought new clothes for our kids when they were small. Weren't any thrift stores or used clothing stores around that I was aware of and could utilize. And I really wasn't into garage sales. I do think the clothes should be washed first once they are home just to be sure they are clean.
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@ElicBxn (63233)
• United States
19 Dec 12
I don't see a problem with it. After all, many family's have to have hand-me-downs to make ends meet. I know people who were given baby clothes when some friend's baby out grew them, and were very grateful for them. Babies grow so quickly, that unless they soil something so badly it has to be thrown away, why not resell, or by used baby clothes?
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
19 Dec 12
I dont think it matter to a young one if they are used or not. many families are forced to do that. I know here in Mexico they are. its part of life. merry xmas there.... see you soon.
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• United States
20 Dec 12
No as long as the clothes are in good condition and washed. I raised three children and used second hand clothes when they were babies and they are still alive today. Why waste perfectly good clothes? My daughter just had a baby girl and had a bunch of clothes given to her and she is very grateful for them.
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
19 Dec 12
There's nothing at all wrong with second hand clothes. We've been conditioned to think that everything should be brand spanking new all the time, but that doesn't even make sense. Why send good clothing to the landfills that are already overflowing, then buy new clothes just because we want to?
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• Canada
3 Jan 13
If they were from a retailer that I trusted, I would. If a friend was seloling them, I would. If I could inspect the clothes first, and make sure they had no stains, blemishes, or damage, I would. Then I'd take them all home, wash and dry them thoroughl twice, and then use them for my child.
@Anne18 (11029)
19 Dec 12
My children had many second hand clothes, it doesn't make you a cheap parent as you can pick up some very good labels in the second hand shops. It is better to buy second hand clothes and stay in credit than buy new clothes and get into debt
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@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 13
I have four children and I think that buying second hand clothes for your babies don't make you a bad parent. Babies grow up so fast. The clothes that you buy for them last month won't fit them in two or three months. You have to constantly provide new clothes for them. So if you're very rich and can afford it, by all means, buy new clothes for your babies. But if you want more things for your babies, just buy second hand clothes. In fact, hand me downs are the best.
@AdalieM (1134)
• United States
19 Dec 12
I don't think you are being cheap if you buy second hand clothes for your baby. I guess the reason why some people want to buy brand new garments is because they want their baby to feel special and they want the baby to have everything new and not hand me downs. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with buying used clothes, especially if you are on a budget. If you are rich, by all means go spend an awful lot of money, but it will be in vain, is not like your new born is asking for the latest trends.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Jan 13
I buy from second hand stores and it saves us a lot of money! I just make sure to wash it all before my kids wear them. I don't see an issue with it. Unless your rich, this is the best option most of the time...
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
19 Dec 12
We are all human beings. What makes it 'icky' if you wore second-hand clothes? If you washed the clothes, then they are clean. No more 'ickyness' left on those clothes. It makes you a wise parent if you bargain shop and buy wisely for your baby and child. Saving money is actually a good idea. Even second hand clothes and toys. As long as they are in good condition, what does it matter? I used to work at a daycare. It was not a very expensive daycare and parents didn't have a lot of money, but many parents spend a lot of money on brand new clothes for their babies and children. The children painted and played a lot outside, the babies crawled on the floor, so it was pointless to buy expensive, brand new clothes for their children at a daycare. Children need to be free to paint, play in the sandbox, move around, etc. and not have to worry about their brand new, designer clothes. The children could care less about 'designer' clothes. They don't even care if their clothes are brand new or second hand. It would have been better if parents saved their money for their children's futures, (instead of buying expensive brand name clothes) like saving for their children's college education.
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19 Dec 12
I waited until she was about 3 months before I started buying thrift clothes for my daughter. I also had the presumption that second hand clothes would be dirty and misused, however, once I realized how fast my daughter grew I got over that real quick! I checked out the local thrift store and found barely used infant clothes for at LEAST half the price! Clothes are too expensive as it is, but being able to keep up with babies growing up and maintaining my regular income it was very helpful. Also looking in the clearance and sales racks in the normal clothing store doesn't hurt.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
20 Dec 12
Providing the clothes are thoroughly washed and laundered, they become yours! In these hard times where money is tight there is no wrong in buying second hand clothes. The most important thing is that your baby is loved and clothed, whether they have second hand clothes or not is not or should be an issue. That was very harsh of her to call you that, and if she has this attitude maybe you are better off without her!
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
22 Dec 12
I don't really see how someone else's baby is any dirtier than your own baby. My kids' clothes are almost all handmedowns from relatives and acquaintances. Baby clothes are expensive considering they only fit for a couple of months and they need so many outfits. I'm not a cheap parent. But we are spending our money on a good preschool for our son, not on clothes that he's going to outgrow or wear out in a matter of months.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
21 Dec 12
I have always thought that buying children's clothing at thrift stores and garage sales just makes good $$ sense. Young parents frequently don't have a lot of money. Kid's clothes are expensive, and children usually grow quickly. I have bought clothing for my grandchildren at garage sales with the tags still on them. The explanation was that the child outgrew the clothing before they ever got to wear them. Perhaps they were for the wrong season or duplicates were received at showers. I always check for shrinkage, rips, tears and stains, but other than that precaution, I see nothing wrong with buying and wearing used clothing.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Dec 12
Lemme put it this way, if you are being a cheap parent by buying second hand clothes for your children, then I've been a cheap parent for over ten years because I bought a lot of my daughter's baby clothes for yard sales and now that she is getting older, she actually prefers to do her own shopping at the local thrift stores. Babies are only really small for a finite amount of time and therefore, you are being much more intelligent with your money if you are to buy used clothes for them instead of brand new clothes. They are only going to outgrow them far before they are worn out so why not save some money where other people have overspent.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
20 Dec 12
I really don't see anything wrong with it. Babies grow so fast, most of the clothes you get second hand have hardly been worn. I wouldn't buy anything that was stained, but other than that, it's a good way to dress a baby and toddler. In fact, we even buy adult clothig at thrift shops...as long as they're in good shape. They aren't dirty, but I wash them anyway, just because.
• United States
20 Dec 12
Hi! I'd've liked to purchase both of my kids clothes at retail prices but after doing some simple math and a dose of reality, we decided to stick with second hand. (figure 14-20 onezies in a week and each one costs average $5 at retail and they only last for 3 months) Unless the baby has an allergic reaction and can only do organic cotton, go for secondhand though do wash throughly first and in Dreft detergent. Let others do the gifting, watch for the sales, and put the money where you know it'll last such as the crib, car seat, shoes, and stroller. So no I don't think I am being cheap--very practical until times get better and they will.