Are we Friends?

Philippines
December 20, 2012 2:29am CST
She called me last week as if nothings is wrong. Inviting me to her sons's birthday. She sounds so kind and caring but I don't know if I can trust her anymore. Jenalyn is my childhood friend since we were in grade 3. We've grown up together, we're like sisters and we went to same school. When we reached the 3rd year in high school my family moved into another place because of my mother's uncles greediness to property that is supposed to be owned by my Mama because it's been bought by my grandmother for her but she was still young by that time,she decided to put the name of her grandma which is the mother of her uncles. We moved 3 times to some other places but they doesn't stop. Since we moved we rarely see each other. I transferred to another school too. Now it's been 6 years since the last time I saw her. We only communicate through calling and texting. My life has changed a lot,now I have my own family I told her everything about me while I don't have any idea that everything that she knew about me she's telling it to others specially my bad experiences. She's spreading bad things about me. I don't know what to say to her. Have experienced being betrayed by your friend?
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8 responses
@dodoazo (21403)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
You've been best of friends before. Now it turned to be different for she couldn't be trusted anymore. She revealed all your personal secrets or whatever that your personality attributes. In this scenario, you've concluded that she's betraying? Wow, that's too bad. Why she betray you in what reason? I think telling others of your personal problems or whatever that you've confided her couldn't be an act of betrayal. What is appropriate is that she couldn't be trusted.
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
Sorry if i misused that term, your right. Well, this is not the only mistake she did to me. I don't know her reasons but I'm trying to understand her. My hubby talked to me about this and he told me to stop communicating with her.
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@dodoazo (21403)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
That's alright. I'm just concern of your relationship with her in which she did break it up by being your untrusted friend, or being a friend who couldn't be relied upon especially on personal matters regarding yourself.
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
It's just like I trusted a person that I thought I knew all this years and suddenly found out that she's a stranger. I feel pity for her.
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@cessybear (223)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I haven't experienced it yet. Hopefully, never will. Because I love my friends, and they're like family to me. About your childhood friend, I think you ought to give her a chance. Talk to her about it, but be kind and calm. You have to fix your problems with her, otherwise, your friendship in those years will be ruined.
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Thanks for your response I'm trying to save it but I think it's not that easy.
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
It cannot be easy. You know, trying not to loose your hold on your temper. Hahaha I know you can do it! Give her a chance.
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
yours is another story of betrayal among many, in some places i heard they call a friend who betrays a friend as "Judas"... they always said "beware when Judas kisses you". julius caesar was killed by a friend, many revolutionary heroes of ours here in my country are assassinated by their own friends. although it may seem bad to say that we should not give all our secrets or where we are weak in order to protect ourselves and our privacy, but sometimes good reason would tell us to do so. we should know what there is to give, and what there is to keep in order to survive.
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
That's right I've learned my lessons.I won't reveal all my secrets to anyone easily.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
22 Dec 12
No problem some time our friends deleted us from their list then we consider they are our friends some time we delete our friends from list but they still consider we are their friend. If she is calling you on birthday then you should go there.
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
I didn't attend but it doesn't mean that I'm mad at her.
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
22 Dec 12
This does sound like someone you might want to examine your thoughts and decide what is Best. There was someone at my Class reunion back in July that said we were good friends once, but I never remembered her, and even leave her on Facebook as an acquaintance, but know her and I could never be friends now. Sounds like you might have to let her go and find someone in your life who can treat you with respect.
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Well, perhaps you're right. I just expected so much for her that's my mistake.
@imsippy (47)
• India
20 Dec 12
no we are not ,,,,,but we can become best friend...
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
sure. why not? it seems like you didn't even read my post.
• China
20 Dec 12
I feel pity that you got such a friend,and I guess you already deleted her from your list of friends,right?She does not deserve your trust,I can understand this sufferings because I have also betrayed by friend once,which was really chilling,but I should say if she invites you and prentend nothing happened,may be she did not mean to offend you,if you would like to forgive her ,after all you two were the best friends before,you may give her a chance to explain about it.
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
Thanks for your sympathy!
@leateagee (3667)
• China
4 Mar 13
That's awful. She is such a bad person and friend. Actually you shouldn't call her a friend -- maybe an acquiantance or neighbor or classmate will do. I feel so bad knowing you've been betrayed. If I were you I would erase her in my memory and friends' list. Actually I have erased a lot of people in my life. I mean I don't keep in touch with them. They just disturb my peace. There are a lot of people who really cares about me and those are the ones I kept.