Single or married, does it matter?

@ulan12rc (223)
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December 23, 2012 3:50pm CST
My girl friends and I were in a coffee shop last night having a small talk while taking our dinner, grilled chicken and vegetables salad in thousand island sauce, cheese stick, potato rings, a slice of chocolate cake mousse and of course a cup of my favorite coffee latte (makes my day). Oh my gosh! What happened to my diet? Wait, let's go back to my topic(forget about my diet first I'll do that after New Year :D ) we were chatting when suddenly a guy came and asked if he can sit down with us and talked to me. He approached us in a friendly manner so I said it's okay after that he told us that his friend behind us is very shy and asked him favor if he can inquire for my name because he likes me that much (OMG). He even asked if I am single or married, I told him yes very much married with three kids, then out of the blue he asked, does it matter? What do you think? Does it really matters or not?
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@dodoazo (11151)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
If you're serious of your married life, you wouldn't mind that situation. You may stop it right away. What is his business anyway? Friendship? If he wants to, he should approach you personally not through a bridge of his friend. Single or married actually doesn't matter when friendship is concerned. It only matters when the intention is bad.
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@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
I admire wife who gives her whole attention only to her hubby and to their kids.Having friends that is normal but attending to a group party or similar occasion husband must be present too.For me being married really does matter.
• United States
23 Dec 12
Yes,it does matter.There is nothing wrong with having male friends while you are married but him telling you that he likes you and asking if you are single means he was hitting on you.In all honesty I would have ended the conversation right then and there,things could get really messy.What was your response when he asked does it matter?
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@ulan12rc (223)
• Qatar
24 Dec 12
Of course it matters that's what I said to him. And like what you just said I end up the conversation by telling him that I am very much married with three beautiful kids.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Yes, of course it matters. If you have three kids are married and very much in love with your husband, then ya it matters. A person with integrity just doesn't go around hanging out with every Tom, Richard and Harry just because she thinks he's a nice looking man. At this point, I don't even think it would be okay to be his friend knowing that he has a romantic interest in you. If I'm going to date someone they have to be divorced. separated doesn't count. Show me the papers.
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@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
24 Dec 12
I would slap his face. Why are you even asking such a question? I would have told him to LEAVE!!!! I am happily married and if a man approached me and asked for my name I would NOT have told him. I would tell him to bug off - big time. Hopefully married means something to you and also, means something to your husband. What if your husband did what this man did? Would you be asking such a question? Would it matter to you if your husband approached a group of women, was friendly to them, and asked if he could sit down with them and started talking to them. Then, he asked their names and asked if they were single or married. And then said that it doesn't matter if they were single or married. Would it matter to you, if your husband did the same thing????
• China
24 Dec 12
Of course it matters!his target is a girlfriend, not a normal friend. and even if he really wanted a friend ,there still arise another old topic as do you really believe there is true friendship between boys and girls?
@ulan12rc (223)
• Qatar
24 Dec 12
Hi ZoeJoy! I like your style I hope I'm kindda like that but unfortunately at that time I am very happy to even think of ruining my night with such silly guys, trying to catch attention of some female groups. You know it's a bit difficult to answer your question because my hubby is not that type of guy but in general of course it matters....
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
yes it matters, when you are married and with three kids, and somebody other than your hubby would tell you, he likes you. and you eat all those high calories things in just one sitting. a girl would usually love to hear that. that's how i look at it.
@ulan12rc (223)
• Qatar
24 Dec 12
Hahahah...you amazed me. I never realized that but anyway FYI I'm seven days a week, twelve months a year on diet and only sometimes giving myself a break that's why I am happy at that time to even give attention to such silly guys messing around me. :)
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
24 Dec 12
Wow, I definitely think it matters! If someone is interested in a possible relationship with someone, then I think it's really important to know that the person is totally available. I've never really understood people who are willing to get involved with someone who is either married or in a relationship already. If I was looking for someone, anyone who is married would be totally off limits for me!
@ulan12rc (223)
• Qatar
24 Dec 12
You're right Ms Elisa, But sometimes it makes me wonder also why there's some people who cannot understand that logic. It really confused me what if you fall for a certain person in the wrong time , can you still say off limits?
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
YES!!! it does matter! what kind of a guys that? what does he thinks about you? an easy woman? He heard you right? you told him that you are married and have 3 kids but why does he still insists? If he heard you say those words then he should go away and say sorry but based on what he said? duh what kind of a man he is? Maybe it's also a bluff, maybe he is still hoping that you might change your mind if say that thing though :)
@dyffer (75)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
The next thing is all up to you...for him he answered "it doesn't matter" so anything will be okay....but the matter on your part is still unanswered....and I think it is not okay :)