Falling in love with your bestfriend

@chiwasaki (4661)
Philippines
December 23, 2012 11:56pm CST
Does it really happen? Falling in love with your Best friend? I guess that is possible as your best friend is ther person who knows you and accepts you. I have seen a lot of this scenarios in movies and television series. Have you encountered this before? Please share.
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@Arieles (2474)
• United States
24 Dec 12
Well, I guess if I really think about it, sure I have fallen in love with my best friend before. Obviously, we were good enough friends for me to fall in love with. He accepted me for who I was. Unconditional love. He looked past my mistakes and I looked past his mistakes. Of course it wasn't like you see in the movies or anything like that, but sure there was a real connection there.
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@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I agree, with your best friend, they can accept your mistakes and every little thing about you. It is not hard to fall in love with your best friend especially if you really let yourself. But some would rather have a lasting friendship with their best friend than to make it to the next level.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
Falling in love with your best friend is possible because your best friend is one person whom you can be just yourself and can open yourself up freely without having the fear of rejection. This happened to me, though it was short-lived. Actually, it was my best friend who fell in love with me. He tried courting for three years and each time he would ask me, I just tell him that it was much better for us to remain as friends, coz I do not see him anything more that that. On his fourth attempt, I think I just said "yes" just so he would not be bugging me with the question. But I guess, it is really impossible to fool ourselves to love a person more than we can if we really do not want to. And so after being a couple for a few months, I honestly told him that I could not see ourselves to be really taking it a step further than just by being the best of friends. He was hurt, I know. He became distant and I understand. But we have still remained friends even after 25 years.
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• Philippines
24 Dec 12
I can really say he gambled and he firmly believed you can also fall for him, am sure his intentions were good. It's normal to some one to be distant with you if you have rejected that person. I hope he feels mutual with you with out any kind of regret for getting to know you. hope he greets you a nice xmas day.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
We are both married now. And we rarely get the chance to see each other or exchange messages. But when er do see each other, the warmth of our friendship is still there.
@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I agree with you. That kind of relationship is possible as you can be 100% yourself with your best friend. But there are some friendship that will never be upgraded to an intimate relationship. I guess if you see your best friend as a brother or a sister, having a relationship with your best friend is not possible.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
24 Dec 12
This really does happen. I think it is a great thing when best friends fall in love. That is how things should be. When I was younger my best friend and I fell in love. It was one of the most exciting times in my life. Now we are married. We have our share of ups and downs but I know that he loves me and that I love him.
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@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I think that is a wonderful story. Your best friend can be the best husband or wife in the world. This is because you understand each other very well. I am glad to hear that you still both love each other. Best wished to both of you.
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• United States
1 Jan 13
Thanks. I appreciate it. I think as long as we strive to continue to get to know one another. As we grow and change through our life we will be able to stay best friends. Any type of friends have to stay close and continue to learn about one another in order to keep the relationship growing strong.
@cobalt20 (1321)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
I have experience from my classmate in college or shall we say best friend in college. My best friend is man and his best friend is a girl. They are in love each other when we are having a field trip. Now, they were broken heart.
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@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
That is a sad story. If you were best of friends and you became lovers, sometimes after the breakup, its hard to maintain the friendship. That is one thing that I do not like about best friends becoming lovers relationship. Well I hope that they are still good friends after their break up.
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
Hello chiwasaki, Yes you can fall in love with your bestfriend every love and relationship always starts with friendship. but as far as going beyond the friendship is concern, this is a huge gamble, because either you end up as mutual friends or simple distant strangers hoping to erase the failure and rejection.
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@nani4ajay (108)
• India
24 Dec 12
I encountered this king of situation, and I feel happy for this, she was my ever best friend since my childhood, she was my family friend and my mother likes her so much, she knows what are my likes and dislikes, she gives a very suitable gift for my every birthday which is unexpected, initially I don't feel the love but later when she was away from me I felt emptiness in my heart. She is born for me and we always fight but never stayed away. I thank god for giving me such a beautiful friend and my wife in future. Thanks alot for this discussion.
@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
That is good to hear that you were able to find the love of your life. I guess your best friend really knows you and she is like the other half of your life. Congratulations to you in advance. I hope you will be more happy with her.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
29 Dec 12
No, I haven't encountered this before but I think it is possible. However I think it is very rare cause usually you'll mistake the feeling of familiarity and togetherness for love. Usually couples I know who used to be best friends return to just being friends because it's better that way. I'm not generalizing though, in this world, there is no telling what people can do and what the future may bring any of us.
@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
t's very easy to fall in love with your best friend especially if that person has many qualities that you admire
@Bayour05 (63)
• United States
25 Dec 12
Happened to me ones, now we've break up it doesn't last long for me.
@oneidmnster (1389)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I fell in love with my best friend 25 years ago. We've been married for 24 years now.
@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
25 Dec 12
Fortunately, I don't have this kind of feeling because my best friend is a boy.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
25 Dec 12
It has all possibilities to be so. Proximity of such a friend and joint actions on some issues of life can turn love deeper and deeper. Actually such a friend would be felt as a relief too in life.
@celticeagle (118607)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Dec 12
Oh, yes it sure does happen. That is the goal in any relationship, to be best friends. It can certainly change the dynamics of the relationship but two people should be the very best of friends if they hope to make a romantic rlationship work at all. I don't think that I have ever experienced this before.
@ARIES1973 (9541)
• Legaspi, Philippines
24 Dec 12
Hi chiwasaki! I can see things happening in real life. As you said your best friend knows you better than anybody else so the probability of falling in love is bigger. Have a nice day!
• United States
24 Dec 12
Sometimes, you just think you're in love with your best friend because you two are so close. Make sure that what you feel isn't just a best friend kind of love, but actually a relationship kind of love or you'll ruin everything, including the friendship you have as of now. Don't attempt to risk it all and try out the relationship without being sure because you're risking your entire friendship.
• United States
24 Dec 12
It happens, I have experienced it and have seen it...however it is risky. If you are best friends and then you try a relationship and it doesn't work out, the heartbreak is worse because you have lost both your love and your best friend.
• China
24 Dec 12
It may not happen to me, because i know that, if we are together, we can not be best friends again after the breakup, i appreciate the feelings to be friends, i will not let that happen to me.
@mranjaan (137)
24 Dec 12
If you have fallen love with your best friend, go ahead and tell him, dont waste the time. Best friends knows each other very well.
• India
24 Dec 12
ya its true. actually i am also fallen in love with my closest friend..........but i am afraid to tell because i may loose her friendship...........
• United States
24 Dec 12
y and it was good for a very long time. then he started showing his true colors mistreating other woman he dealt with. forcing me to do things I did not want to do. and putting his hands one me for them as well.