Is something wrong if we tell a person to make sure they not repeat the same mistake in mylot?

Malaysia
December 24, 2012 10:50am CST
Yesterday I saw an advertisement discussion. We told him that the discussion will be removed because we not allowed to make advertisement discussions in mylot but she does not believe. She said she not advertise scam sites. The problem here we are not allowed to start advertisement discussion. Some of the member who is also make the response is not satisfied with what was said by us. She says that she wants to report and stated that we make negative comments, offensive and malicious. Is something wrong if we tell a person to make sure they not repeat the same mistake in mylot?
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16 responses
@deazil (4605)
• United States
24 Dec 12
I think I know the discussion you're speaking of. I believe this persons' perception was wrong. They seem to think that trying to help someone by pointing out their error is shaming them. This is not true, in my mind. If you started a discussion and I felt you violated the guidelines I would feel obligated, as a friend and fellow mylot member, to tell you. Would you feel shamed that I was telling you of your error in a discussion where everyone would read it? I don't think I've ever been rude in helping other new members. And I've never seen senior members be rude in doing so. It depends on how you tell a person. I try to be tactful, maybe a little humorous. But I think it all has to do with one's perception. And this person seemed intent on not listening to or accepting the explanations that were given. I feel their viewpoint is the exact opposite of the majority. In advising someone I think the important thing is to be respectful of their feelings and supply correct information. If you think helping someone might cause a problem, pass it by and leave it to the seniors. Or you can report it as a guideline violation. Maybe this person would rather be reported. I would rather have another member tell me nicely where I went wrong.
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• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
That person target Forever the lamb. What lamb say is the right things. I not see he doing negative comments, offensive and malicious. I hope lamb is fine.
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@deazil (4605)
• United States
25 Dec 12
Don't worry about Lamb. He's fine. Or haven't you been here? www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2734066.aspx A little excitement going on today.
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• Thailand
25 Dec 12
mmmm. what did I missssssssssss....what did I misssssss good morning miss deazil... not been sleeping yet for two days now lol. i cant sleep...maybe I was too tired. how are you doing the were all surprised to see me... they were all in tears...and hugged me so tight. hahaha
@Hatley (154806)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Dec 12
AkamaruKeis no she is wrong not you. you are doing just what my lot tells us to do , help newcomers when we see them making a error in their discussion. You did nothing wrong at all as you have learned mylot dos and donts and were merely trying to help this person. she is wrong as those were not negative offensive and malicious at all. I think this newcomer was also after someone else on my lot that told her she was making a rule breaking discussion. Don't listen to that as you were trying to help the mylotter. she is the one in the wrong.
@deazil (4605)
• United States
24 Dec 12
Mornin' Hatley! I hope you're feeling fine today.
• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
I do not understand. This newbie member is from USA. English is their native language. If a person like me can understand how come they not understand the rule in mylot.
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• United States
6 Mar 13
Hi AkamaruKei, This is an old post, but I just came across it. You are right in trying to help people to post right because we all lose when the discussions are deleted when we answer them. As for them being from USA, well... that doesn't really matter to people who don't read the guidelines or don't care.
• United States
24 Dec 12
Helping them is a good thing and they learn faster with your help. I don't think they would find anything wrong with helping them either.
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• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
Helping and guide someone is a good things to make sure they know why their discussion delete.
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• India
24 Dec 12
You have done right thing but she takes you in a wrong way. She will learn quickly when admin will delete her post. Nowadays there are lot of people which doesnt want to admit their mistakes and try to change the whole scenario by putting the blame on others. That type of attitude is not good for a person.
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• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
Not only the person which is start discussion is not listen our advice that is some member also not agree what we do.
• India
25 Dec 12
Dont worry Time is a great teacher so they will learn their mistakes when they spend some time on mylot.
@chiwasaki (4679)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
I think there is nothing wrong to correct someone as long as its polite. The approach should be sincere and it must not be rude. I think some My Lot people here will do that because they just want to help. They do not want to correct you so you appear wrong but to help you instead. I think it is nice of you to advise that person of rules.
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• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
I talk to them nicely and not rude so she dont have any reason to report about me.
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
There is nothing wrong in telling someone the thing that is really happening. It is just like informing someone with the things he/she must understand... But sometimes there are people who can't accept the fact and they think that they are always right. But since you are just informing then ignore their negative reaction for it is not you who is wrong here but the people who can't open their eyes for the details...
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• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
Yes that person not believe what we say and there are some member dont like what we say there.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 12
You have done something great akamaru. Keep doing it cause you will never walk alone.
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• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
Thanks devilova. I like when a newmember listen advice from veteran member. When someone still not listen advice from other member we also cannot do anything.
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
if it were me, i will take it as a good advice, there are instances here that i read about people posting what they thought is a discussion which in fact there is nothing important or educational to be discussed.a good person here once asked me when i was just a few days old here "so what do you want to discuss about?" and since then i make it sure as much as i could to post something worthy to be discussed. i found some here that all they do is post about misfortunes in their life after misfortunes, well maybe they just need sympathy or whatever, but it appears that there is really nothing to be discussed about in what they have posted in a discussion. some where just a repeat of some other discussions. just like the topic about the end of the world. i am glad you opened about this discussion at least we will know what we have to do to make it right.
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• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
Pen_Pal777 i also new here. I also still in learning process. I listen advice from veteran member here to make sure i not repeat a same mistake again.
@rosekiss (30159)
• Eugene, Oregon
24 Dec 12
I do know the discussion ou are talking about, and you were in the right, as that person was spamming, and felt that they weren't doing anything wrong. Itr is our job as mylotters to inform others and the admin when there is a violation, so that it can be taken care of. I also so the response of the person that felt everyone was being mean and shouldn't have posted what they did. I couldn't believe what I was reading, as that person was totally off the mark. that does happen from time to time though, where someone feels that others are being demeaning to another user. As long as you are doing what you are supposed to do, how can that be demeaning anyone? I just don't get it, but hopefully that person will come to the realization that everyone was doing what they were supposed to do to correct the situation. Take care, and have a very Merry Christmas.
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• Indonesia
27 Dec 12
I think you did a good thing.If you find a mistake than it is your obligation to warn other about the mistake that they have done. Sometime people seems don't understand about the rules. But you told that he was form US so he was a native speaker. In my opinion he just tried to make a spaming
• Indonesia
27 Dec 12
Just do the right thing. I remind me too if I done the wrong post, I don't mind:)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 12
Do you mean remind you if you make mistake here?
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
25 Dec 12
Really there is no right or wrong. She made a mistake, does it mean she's wrong. No, it just means the guidelines for this site were not followed. There are other places on this site where homepages may be allowed. Just because someone made a mistake doesn't necessarily make you right. And why hammer a subject, when she clearly feels bad for having done so. I don't think issues should be made over someone making a simple mistake. If several people are attacking her for the same thing, how is she suppose to feel? We all need to be empathetic and understanding. A private message have been a subtler way to handle a situation like this. This way it's not considered malicious. We all make mistakes, it neither makes us "wrong" or "right" it just means we made a mistake. We learn from our mistakes.
• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
I talk to her nicely and not rude. Maybe you should ask lamb how to guide someone.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
25 Dec 12
Thank you for the suggestion, but I will pass. I have no need to ask anyone how to guide someone. I know this one for myself. Thank you Akamarukei..have a very merry christmas and a happy and healthy holiday.
@Pegasus72 (1904)
28 Jan 13
I think warning them is ok and if they do it and get their posts deleted then I guess after a while they might just catch on that what they are doing is wrong.
• Malaysia
29 Jan 13
Yeah i just warning them. I do not treat them like idiots. I just want them not to make same mistake again in mylot and they also know why their post deleted.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 12
You are right. There is some guidelines or rules and regulations we have to follow. Certain discussions that are against these rules will be removed. Offensive remarks, or adult discussions not meant for the underaged are not allowed. No crude or four-letter is allowed in the discussion or else it will be removed. So it is for him to believe you. If he does not believe let him experience one himself and let the discussion be deleted.
• United States
26 Dec 12
Just report the discussions like that. You don't have to comment because you will lose your post anyway when it is deleted.
• Malaysia
26 Dec 12
We just say to them why their discussion delete so they not make a same mistake again.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
25 Dec 12
No problem if you are telling about the rules of mylot because some time few mylotter are forget the rules or not read the rules. If she is not agree with you then no problem leave her own decision because if mylot admin will notice this they automatically the discussion will removed. You can say me any time if I am doing any mistake because I can rectify it.
• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
Of course i leave her and let other guide her. Ok i will correct you if you wrong and correct me if i wrong but talk nicely.
@Mintlin (326)
• China
25 Dec 12
well,there are a lot of people like this,perhaps honest advice is hard to accept. so just ingore it,do not let it ruin your mood
• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
I just ignore this person if they dont want to listen our advice. It's up to them to do whatever they want i want to see how long they will stay at here.