At what point, you start suspecting your partner

India
December 26, 2012 7:55am CST
What is the immediate cause or factors after which you start suspecting you partner that she/he may be cheating on you. Is his/her sudden change in the demeanor, or some conversation has become less, or he/she has started ignoring you for a lot of time?
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@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
I haven't any reason to suspect my wife. I have a close friend though who started doubting her husband basically because of sudden changes in behavior. The husband had become sort of secretive and lately has been coming home late. The clincher though was he was jumpy each time his cell phone rings.
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• China
26 Dec 12
I am not sure that the partner you mentioned means lover or not.If it is,well,my view is if he starts alienating me or always making an excuse that he is very busy so that he could not reply my message or answer my call.I will surly suspect him.
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@LisaJo (15)
23 Jul 15
Definitely the sudden change in behaviour which includes ignoring you. Of late, in fact, he/she has become smart enough to not show any obvious changes so you need to be extra careful and read the signs.
@AdalieM (1135)
• United States
27 Dec 12
I am not in a relationship right now, but I would start to get suspicious if he is making up all kind of excuses not to spend time with me, working late, returning home late, etc. I do know that when you love somebody, you'll do anything in your power to spend time with that person, and if there's no good reason to miss a day together-- that's a big red flag.
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
I didn't notice any changes, I just don't expect too much because I knew myself that it can be possible. I do check his email and fb account once in a while and found out something that made me feel devastated. Well, it is not that big but enough to disappoint me that much.
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
let me speak about myself,my girlfriend should start suspecting me of dishonesty towards her if, i get irritated easily by her simple questions like "who am i texting on my cellphone so often" or when she asks me why i seem to be so inspired to go to work so early and go home late. when she wants to kiss me and i said we will do it later because i am tired, when i cannot say "I love you" with a straight face, when i always wanted to have a new hair cut and why i am always wearing perfume with no special place to go, or where do some of my money go....those were just a few things that she should be on the look out to be able to know if i cheat on her.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
26 Dec 12
Do you mean to say life partner or partner when in love or partner who are in relationship. Why I am asking this because I knew in each case there will be different ways to think and look into who and why each one to be considered or look out to be a cheating on each other. There are many ways to thinks about when one person (partner) is cheating on their partner.
@dainy1313 (2354)
• Leon, Mexico
26 Dec 12
Hi anilhclites, I think that a sudden change in his behavior is a fact to begin suspecting. My father cheated my mom for 4 years. He didn´t arrive home for the weekends, he bought a store in another town and he said he spent time on his business. Love is love, and love is peace and grace. So when love is gone you can suspect something is going wrong. You can prevent that he/she cheats you. God is the source of love and he wants us to be happy. So if you think that God is lacking between you and your mate is time to suspect that something is not going by the right way. Even is he is still loyal, you can prevent walking in the wrong direction. Don´t you think so? Blessings anilhclites... dainy
@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
26 Dec 12
to suspect the man or woman you must have a good reason. sometimes such a reason could be that there is nothing as cava. just changed woman or man, and the other side sees this change. but to be sure a person just needs to check these things. merry christmas!