it is the festive season and he is still grumpy!

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
December 26, 2012 11:53pm CST
This morning hubby was not in the mood ( again! ) He was ok last night, we had fun then this morning i guess he woke up at the wrong side of the bed.. my son, the 5 year old was having a very rare tantrum! He woke up and been begging again for a PSP ( which i decided not give him because he have this attitude of getting addicted right away!) so i told him to just borrow from his cousin and he end up crying saying he wants one on his own... so i sat down and told and explained him reasons and saying it is not in our budget right now too and it is something unfair as the other two kids were not asking for anything... and then he end up crying more and my hubby heard him. He tried reasoning out, trying to divert his attention..and telling him new year is here and he will be able to stay up all night and play and party with us... which did not work because he end up a lot more with tears! i guess it got into hubby's mood and he end up getting mad at our son he son cried more and hubby had to spank him in the butt with his palm... i end up hugging him but he still end up crying more and hubby end up getting mad.. good thing my parents were there, they had to take my son and reason out with him as we have to leave for work.. it is sad because such cases really stresses me out too, i want to comfort my son but at the same time i do not want to spoil him and he need to learn how to wait and listen to reasons.. i mean my 2 year old CAN listen to reasons and my 5 year old is the one who cannot.. i guess this is a phase but hard because it really spoils everyone's mood... i do not know what kind of mood they will have when we will arrive home. sigh...
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@allknowing (66559)
• India
27 Dec 12
It is not just your kid but today's kids have the happy knack to get into tantrums till they get what they want. Parents have no time to sit through this and mostly give in. I commend you that you have stuck and have not given in. It is difficult but your little fellow will soon realise that he cannot have his way!
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
I really hope he won't be giving any tantrums this afternoon as i am already tired.. but yes i won't be giving in to what he wants because of the consequences
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@allknowing (66559)
• India
27 Dec 12
A bit of restraint at this stage will go a long way in the child accepting disappointments in later life with ease.
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@GardenGerty (100380)
• United States
27 Dec 12
Allknowing is correct, you are doing a good job in helping form his character. If he sees that having a tantrum gets him what he wants he will have even more tantrums. I am sure you do not want that.
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@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
In my opinion jazel , you should not give in to your son's demand for a PSP. As you said it's not within your budget. Giving in to his plea would make him do more of his tantrums, because he will now know that when he do that you give in. It's a good thing, we didn't ever experience that with our daughter when she was still a kid. That's because whenever she asks for something not within our budger, we tell her so. And we tell her, do you like your Mama and Papa to be buried in debt because we have to have the money for what you like?
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
i do tell him that and explain it to him, he refuse to understand it...but my daughter understands and my youngest probably that is why they did not ask much this year.. but my 5 year old won't and i guess because he saw my nephew with his psp and is envious of it.
@GardenGerty (100380)
• United States
27 Dec 12
It often puts parents in a bad mood, men especially, when the kids are crying. At five years old he does not need a PSP. He is crying more because you are trying to reason with him. He is too young for logic. Because you are reasoning with him he thinks he can convince you to change your mind.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
and he did it again this morning, my son i mean.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
I agree with your opinion not to spoil your kid. I am having this problem with my second son- his father spoiled him and now I am suffering the consequences. Discipline the kid as early as possible by making them realize that material things (and other unnecessary things) must be set aside for a reason. I am sure your son will understand, talk to him once again and let him speak his mind :)
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
I will try and talk to him, i have a plan in my mind and i really hope it will work.
@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 12
hi jazel_juan, don't worry... kids are like that, they will get over it very fast. who knows your kids will be smiling happily enjoying some other things by the time you arrive home?
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
crossing my fingers for that joy!