how can there be so strong people?

Bulgaria
December 28, 2012 8:27am CST
How can there be so strong people? All day be smiling and pretend to be happy and go to sleep at night crying? so I ask friends. I am one of these people and wonder how I and how did all day I'm smiling to care for her husband for their children and then go to sleep but cry of many insoluble problems. you explain what you do?
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@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
28 Dec 12
Believe it or not, most of the people that you see in your day to day life are like this, there are a few who can share their feeling but rest of them just go smiling. Most of us have got problems which we know is not easy to deal with but still we take our lives on daily basis and wait for something good to happen. Now that you've mentioned it here we know that you have problems and you are sad inside but to those who see you in daily life, you'll be just another happy person. Every one is unhappy due to some reason, this is what life is where we have two choices, either we can worship god, believe in him and continue to have faith in him till the end or we can get stuck with these worldly problems and spend our life in grief. Actually, sometimes I think, happiness is a virtual word, no one is happy still we have this word in our dictionary just to elude us. Don't feel bad about life, have your priorities set and fight for your priorities and believe in God.
• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
written very true. It's true. during the day are bright smiling and everyone who sees us what you said smiling and happy person but actually when you look deep into the eyes sees a sadness. Only true friends see this sadness and then if you have let them know if they do not understand. Thanks for the reply. sealants faith in God helps and I hope it will help me to give me the right solution!
• India
28 Dec 12
Faith in god does not reduce the number of problems in our, it gives us the patience and courage to overcome such problems.
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• Bulgaria
29 Dec 12
so. faith in God sometimes you just can not do so as we open and show us the right way. Thanks for the reply!
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
I think, this kind of person is not that really strong but a pretentious one. What she was doing was very hard, pretending that she was alright but deep inside she was being hurt and not really in good condition.Better to show what really the feelings are, be it sad or happy. Life is like a wheel, take time to cry and be happy. WE cannot do anything for that but to accept it.
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• Bulgaria
17 Mar 13
sometimes it all depends on how strong or not. maybe the power is expressed precisely in not loaded ostnalati with your personal problems. while on the other hand it's a mistake because the body everything inside and trot out alone sometimes end up in a deep hole and very difficult to escape from there. thanks for the reply. nice day!
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
30 Dec 12
You are right if the person is smiling or laughing in front of the people means not they cant cry. Many times He/she cry and think about their problems but not show in the public.
• Bulgaria
30 Dec 12
I am. always smiling and always with a smile gift someone but when it comes to my soul there, she was crying uncontrollably and suffer because you can not share what I feel and it's very heavy!
@else22 (4319)
• India
29 Dec 12
Hi friend,welcome to India.I invite you to visit my country at least once,if possible.You will find here women who are unbelievably strong.They get up before the sunrise and keep working till late night.They take care of their husbands and children,work in the fields with men,cook for the entire family and go to bed after finishing all other household chores.Visit Indian villages.You will certainly be surprised to see how strong and hard working Indian women are. As you know,I am a male who has been surrounded with problems.I work hard to sustain my family amidst all troubles and keep smiling and try my best to cheer up my family by smiling as if nothing has happened and everything is alright.
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• Bulgaria
30 Dec 12
Hello friend I'd like to visit your country but this needs money that I have. is probably when nyamma loans and everything ranked slightly better I will visit India. I'm glad you have such strong women because it gives me faith and strength to live to be able to deal with the problems. I'm glad you wrote to me again. I wish you and you should have no problems.
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Most of the times, we hide our agony... We keep on pretending that we are fine, that we are okay. Pretending we are happy even not. Well, I understand what you feel and it is so hard to bear this 'insoluble problem'... Why don't you talk to someone whom you can trust? Sometimes, talking means everything. But if you don't want the people surrounds you knows this pain you get through then rest assured because crying ease the pain... Sooner or later, the pain will subside and you will never cry anymore for all of this will be part of the past.
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• Bulgaria
30 Dec 12
and I want to share with someone but did not seem to laugh. The question I have is that loans can not cover and I am very afraid for these loans but do not know nobody. difficult for me but I hope this new year will bring me more money and I can repay them will work much and everything just to not have these problems and I want my kids to have a beautiful and bright future. nice day!
@Otanetix (509)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I think people can be strong because they believe they need to be. If they have family to look after, they need to appear strong as a role model. Otherwise, your family members will react to your sadness. Also, when we try to make an effort to be strong, we learn to move forward despite our obstacles we face everyday. If we stay put and just pity ourselves, we would not progress or gain anything. We need to move forward no matter what. I know that might seem easier said than done. But you should at least try first. If you keep falling, just keep standing up.
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• Bulgaria
29 Dec 12
everyone is trying to be strong simply because you can not be without problems. to be strong because this is our life and our close people should show weak because it will hurt gshti. I hold to be strong for my kids, they are the mainstay of my life. thanks for the reply. nice day!
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
We do not live in a perfect world. And no matter how much we try to make all things perfect for us, still, it is not enough. We get to show people that we are fine because we do not want them to be involved in our dilemma. We so not want them to get worried about us. We'd rather keep the pain to ourselves and pray that hopefully everything will be alright without them knowing what caused our pain.
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• Bulgaria
29 Dec 12
's really true what you wrote. each of us has a dilemma myself because everyone has problems. difficult in this world to live without having the problems but unfortunately true. you just have to be optimistic. nice day! Thanks for the reply.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
29 Dec 12
you sound like you need to speak with someone that is not in your everyday life. i know how it feels to have people in your life, but have some much on your heart that you have no one to share it all with. this is why i come to mylot. although this may not be enough. i don't know. perhaps you need to talk to a professional is this continues. it can spiral downward until you can't even get out of bed. please don't punish yourself during your stressful times. do things to take care of yourself. do things nice for yourself each and every single day. always remember no problem is insoluble, it's just that we haven't figured out the answer to the problem yet. good luck to you my friend, and be well.
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• Bulgaria
29 Dec 12
Thanks for the nice words friend. is really important to be yourself and be able to speak with someone to share their problems and be able to express their pain. because sometimes it is difficult to talk to your relatives about these things. thanks for the reply. Happy New Year I wish you health, happiness and good luck!
@nani4ajay (108)
• India
28 Dec 12
Yes there are some strong people who face all the difficulties with a smiling face, my mother was a best example for me, she struggled a lot, my father never supported her she is being an illiterate encouraged me to study up to post graduation level, I surprised for her strong personality, life made her strong, she never loses faith tells me one day god will make you hero for your hard work and strength that you posses. I know the struggle behind the strong persons I admire those people who are strong.
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• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
I'm trying to force only because of my two children are twins s are my whole life. my sense of my existence. If they were not, I just will not be as strong. I have a lot of loans and hope to get them to pay a little help financially from somewhere because I just can not handle. but I believe that I can do and God will be with me! Thanks for the reply. nice day!
• China
28 Dec 12
Dear nezavisima I am a Chinese,my English is not very well.but when I looked your discussion,I really want to help you with standing your life,standing your heart..in our life various adverse must be faced .good luck I believe you can deal with it..praying you
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• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
No problem, I knew it really is a friend. It is very difficult to have so many loans and are now resting and I was a little bit I have to back the loans and interest rates are high and try to hold on but I feel that now crash. Thanks for the reply!
• United States
28 Dec 12
Talk it out here and we will try to make you feel better. If not find someone in your life you can talk to and see what you can deal with after that. good luck..
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• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
this is a very right decision. every time I write here I feel much better if a stone fell from my heart. thanks for the reply.