First Impressions ...Often Worst Ones

Thiruvananthapuram, India
December 30, 2012 3:46am CST
It is usually perceived that in life's meetings with new people first impression is regarded as the best impression. However this turns much different in many situations. Things are often much more different than what we are experiencing in day today life conditions. It is much likely that first impressions go wrong and turn out to be the worst ones.It is always be aware of this while getting along with people especially strangers.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 12
First impression counts a lot but can be very deceiving. I was once assigned to interview new recruit for our estate managerial post. There were five who came for the interview. Everyone was appropriately dressed for the interview except for one guy who wore khaki pants and wasn't dressed for the occasion. I put him last on the list to be interviewed by the CEO as I don't see he has what it takes to be an estate manager. When his turn came. I asked him how he could manage a big oil palm plantation. I was not only shocked but embarrassed that he has a string of degrees in agriculture which I myself. Know nuts about. I passed him to our CEO for the next round of interview. His shabbiness does not equal his qualifications as he is a down to earth man and my first impression of him was totally misguided. He got the job in the end
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@savak03 (6681)
• United States
30 Dec 12
It is a wonder he got the job since he didn't see the need to present himself in the best light. I know it is unfair but it is true that we are judged by how we look more than what we know. For instance, no matter how smart a woman is or how fast she can type if she applies for a position as secretary or receptionist she has to be good looking.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
31 Dec 12
I agree very much. People often decide very quickly what they think of people. I have been a victim of that on many occasions as I am sure many people have. People often develop ideas based on stereo-types and that can really cause people to miss out on the person the other really is.
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@Metatronik (5910)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 Dec 12
I believe that is case to case basis scenario because at times there are first impression that will still change our mind if it is good or not. I've encountered several impressions that sometimes it makes me realize that I was wrong but there are times that it was horrible but then there are successful which indeed I retain it.
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• China
31 Dec 12
In my mind,I think for those good looking people,usually they will have good first impressions,but for most of the normal looking people,usually they can not get a good first impressions but after some days get along people will feel good about them,so I think what you mean usually for those normal looking people because we need time to recognize them.
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@drannhh (15044)
• United States
31 Dec 12
This is true in my experience as I have been inclined to be friends with a few people who turned out to be unworthy and also there have been a very few who made a poor first impression on me but later on became very nice friends. The one I remember best was a woman whom I avoided because she had a habit of smoking and I just did not want to be around her because of the smell. Later on she quit her habit and we became quite good friends.
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@cupkitties (6908)
• United States
31 Dec 12
Going by first impressions is definitely wrong because we don't know what has happened to that person before meeting us, but most people do it any way. Our minds might be changed later, but first impressions tend to stick with some people even after being proven differently. I think because those people aren't willing to admit they were mistaken.
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• United States
31 Dec 12
Can a poor first impression be rectified? A person's situation or circumstances at the time didn't look so good. However, in the big picture, this person is quite nice, friendly, has good manners, dresses appropriately, etc. Can the first impression be erased? My first impressions of people haven't always been accurate -- sometimes the first impression was good and turned sour. Other times I didn't like the first impression, yet upon knowing the person better, I really liked her and we became friends.
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@Arieles (2474)
• United States
31 Dec 12
I have met people who have made great first impressions, but after getting to know them, they were not the person I thought they would be. I think the saying really is, you only get one chance to make a first impression so make it a good one. It's up to you to change that impression if it is important to you. That's when you can say "we started off on the wrong foot!"
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
30 Dec 12
First impressions are not necessarily the best ones although we try to make them so. First impressions are always the ones most remembered. That is why so much emphasis is placed on putting your best foot forward on first meetings.
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@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
Some people can really be impressive on the first meeting. They really work hard to give you that impression. However, one cannot forever hide his true self. Thus, in a little while the first impression often is wrong.
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@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
As what they say, first impression lasts! But not true to all. Chinese people have this characteristics. I was once work in Taiwan which was ruled by Chinese/Taiwanese, first impression for them is very important. Once they don't like you in first meeting, they would never like you til the end. So sad. Personally, as I grow matured, I learned a lot of things and now, instead of judging people I realized that as human being, we are innate good. Some maybe bad for our eyes but if we dig deeper why they acted that way then that's the time that we truly understood why and why.
@Ahana123 (139)
• India
30 Dec 12
A person may not be judged by his/ her first impression. For example when a person is coming for an interview of job/ dating he/ she would try to present themselves in a manner which may be acceptable to a person on the other side. But actually he/she may not be of the kind in practical life. One should be having the capability of judging people by reading between lines of what they speak / his body language/eye movement to finally come to conclusion.
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@prashu228 (25821)
• India
30 Dec 12
I agree. many times some people may not be able to impress in the first meet but may impress as the tome goes. yes certainly first impression may also turn as worst . so we should be aware of all these while we meet any stranger/s. Everyday is not a lucky day
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@celticeagle (117159)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Dec 12
Yes, it is kind of sad but first impressions do say alot about a person and they really stick. For me my first impression of someone is very hard to change. It is hard for me to change my opinion after I have had a first impression of someone.
• Hungary
30 Dec 12
First impression if indeed important. Many says that outfit does not matter but deep inside even those who say they don't care it makes an opinion based on outfit. The first impression is changed by many factors. If the person who you just met is angry, sad, happy or busy will react different ways.
@prashu228 (25821)
• India
30 Dec 12
Hi i agree yes outfits does matter a lot for the impression. yes our reactions does have any affect on the person we meet in that particular time. so we should be careful and attentive.
@rohanmona (160)
• India
31 Dec 12
First impression is often lasting but can be changed with continuous effort. I agree with you that we need to aware when we meet new people. For me i would just be myself and let them have any impression they have. I don't care if half world don't like me but I would be happy that remaining half world likes me.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
31 Dec 12
I agree with you, a few times i met people didnt like them at first. After seeing them 2nd or 3rd time I realized I was wrong about them.
@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
First impression is important but I do not believe that it is reliable most of the time. I have a lot of friends that I had a bad impression at first. But when I get to know them, they are totally a different person in what I perceived. Lesson learned, I do not want to judge people right away by simple impressions. Happy New Year!
• Howrah, India
30 Dec 12
First impression is not enough to judge a people,but although we get an small idea about the man's behaviour,personality etc and it's matter a lot...