Not because I don’t update my Facebook status means I don't have a life...

Philippines
January 1, 2013 4:17pm CST
I hate it when this happens! Most especially when you bump with people you are affiliated with such as former classmates, batch mates, friends, and far relatives. When you accidentally meet them over public establishments for like at a mall. It’s sometimes irritating when such people would ask if how you are doing with your life. And how come you are not active on the social networking site FaceBook… They then put a stigma that since you are not updating your FaceBook account (posting: photos, wall post, messages) it means that you are not doing most with your life. Have you ever experienced such? Personally, I don’t like such people that depend on social networking and judge you because of your activeness over the site. It’s not that you are not updating means that you are not busy with your life. it just goes to show that you are making serious things in your life by putting reality first rather than wasting over facebooking.
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34 responses
• India
2 Jan 13
Hi friend, agree with you, there is no use in updating our status regularly in fb, i am not interested in such kind of activities, some persons are very much addicted with fb and spend most of their time in fb and thought if some of their friend is not active in fb, they have some health issues or other problems in life. FB is not a measure to know about our activities as well as it is not an attendance to show our presence
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Thanks for your response, such activities should weigh over life and cyberlife but for others, they find it that life is connected to their cyber social life which is so not a good idea to assume on things. Thanks for your response.
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• India
2 Jan 13
Hi heaytheblogger. If i was you then i must be laughing at them instead of feeling angry. Always remember one thing. Never feel bad or angry about something where you have not done anything wrong. It will be just a waste of time. Even my girlfriends keeps on insisting about changing my profile picture. Even I get irritated sometimes. Anyways have a nice day and wish you a very happy new year... -=SuperShames=-
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I am not that mad at them it's just it is so irritating to hear that they depend on Social Networking to judge what you are doing with your life. but anyhow, yeah i've to agree with you... just laugh it out. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Oh, I didn't update my status in Facebook for a couple of months. But last Christmas and New Year, I was able to update my status. I guess if there are no occasions, I won't update at all. LOL. I don't care about people who will judge me by my Facebook account. It's my life, it's not theirs. Happy New Year! Oh, I miss myLot.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
It's my pleasure to leave my response here. If they think that we don't have a life, then let them be. We know ourselves and we know what's going on in our lives. Facebook is not everything.
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
True, FaceBook is not the extension of our life so be it. at the end of the day, we know ourselves better than them. Have a great day!
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
True! bottom line, it's your life and no one can dictate you from what you are doing with it. Happy new year! Thanks for your response.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
2 Jan 13
It has been the other around for me. I have been noticing that others hardly post anything while I have updated on them with whatever has been happening in my life. Since the last two months I have stopped doing it. Others only post forwards there. There is something or the other that goes on in every one's life but they do not want to share!
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
2 Jan 13
FB is meant to share your life with friends specially since these days it is difficult to meet.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Yes it does how the site works but for some of it's users, they put contents that are way overboard. and sometimes they refer to your life activities through the site, but in reality, we have a lot of things to be preocuppied with rather than social networking.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
True, some wouldn't like to put private matters over the social networking site but somehow others find it not good because they can't find what you are doing on your life which is not a good way to assume on things. Thanks for your response.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Funny how some people have that kind of perception with people who are rarely on facebook. When you are rarely on facebook, it means that you have a busy life. I noticed that on facebook, the ones that are always there are those who have nothing to do or are just bored with what they do. Just my opinion, my friend.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Some people have Facebook, to brag where they have been, what they are having for lunch or dinner, so they post all of them .
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Somewhat true, it's quite annoying if they do such posts in a day to day basis. like, who cares about their normal daily activities,.
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Yes some would assume things on facebook by their updates on the site however such people are really hooked on the site that almost they have forgotten to weigh private and internet life. Thanks for your response.
• India
2 Jan 13
I find that such questions arises when a person are not active in Facebook. This is quite usual because social networking site like Facebook had turned out the world. it is loved by every one and surfing it has turned out as an craze for very one but there are some ones like me and you who don't find great with it. It never means that you don't have life it only mean that you don't love it much.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Yeah true, somehow it becomes a necessity to people to use such site in their every day life. however, one should also weigh that they are two completely different world one is online and the other is offline. Thanks for your response.
• United States
2 Jan 13
i get more who grump if i don't visit their page every single day. but they were like that on forums as well. when you get over a certain amount of friends,it's impossible to hit everyone every day.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Well someone people loves seeking attention resulting that they wan't to be noticed on such social networking activities. but somehow, they should also consider that there is other things in life out from the internet. Thanks for your response...
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
a pleasant day to you, with regard to your post, i guess this is the trend. people will give their conclusion based on your appearance on social sites. they will suddenly give comments and reactions once they don't see you actively participating. outlaying some of their not so good comments since you are not visible in the site where they used to. hence, little did they know that you are busy working on other matters. anyway, with those kind of people, i think, just try to ignore them and focus more on what is fruitful for you.
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Yes, agree. it is a trend which some people don't use properly and just think of it as part of their lives, judging someone who's updating more on the social networking site and if one is not that active much, they will assume other things on that person. Thanks for your response.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
You've got one great point! And I agree with what you have said. One does not have to be active in social networking sites just to let the whole world know what he has been doing every single day. It is one's choice. Just as I was reading your post, I remembered one of my friend sent me a message through Whats App. She was asking if I was having problems. Then I said, no and asked her why she asked me that. She said that have been posting sad, hopeful quotes. Well, I just like posting quotes that truly reflects life the way I see it but it doesn't mean I am in a middle of some issues with my marriage.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
True, it's your choice and no one should judge you in terms of what you are doing with your life regardless if its online of offline. it's about time people should get over and think that internet and real life is two different worlds. Thanks for your response.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I feel you! I used to be like that to one of my friend because I haven't seen her for a long time. I used to be very judge-mental over her. :)
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Barbie Foteza? seriously? the celebrity... wow, you got huge friends over facebook anyhow, people should not judge over people in terms of updating or not updating such social network because that doesn't count on what we do in our own private lives. Thanks for your response.
• United States
2 Jan 13
I haven't really encountered this, ut it would be annoying also. I update a lot on facebook but for me it's more for the games. I do like to postbif I have a girls night, or vacation photos though.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I don't normally update my facebook through what activities i am engage with but rather connecting with my friends through facebook search but not really in a way that i am judging their lives through their activeness on the site. Thanks for your response.
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• South Africa
2 Jan 13
I completely agree with you. When Facebook first started I was addicted, as most people were. Every time I breathed I would make sure the world would know. And I added anyone and everyone who wanted to be "friends". It got so bad that the first thing I would do when I wake up is see who's updated what.... I couldn't believe it. These are people that I haven't spoken to in years, and now all of sudden my life revolved around their updates. And none of their updates included chatting with me, or emailing me, so i made the decision to delete my account. Funnily enough, did you know that your account NEVER gets deleted. Facebook tells you that when you try to delete, that we won't delete it, if you ever change your mind just log back with your same details!!! Insanity. So since I can't delete my account I deleted all my "friends" and am now only connected to my family, and only IMMEDIATE family, who are spread around the world.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
So true, way before FaceBook was so new that i also put a lot of contents because there weren't that much enough activity over the social networking site but for some reasons i got fed up with the hype and just live normally although i don't usually put a lot of content over the site to publicly put my life with. it is somehow annoying for some people that they assume a lot of things over your life by judging on your contents over the site. Thanks for your response.
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• Malaysia
2 Jan 13
Hello, heaytheblogger.=) For me, people who keep posting status and obsessed with Facebook are those who are lifeless.no worries my friend.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Not only "Obsessed" they want to gain a lot of popularity over their facebook friends which is so not a good idea to think over the site. Thanks for your response.
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2 Jan 13
This happens with me every week...
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Oh really? Thanks for your response.
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• United States
2 Jan 13
I agree. Just because I don't update my Facebook every five minutes, doesn't mean that I don't have a life. I have to take care of my grandmother, I like to read, I like to exercise, I like to play Marvel Avengers Alliance, I love to watch television and movies for a bit, and if I have work or classes, then of course, I go to work and I go to classes. I also spend time with my boyfriend, my three cats, I like to shop when I have the cash to do so, and love listening to music. Honestly, much of my life is outside of Facebook in the real world. Yes, I have Facebook, but I only update my Facebook when I feel that I need to.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
True, we should separate reality over cyberspace. but somehow some are hooked to the site that they pay much information on what contents they are putting in there. Thanks for your response.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
What? Just because they are free to boast about their travels, new acquisitions, latest boyfriends, gigs, etc. does not mean that they are already doing well in life. They could be hiding something and are only trying to mask the real story with their conquests and adventures.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
True! i also feel the same, they are boasting some part of their lives that are "happy" and just assume that they are doing well but in the long run they have matters of their own. sometimes it's mind boggling that some people uses the site to just put a little "fame" on their selves. but that doesn't count as a good way to assume on things. Thanks for your response.
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@pokumon (644)
• United States
2 Jan 13
I don't update my status much either and I have never posted a picture on facebook. I actually haven't logged onto the website in a while as well because it can just become a time sink. I also keep getting messaged by one of my college friends who always starts the chat with an annoying "ping?". I just don't have news that I want to share with everybody. The time when I was updating my status the most was when I kept setting my personal records for running a 5K so I updated once or twice a week. Now I am in miserable shape. I don't think your lack of activity means you don't have a life. I think instead it is an indicator that you are a more private person than most. There is nothing wrong with that. I do like going on facebook sometimes, and actually sometimes find out about horrible news stories on it, but it is not an everyday or even every week deal for me.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I don't put my chat status in facebook online because like you, i don't find it reliable as "chatting" in facebook. and yes, dealing with such site should separate your private and your internet life. Thanks for your reply.
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@rodnac (191)
• Australia
2 Jan 13
Actually in my opinion it is the opposite. If you are always on facebook posting and everything means that you don't have a life. People who are not always on facebook usually have better things to do. We are more focus on what is happening in reality. There are so much things in life that we need to focus on and we do not have much time to be in any social networking.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Thanks for your response, so true! we have other things in mind which reality rather than posting useless things and just wasting time over the site.
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@litvillegas (1274)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
I'm also not active in posting wall messages. I only use my account for some important reasons. I don't want to waste my time because I'm very busy making online job. Yeah there are people you are sometimes annoying and keep on asking about faceboook activities. Well, just like last weekend. My friend keeps on asking me why I'm not posting messages on my wall. Well, I just simply answer her I'm too busy to waste my time posting in a social network. It doesn't mean that I'm not using my account it's just like I don't have much time to do it!
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Thanks for your response, very true! we have other things to do rather than just lurking on some social networking site.
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@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
So very true ! I also consider facebook as just a past time thing. Not really a vital in our life. I can stay away from facebook for a week and it is okay for me , no big deal. If i come to visit facebook it is because i am tired thinking and writing in Mylot and other writing sites. Facebook is important to me only during speciall occasions that i liked to connect to important people in my life.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 13
True, people should get over and don't think of the social networking site as their extension of reality. Although the intent is good sometimes people go over board like posting senseless things. Thanks for your response.