He relax and she does all the hard work

@dee777 (1418)
South Africa
January 2, 2013 6:45am CST
This guy's annual leave started a week before Christmas. He is enjoying his time at home with his wife and children since they do not have funds to go away on holiday. He watches TV until 3h in the mornings while drinking beer and then sleeps until 13h the next morning. he sits around the whole day! She cooks, serves food, do dishes and I feel so sorry for this woman.
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10 responses
• Marikina, Philippines
3 Jan 13
Maybe that guy is extreme traditionalists. I mean if a guy is too much traditional according to his belief like a woman should do all the work because that is a job's woman, then it might the reason why he acts that way.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
4 Jan 13
Perhaps he came from a home where him mom did everything for the family. Now he expects his wife to treat him the same. She should have changed that rule the day she married him, hey!
• Marikina, Philippines
8 Jan 13
There is a saying that history repeat itself. If they have a son, he would think that what his father did is normal and it will repeat up to generation. That is difficult to control especially within family generation up to generation. Gosh. He really should changed the rule or else it will affect all his generation especially if they have a son.
• United States
4 Jan 13
If he respected her, he would be helping with the dishes and the children. If he valued his family, he would make a point of going out on a family outing to somewhere inexpensive but fun. Of course, it is this woman who has to be the one to stand up to him and say that things are not okay like that. She has to have enough self-respect to demand that he be a partner in their relationship and an engaged and active father to their children.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
4 Jan 13
You have spell it out brilliantly! It is about respect for each other. If the one partner is a bit of a lazy person, there will be problems!
@misjoseph (162)
4 Jan 13
it happens all the time, when there are lazy type of man in a relationship... a man should me hard working and should be willing to help in the household.... I really feel sorry for this woman as well...
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
4 Jan 13
To me a relationship is about give and take. it just feels wrong if one person should do all the work in the house. If there is enough respect things like this should never happen.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
3 Jan 13
That sort of sounds like my brother's relationship with his wife except in his situation the tables are turned. Both my brother and his wife work outside the house, but his wife is known to take at least two days off of work every month while my brother is typically lucky to have one day off work each week. In addition to his working with mandatory overtime, she also expects him to cook and do the laundry while also taking care of their three daughters. It is pathetic if you ask me.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
4 Jan 13
Hahaha - pathetic, yes! We sometimes allow these kind of things to happen. But then again when a person gets into a relationship one would imagine it is a give and take of both parties.
• China
3 Jan 13
He just treats her as a baby-sister I think.But when we accuse him,we need to think about the problem of his wife.She is willing to be a housekeeper than a wife.She indulges him too much so that he always thinks that it is a matter of course.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
4 Jan 13
Yeah, perhaps she has created this 'monster' by serving him all the time over the years. Perhaps she gets what she deserves by spoiling him rotten!
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Hi Dee, I feel sorry for the wife. I mean, he was on leave the whole time...so she should definitely help his wife with all the chores... My dad is sometimes lazy but there would be times that he would just cook something for us. And yeah, I forgot about his daily chores on sweeping our backyard. I guess, my dad still helps my mom with the chores..And me and my sisters are also helping our mom. Is it from your experience?
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
4 Jan 13
I do not think it has anything to do with experience. A person helps because he cares for the next. That is how I feel. Your dad is great to support your mom. It is the right thing to do.
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
a sort of same story as mine. I serve aS a mother and father of my daughter.but I still find time to go outside and eat.The father of my daughter is very lazy and whenever I am trying to correct him it only leads in beating me. He is opposite of mine.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
3 Jan 13
This is a huge problem all over the world. Mothers/wives are constantly fighting to keep things going at home, while the fathers are non-existent. I can just imagine what a wonderful world this will be when ALL THE MEN/FATHERS get from their behinds and accept their role as M-A-N! Such action WILL change the entire nation my friend.
@jaiho2009 (38820)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Some husband/guy are really inconsiderate when it comes to their partners. As if their wife/partners are slaves who should do all the things for them. I pity the wife for having an inconsiderate husband.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
3 Jan 13
Same here - I really pity those poor women. It is so rude to act that way and being so inconsiderate.
• China
2 Jan 13
Yes, the woman is so poor, she needs to do everything in the house, from cooing to washing, but the man even doesn't give her a hand. I think that if the wife cooks the meal, then the husband should clean the bowls and kitchen, it is fair.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
2 Jan 13
Yeah, it is fair, but he is just a lazy bum and I wish I could tell him that. he believes he should be served all the time while having fun in front of the TV watching sport and movies!
@mdorki (125)
• Germany
2 Jan 13
Sounds like he doesn't consider his wife's feelings. That guy should at least do the dishes and clean up if he doesn't know how to help her cook. I always do at least that much for my mother (I do not have a family of my own yet, so I spend holidays with my parents).
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
2 Jan 13
He is so self centered. He thinks the world revolves around him alone.