I am annoyed when freinds do the same thing

United States
January 2, 2013 4:09pm CST
I get annoyed when I heard the same complain over and over from the same person . I just think if you keep having poor judgement cant you just keep it to yourself !!? I hate the first thing I hear when I see them is the same complain that they keep repeating , I now just repeat what I say every time also , since its the same thing nothing ever change with them . How do you deal with people like that ? they never take responsibility for what happen to them , they are always the victim !!
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11 responses
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Jan 13
It happened to me last month. They are 5 persons whom a very dependent to me. They are my future staff abroad. They complain the government because of delayed processing our papers. The disgusting things for me, they always called me on phone and make a follow-up which I am not liable on it. I am not the one who process their papers. Last week, they called me more than 30 times and I didn't answered.
• United States
3 Jan 13
Lol those 5 person sound like some work ,,, they call more than 30 times , they dont stop after the first 10 unanswered called .
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Jan 13
Again, today they start disturbing me. Send SMS many time asking something about job application
@echoforever (5192)
• United States
3 Jan 13
I used to be one of those people in a way. I was afraid of change so when I complain and someone would tell me how to fix it, I never would because I was afraid to. Maybe that is why they do this too.
• United States
3 Jan 13
Well that could be the case with this person too , they always say ok next time and it never come . IO wish my friend would change because she need to .
• United States
4 Jan 13
I hope that she can as well, positive change is so good for you, you will never be the same.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
3 Jan 13
Well, you should know that I know people such as you described in your discussion. These people are constantly complaining, and mostly believe them to be always in the right. While in the wrong, they only ever see the others! Now I wonder: It is possible that sometimes these people do a self-analysis of consciousness to understand that sometimes they make mistakes? Unfortunately this does not happen. This is why when I hear the opinions of all "out of place", I'm quiet and rest of my idea. Otherwise I would have to argue about a lot of things!
• United States
3 Jan 13
Yeah they are always right , and the mistake is never their fault but yet it keep happening to them . Nice question , I also wonder this ... do they ever take the time out to do self-analysis . Thanks for your respond
@aero89 (422)
• United States
3 Jan 13
I would say to just become more vague, like saying "yeah, that [complaint] stinks" or "I really don't know what to tell ya" - things that aren't personal opinions. Avoid giving advice or giving the impression that you care too much. Sounds harsh but the habitual complainer is never happy anyway, so use your caring and advice on someone who appreciates it.
• United States
3 Jan 13
I like that idea lol maybe they will stop and see that I really want to stop hearing the same thing . My friend always say next time I will do that but never did .
• China
3 Jan 13
I also dislike the one who keeps complaining all the time.When I chat with her,she just repeats something I already knew by heart.It would be too negative,and make me begin to escape from her.Because I am afraid that this kind of mood would have some bad impact on me as well.It is contagious.I really hate it.
• United States
3 Jan 13
Lol its does get old when you keep hearing the same thing .I also dont like the negative , I also feel it may affect me and I dont want that at all .
• India
3 Jan 13
Hi friend, i too hate such kind of persons, there is no use in complaining about the same thing again and again, we must find out the solution for our problem and solve it with our effort, instead of complaining about it. If the fault is from our side, we must try our maximum to rectify our fault than complaining
• United States
3 Jan 13
Exactly why complain about something , that you keep repeating over and over after saying next time will be different ! I agree if the fault is from our side we have to try and solved it and stop complaining , learn from it and move on .
@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
3 Jan 13
I would usually ask, what is the problem? Then I would try to analyze with them. There are times that they really don't know what is the problem. Sometimes what they are complaining about is an effect of a problem and by sharing some ideas, we could be able to identify which is the real problem. And from there we can be able to get the solution. Have a nice day!
• United States
3 Jan 13
Lol we are way pass the analyzing stage , they know the problem and they keep saying the going to change but never did ... Thank you , have a nice day also
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
3 Jan 13
I have a neighbor who is always complaining and is soooo negative. We live in a nice neighborhood and yet, he complains about it. Don't know what his problem is. Just a grumpy old man, I suppose. He really doesn't do anything constructive with his life. So, I just do my best to leave him alone, don't want to hear his negativity anymore. Yes, some people just vent. They really don't want to make the effort to move on with life. Nothing you can do except enjoy life. My husband and I went to a neighborhood New Year's Party and had a blast. We see the best in our neighborhood and grateful to be here, and are having fun. Lots to do and enjoy. Too bad this neighbor misses out but that is his problem, not mine. I appreciate the rest of the neighbors and look for the best in what we have.
• United States
3 Jan 13
I think people that always have something negative to say is the worse to spend time around because you can feel the negativity just by sitting around them . I dont know why some people feel the need to always have complain . Well you did the right thing , you see the good while your neighbor can only see the bad so its his lost . Continue to enjoy life and have a good day .
• United States
2 Jan 13
In my experience, many people THRIVE when they have problems. They also like to see how far they can go to be understood. They sometimes want you to think they are strong simply because they have been through "so much"! This kind of person is the same kind of person who you do everything to avoid because you don't want to be the "strong" person to hold them up. You can't change this person, however you can change how this person is around YOU. You didn't specify what you always say, but I am sure it is out of empathy, sympathy, and inviting them to share more to you. The best way to get out of this situation without hurting feelings or losing a friend would be to be honest. If you aren't the type of person to tell them what they are doing wrong, tell them you don't want to hear about that anymore. It may startle them at first that you are saying this to them. But they will find something else to say next time, just to avoid that awkward moment again.
• United States
3 Jan 13
I tell the the truth and that they need to stop being like that but after the first couple time I just say ok do what you feel since they always do . I would tell them my input and they would say i will do that next time and they never did and then they keep repeating the same thing and not learning from their mistake . I think I will have to go with what you mention next time " I dont want to hear that anymore" .. Thank you for your respond
@Gin_loo (35)
• United States
15 Jul 13
Fix it and do something what they had done!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Jan 13
My best friend seems like she is always complaining about the same thing in her life and yet she really is not doing anything to change the issues that she is having in her life. So when she calls me to complain about the issues that she is having with her boyfriend, I will listen to her and when she asks for my input, I will tell her that she really needs to think about what is best for her. Of course she doesn't do it and then a couple weeks later I will be hearing the same complaints from her again.