Love or Commitment?

@quieley (319)
Philippines
January 3, 2013 11:56pm CST
What is more important to you? I have failed relationships before. I knew I have loved them. But I never experience to be in any of those relationships for a longer period of time. Until I met my husband. We have no love for each other when we started our relationship. But we're happy being together - as bestfriends. He's my mentor, and my adviser. But before we started, we made a commitment. That no matter what happen, we will always be together. We experienced the ups and downs of any relationship. But I'm thankful that we are still together for how many years now. One thing is for sure - feelings may come and go, but if you commit your relationship to God, it can lasts a lifetime.
5 responses
@mythociate (15189)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
17 Apr 13
That's right! Asking whether I'd rather have love or commitment is like asking whether I'd rather have 'a pretty color quicksand beneath me' or 'a firm foundation.' I'd be like, "I'm glad we enjoy each other when you're here, babe, but I need someone whom I KNOW is gonna be here when I need `em!"
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
for me i think this two words are connected to each other,because one you love someone you will put commitment to that person no matter what happen,and most of the couple who have successful relationship are those who really loyal and love their partner so the relationship usually stay healthy.
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• United States
9 Jan 13
They are equally important to me. What I want in a life partner is love AND commitment. What brought you and your husband together, to decide to make this lifelong commitment to one another? Here in the US, people tend to marry for love. Of course, there's always people who marry for money; arranged marriages are uncommon. I don't think that I could spend a lifetime with someone without love.
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• St. Peters, Missouri
4 Jan 13
I have to have both. I've been in relationships with every possibility - with just love but no commitment, with commitment and no love, and with both. I am a very unhappy person in either of the first two relationships. Even when my partner is my best friend, I grew unhappy. When I grew unhappy, I also became clinically depressed. Not going there ever again. The only relationships, since becoming an adult, that didn't end with me in depression were the ones that had both love and commitment. No one can convince me that I should have stayed in the relationships when they were causing clinical depression - even though one was my marriage.
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• United States
4 Jan 13
LOve and commitment are both important to me. and I would never marry a man I did not love with my whole heart. never.
@quieley (319)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
there is love involve..but sometimes due to some circumstances we thought we lose our love to our partner..I believe feelings may come and go...but what keeps me holding to that relationship is my commitment..
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• United States
4 Jan 13
well that is the case with me as well. but,if the love was to go then so would i because I only live once.
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