are you the discipliner or the spoiler? / myLot

Kenya

January 4, 2013 12:51am CST

i find it amusing at the roles my husband and i play as parents.He will hardly ever want to be the bad or hard stand parent.My kids have now learnt to manipulate him for whatever they want.with me they know i will say No and it stays at that.Their dad will keep bending the rules.if they go shopping with him they get to pick what they want,if they are left with him they even choose their menu,but with me i make the rules stick and rarely bend them,what kind of parent are you,one who plays the good or the bad?

3 responses

Jenny1015

@jenny1015 (13366)

• Philippines

4 Jan 13

I can see now how times have changed. I have noticed that husbands before could be stricter than their wives over their children. But nowadays, mothers tend to be more of the disciplinarian. That is how it goes in our household. So sometimes, kids would see me as the enemy. And I hate it when my husband does not side with my decisions.

pomwango

@pomwango (1353)

• Kenya

4 Jan 13

very true,in my days ,dad's were to be feared and even asking from him anything was hard we did it through mum.its tough when he spoils the kids because they know there is always a short cut to rules.

Jenny1015

@jenny1015 (13366)

• Philippines

5 Jan 13

Yeah, that's true. But really, both parents should be of the same "wavelength" in instilling discipline towards their children. Children should respect their parents' decision. And if one parent says no, the other parent should stick with the decision of the other.

devonavis

@devonavis (1854)

• Greece

4 Jan 13

I'm not a parent yet but I think I will be the discipliner type of parent. My parents are both disciplinarians and that is why I'm a good boy now haha!

pomwango

@pomwango (1353)

• Kenya

4 Jan 13

when you become a parent you may fall in this spot,especially dad's are so easily manipulated by their daughters so make sure you let us know when you get there.

Iriene88

@Iriene88 (5343)

• Malaysia

4 Jan 13

Hahaha ... it seems my husband and I are playing nice. No good guy or bad guy. So far so good! My son is quite obedient and he did not take advantage of buying expensive things, but lately he did buy something expensive and I asked him to use his own pocket money so that he will learn to take care of it and appreciate it more. The reason he buy it because he need it for his project and it need to be good quality to have a good output, so I allowed it. I normally will explain why it shouldn't be that so that he will understand...

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pomwango

@pomwango (1353)

• Kenya

4 Jan 13

lucky you,if you remain on the same side it will be so easy telling your son anything but if one plays soft then kids learn to take advantage.