are you the discipliner or the spoiler?
January 4, 2013 12:51am CST
i find it amusing at the roles my husband and i play as parents.He will hardly ever want to be the bad or hard stand parent.My kids have now learnt to manipulate him for whatever they want.with me they know i will say No and it stays at that.Their dad will keep bending the rules.if they go shopping with him they get to pick what they want,if they are left with him they even choose their menu,but with me i make the rules stick and rarely bend them,what kind of parent are you,one who plays the good or the bad?
4 Jan 13
I can see now how times have changed. I have noticed that husbands before could be stricter than their wives over their children. But nowadays, mothers tend to be more of the disciplinarian. That is how it goes in our household. So sometimes, kids would see me as the enemy. And I hate it when my husband does not side with my decisions.
5 Jan 13
Yeah, that's true. But really, both parents should be of the same "wavelength" in instilling discipline towards their children. Children should respect their parents' decision. And if one parent says no, the other parent should stick with the decision of the other.
4 Jan 13
Hahaha ... it seems my husband and I are playing nice. No good guy or bad guy. So far so good! My son is quite obedient and he did not take advantage of buying expensive things, but lately he did buy something expensive and I asked him to use his own pocket money so that he will learn to take care of it and appreciate it more. The reason he buy it because he need it for his project and it need to be good quality to have a good output, so I allowed it. I normally will explain why it shouldn't be that so that he will understand...